Has anyone else lost the will to care?

[whatToDoHerre]

I have. I barely care about anything anymore. I don't know what we are fighting for - if this is life then is it worth living? We are not living, we are only existing at this point.

We could be in for months and months of restrictions and there's even talk of a third lockdown. Because the first two worked so well?

In a few short months a whole year of our lives will have been restricted.

If there is light at the end of this tunnel it's a very long tunnel, and I don't think we've travelled very far.

@MassiveSalad

Yes I was called selfish the other day for wanting to take my 2 and 4 year old to clubs like swimming and football

This isn't a criticism of you ImAllOut but honestly don't garner opinions on here. Just decide for yourself, and do it! I don't get all the "Can I go from T2 to T3, Can I go out for a meal" threads. Of course you are going to get the STFAH (STAY THE FUCK AT HOME) police calling you selfish, they thrive on it. It isn't remotely selfish to want to take your small children to clubs they enjoy, so just crack on. If I was to post a list of all the "rules" i've broken then i'd be lambasted!

And this is the reason we still have the issues and in China life is back to normal. I long for a dose of Chinese style authoritarianism to get people to stick to the rules and get it over with.

I can’t be bothered with any of it. I’ve been seeing my parents all the way through and they will be in my childcare bubble when my baby is born.

I can just about keep the momentum going for myself and to get my family through this. It is what it is and it’s shit. I hate it.

But I hate it enough to do what I have to do to get through to the other side.

What I’ve lost the will with is the constant pessimism and inability of others to see outside their own, very small, lives. The constant demands of other people to be carried through this bullshit when it’s hard enough to keep putting your own feet in front of one another is exhausting. Most people aren’t interested in sharing their worries or problems; they want it to be about them and couldn’t give a shit that they’re sucking the last remaining drops of energy you have and need to keep for other priorities.

I’m so fucking tired but have to keep it together because apparently fewer and fewer people can.

Re Chinese style authoritarianism, you know they're currently busy committing genocide against an entire people right? You're like one of those idiots in the 30s who thought fascism was great because "Hitler really got the unemployment rate down in Germany".

It really isn't. You have to have a virus before you can transmit a virus. I could have any number of viruses at any given time. Nobody cared before, nobody will care after this one stops making headlines.

I also will not be held responsible for stopping a virus doing what they do, despite lockdown after lockdown and restrictions on top of restrictions, and I will certainly not be held responsible for "saving" a NHS that has been underfunded for YEARS and struggles every single winter.

China is quite far to move. You could try Spain? I hear things are going well there after their authoritarianism.

All these people on MN who know 15 people under the age of 40 who have either died or have 'long Covid' hmmm ok

Weird, isn't it. The actual number of people who have lost their lives under 40 (and they are always "gym bunnys") is very very small. Yet everyone on MN knows 3 of them. Almost unbelievable really.

Haven't Leicester been in lockdown since March? How has that worked out for them? Merthyr has had restrictions for most of the year too and has a case rate of over 1000 per 100,000. Viruses spread in spite of restrictions and efforts. It's just all a load of shite.

Also, can't we have just one thread for us? There are literally hundreds of frothing at the mouth, selfish, stay at home etc. threads you could go on and post about chinese authoritarianism. Let us have just one, eh?

We couldn't even have the positivity threads back in March without the doom squad marching in every 5 posts.

I am very cross with the government for failing to sort track and trace effectively. We don't need to be in such a big mess.
And when will we get news on the Oxford vax...

Scary people want us to be like China 😢 that scares me more than the virus, our whole social structure is breaking down, we’re blaming everyone else for lockdown after lockdown, when in reality most people are sticking to the rules. First of all it was up north’s fault it was spreading and then uni students so it was justified to lock them in their rooms, now it’s school children’s fault. I wonder who will get blamed next?

I’m sorry I can’t see life getting back to normal next year or the year after, another virus will come alon, that the vaccine doesn’t work on.

Make the most of every day, do what you can, as life isn’t going back to normal.

While I pretty much stay at home other than supermarket shopping, I've been seeing my parents (at theirs, rather than mine so at least I can keep them away from my kids). They're in their 80s, some of the time it's to fix various technology issues so they're able to do what they can online rather than in person or to drop off things I've collected for them. Other times, it's for a cup of tea.

