Has anyone else lost the will to care?

[whatToDoHerre]

I have. I barely care about anything anymore. I don't know what we are fighting for - if this is life then is it worth living? We are not living, we are only existing at this point.

We could be in for months and months of restrictions and there's even talk of a third lockdown. Because the first two worked so well?

In a few short months a whole year of our lives will have been restricted.

If there is light at the end of this tunnel it's a very long tunnel, and I don't think we've travelled very far.

Yes I can’t be doing with it anymore. I’m meeting up with friends on Saturday - one of them is very vulnerable and close to breaking point and I’m happy to take the risk of covid to see her.

The vaccine to me is another red herring. What's the point of it at all if it won't change how we live? Social distancing here to stay - Fuck right off. We've been strung along like rabbits waiting for a carrot. All I can see we have proved is that lockdowns or whatever you want to call them in this country haven't worked. That we are saving a tiny proportion (and the majority of older people that I have spoken to are sick of it all and bc just want to get on with seeing family as who knows what could happen to them ie hit by a bus the tests are a load of shite and give lots of false readings. I don't trust the numbers, the fact that supposedly hospitals are full. Then what the fuck was the point of the nightingale hospitals. Wancock, shitty and his friends are out to petrify anyone they can. I said to my dh I reckon they all go in a room and laugh their heads off after. It's absolutely ridiculous the lot of it and I was very scared at the beginning but after all these lies and endless droning on and on I've become sterile to it and wish someone would make them accountable for it and tell them to get lost. As soon as I see any of them on the TV I start shouting at them, Hilary the doom and gloom forelord. Morgan the MSM shit stirrer, Wancock the most petulant man I have ever seen and as for Shitty-he needs his batteries replacing. As for Bojo he needs to be removed and dumped on an island far away. It's like a bloody Eton boys jaunt for him and why does he always look like he's going to laugh - the smug, smuggety fucker 😡
Dh thinks I need to stop letting it get to me, but my mental health is shot, I'm fed up of feeling like I'm in a zombie apocalypse (although that maybe more interesting tbh) it's like ducking Groundhog Day and I'm sick of it

Ducking Groundhog Day - brilliant typo there 🤪

My world has shrunk to my immediate family and I've stopped caring about much else. The death figures don't faze me because the people don't feel like anything to do with me thanks to social distancing. The people I see in the street don't feel real anymore.

A very refreshing thread ..... although sad too because all this crap is taking its toll on people.

Whoever mentioned the thread about the 13 year old who was locked in their room for two weeks.......the responses (or some of them anyway) were scary.

I think somewhere recently I talked about the hysteria that's been created by govt and media. I was shot down with a FFS for that comment.

What happened to "flatten the curve, world beating track trace, Ppe, moonshot, 100,000 tests a day, follow the science, protect the NHS (meanwhile cancer patients etc get delays in treatment/diagnosis????
Dentists not seeing patients for anything other than emergencies... the backlog is horrendous. One of my dds needs urgent treatment and has been told because of this it now could be 3 years!
Another of my dds is autistic and has very challenging behaviour- the support before was minimal it's non existent now. She is all over the place emotionally as routines are gone and she has struggled so much. Carers have had a real rough ride during this and not a shot given by our beloved government.

I've worked 5 weeks since March. We only opened our cafe October 2019. I'm in a tier 3 area which has been pretty much constantly under heavy restrictions. I have 3 dcs who are young adults in their late teens and early 20's. I hate seeing them so fed up. They all have lots of mates and live for their social lives, so this constant lockdown is seriously effecting their mental health. I should be in the US with the love of my life but I am thousands of miles away from him. To say I'm over this Covid shit is a massive understatement. I'm off to the gym.

Sick of it. I don't trust any government. I'm concerned as to their rules. They make no sense. Close all hospitality (when they've invested fortunes in social distancing tables, screens, apps, table service, one way systems, sanitiser, staff in masks, only drink with food) yet allow salons and hairdressers to operate?
Personal services are pretty close up.
Just seems that they are trying to eradicate anything involving alcohol and British culture. Why?
I'm really worried about secondary education. It's not happening here and the home learning is pretty non existent.
Jobs for my kid from 16? Won't be pt bar or shop work, what will they do to earn money? They're not all Einstein 🙄

I volunteer at a mental health charity. Our phone lines are overwhelmed at the moment, like never ever before.

It’s so greatly distressing hearing how many people are at breaking point at the moment and can’t carry on with these restrictions. Talking to people who are at the point of taking their own lives because of the loneliness and fear they are facing is becoming so hugely overwhelming and concerning in numbers. I end each shift shaking and in tears.

Governments and the people with the “I’m alright Jack” attitude who are accusing desperate people of being granny killers are not seeing the real picture. The biggest and most worrying thing this pandemic will see is the rise in mental health issues and suicide rates. Because believe me it’s already happening.

I am with everyone else on this thread. We simply can not be expected to carry on existing this way much longer. Not with something that is as weak a threat to humanity as COVID-19.

@UncomfortableSilence don't leave your dm alone at Christmas. Fuck the rules.

I wish people in the community would stop getting tested unless they are sure they might have it as a way to protest since even that is banned . Then the only figures the doom squad could rely on would be actual cases in hospitals or care homes. In March and April it was all about the deaths, now it’s all about the cases but many cases doesn’t necessarily mean dire straits for the hospitals because of the fact that so many people can easily cope with covid without any medical requirement. Even if people end up in hospital there is still a decent survival rate and one of the main reasons hospitals are over capacity is because half the staff are off quarantining “in case” they might develop it.
We’ve all lived through this long enough by now to be able to make our own decision about whether we visit our elderly relatives or any vulnerable people if we have any symptoms or know we might have been exposed and surely that is the sensible way of trying to reduce spread. Does it really matter if it spreads round younger parts of the population if we all adopted this decision making process?

In my area it is almost now more common for me to hear of or know people that have had covid than not, including myself, and I still don’t know anyone who has needed any medical intervention. Personally I have honestly felt worse after a heavy night on the wine. I know it affects people differently and perhaps I should count myself lucky but then my experience is in line with everybody else that I know of who’s had it. And guess what Twat Hancock, when I had it, I stayed at home until I was properly recovered and turned down meeting up with my older neighbour 10 days after I had recovered just in case - so people can make sensible decisions and try to protect against further spread, who knew!!

I'm glad to see this thread. I now feel desensitised to the constant rolling news and figures for deaths and hospital admissions. I really wonder how people would react if the news published death rates for cancer or flu or suicides etc.

I'm also so surprised just how easily we've given up our civil liberties. It really does show the way to do that is to frighten people rather than maybe more traditional authoritarian approaches. Never could I have imagined that there would be laws about how many people you can have in your own home!

Yes yes yes I'm absolutely fed up. I think I have Covid depression. My life has actually improved hugely on paper this year - graduated with a 2:1 after years of studying, new job, promotion, pay rise, moved to a bigger house and dp moved in with us etc. but I feel nothing. This time last year I was stressing about uni, my shit job, how to fit in all my Christmas plans (ha) and skint, but I was free.

I’d love to know how many people are getting it in hospital. I bet it’s rife.

I also burst out laughing at the ridiculousness of all this when I heard on the news last night that hospitals have LESS beds than even before due to social distancing! I mean is this some kind of joke?!

Agreed. Its insane. And now we have talks of Lockdown 3 and heavy restrictions past Easter (furlough extension). Its really noticeable now where I am how many people are just disengaging from it all - not massive rule breaking, just quietly doing their own thing.

@RockPaperScissorsLizardSpock73

The vaccine to me is another red herring. What's the point of it at all if it won't change how we live? Social distancing here to stay - Fuck right off. We've been strung along like rabbits waiting for a carrot. All I can see we have proved is that lockdowns or whatever you want to call them in this country haven't worked. That we are saving a tiny proportion (and the majority of older people that I have spoken to are sick of it all and bc just want to get on with seeing family as who knows what could happen to them ie hit by a bus the tests are a load of shite and give lots of false readings. I don't trust the numbers, the fact that supposedly hospitals are full. Then what the fuck was the point of the nightingale hospitals. Wancock, shitty and his friends are out to petrify anyone they can. I said to my dh I reckon they all go in a room and laugh their heads off after. It's absolutely ridiculous the lot of it and I was very scared at the beginning but after all these lies and endless droning on and on I've become sterile to it and wish someone would make them accountable for it and tell them to get lost. As soon as I see any of them on the TV I start shouting at them, Hilary the doom and gloom forelord. Morgan the MSM shit stirrer, Wancock the most petulant man I have ever seen and as for Shitty-he needs his batteries replacing. As for Bojo he needs to be removed and dumped on an island far away. It's like a bloody Eton boys jaunt for him and why does he always look like he's going to laugh - the smug, smuggety fucker 😡 Dh thinks I need to stop letting it get to me, but my mental health is shot, I'm fed up of feeling like I'm in a zombie apocalypse (although that maybe more interesting tbh) it's like ducking Groundhog Day and I'm sick of it

Totally agree

“the vaccine might not stop you passing it on” I mean away to fuck! How is that a vaccine then if it doesn’t stop the spread of disease?

@MadameBlobby exactly - a vaccine that doesn't stop the spread or stop you getting it. What's the fucking point? I am very sweaty today so apologies! And yes I understand the flu jab etc but this is just nonsense. A survival rate of over 99% and the whole country comes to a standstill....

@Mads006

Totally lost the will to care yes and shall be crossing borders to go out to eat.

Me too. I very much didn't when I felt tiers were vaguely fair, but now I have no idea why I shouldn't drive half way down the road to a Tier 2 town which actually has a higher rate than my own bloody Tier 3 town (where rates are actually now very low and still falling)

I don't think I've ever resonated with a thread on mumsnet this much. Genuinely relieved to find others who have the same attitude and sense as me

I completely agree with this. I have stopped commenting on most things now because the second you voice anything that isn't STAY THE FUCK AT HOME, etc. you are called selfish (the MOST overused word of 2020) or a murderer.

To be fair, I do remember the CMOs saying some sort of SD measures may be required for a year. I took that as a bit of SD in shops and restaurants etc, not that everything would keep to need shutting down for weeks on end!

If it wasn’t for the fact I didn’t want to risk my elderly parents getting this I too wouldn’t be following the rules any more. It’s a shitshow

@CoronaIsWatching

I don't care about corona anymore, nor brexit. I've accepted that this is just life now; the breakdown of society, of the economy, of the UK. And it's ALL white, straight mens fault.

Why bring race into it?

From the start I've tried to "count my blessings", grateful that I had DC at home, when others couldn't see adult childen, grateful that I had a garden and the summer was glorious, grateful for my secure job etc etc

And still, I know I am fortunate but it's getting harder and harder to see the positives.

Although no one wants to catch Covid, believe me. If this is excitement, I'd rather do without. I have the "mild illness". No one's worried about me but I've been feeling really quite unwell for 2 weeks now and DH was taken to hospital in an ambulance last night - I've no idea what's going on with him and I can't go to see him.

I feel a lot happier since I stopped caring so much.

At some point over the autumn I just stopped caring about any of it.
Bring it on seems to be the general feeling. Whatever you have got it, lets have it now and get it over with.

It has helped a lot planning to see friends and loved ones outside, it is cold and grey but somehow fun. I am making the most of the smallest opportunities to make life as fun as possible. I can't pretend every day I wake up and feel carefree and joyful, but I am making a steady effort to keep my spirits up for my dc, for my family and keep the christmas show on the road.

Keep calm, carry on and don't sweat the small stuff is my motto. Also looking out for those that are struggling more than me.

STAY THE FUCK AT HOME

Thank you for giving me the first laugh of the day MassiveSalad
So true!