I feel very sorry for their best friend whose husband died earlier this year and has been in her house without much social interaction for nearly a year now. I can live with the minor annoyances of my kids missing their sports commitments and not being able to eat out, but I feel desperately sorry for elderly people on their own or in care homes.

It was dreary almost like an ongoing nightmare now it is part of my everyday life I've got use to life how I'll get back to normality is another thing.
My MH is intact thankfully I've managed to stay strong despite having a shit year.
I'm not past caring yet I'm still worried for vulnerable family we lost DM to it age 69.
Like everyone I just want it over.
People should risk assess their personal situation and decide from there.

I think that some people actively want the Chinese social credit system. Weird.

And this is the reason we still have the issues and in China life is back to normal. I long for a dose of Chinese style authoritarianism to get people to stick to the rules and get it over with.

This is one of the most frightening and offensive comments I’ve ever read on this site. Do you have the first fucking clue about how China is run? You know they’re imprisoning and killing thousands of people as we speak?

I long for a dose of Chinese style authoritarianism to get people to stick to the rules and get it over with.

This is going to haunt me all day and beyond. Bloody hell.

And this is the reason we still have the issues and in China life is back to normal. I long for a dose of Chinese style authoritarianism to get people to stick to the rules and get it over with.

Oh look, a 'STAY THE FUCK AT HOME' intruder.

What an ignorant, stupid comment. Go and educate yourself and fuck off the thread if you're just going to berate people who have come on here to discuss their struggles

@Cantstandsmugness

I’ve been made redundant, my husbands business is going down the pan. We’ve invested everything into it, we are currently in rented accommodation and basically fucked!! I have been trying to get another job for months and its hopeless. I must spend 5 hours a day applying. I have no idea how we are going to get out of this mess. We are in our fifties. He had a buyer for his business at the start of this year, we were going to buy a little 2 bed for ever house! I cry everyday now, lock downs are pointless. Fuck saving the NHS, the government should have invested money into it before then they would have been able to cope. (And reading between the lines, they are coping as normal flu seems to have disappeared this year!) All the money they have spent on grants and furlough could have been used so that the NHS had capacity. They knew there was a chance of a pandemic. Fucking wankers!! My heart goes out to all of you with kids under twenty, its all so wrong, they should be able to do all the normal things that enable them to grow into rounded individuals. Mental health is going to be a bigger crisis than COVID ever was. And if anyone has any job openings in essex/herts please pm me Ha!

I absolutely agree, why haven’t they thrown money into the NHS - I never understood the ‘protect the NHS’ mantra and it became very annoying after a while. Invest in the NHS so it CAN cope. There will no doubt be other viruses after this.

I feel like the longer this goes on, the less of a threat it feels. I hate wearing a mask everywhere. I’ll do it because I don’t want to be accused of killing someone’s grandma but I hate the idea that I’m going to have to do it forever.

I'm so fed up. I'm a dingle parent, teacher.. This term has been the hardest ever and its not going to get easier. Colleagues are going batshit with anxiety, I never know what each day will bring... I work, I come home to nothing. I can't even see my boyfriend because his non vulnerable, to all healthy lodger is petrified of catching it, so he's chickened out yet again of staying with me because he doesn't want to upset him and live with his passive argressive moods.. Wee been meeting in freezing cold parks for weeks and I'm fed up with it. I haven't seen friends in months because they're nervous, the weather is shitty and there's just no point. There's no point to anything. I can't stand 3 or 4 or however many more months of this. All the news about the vaccine doesn't give me hope, they'll fuck that up too.

@Waxonwaxoff0

I feel the same. Luckily my mental health hasn't really suffered but I am fed up of this. All I do is go to work and go back home. Yes I'm lucky to still have my job and my health but there's no joy in life right now. Tier 3 so can't even go out for a meal or take DS bowling or to the cinema, the weather is too shit for outdoor activities. I feel resentment about being in tier 3 when my borough is much lower than the UK average.

I do not like "a slower pace of life" I like travel and going to concerts and for drinks with friends. I hate this. And I'm fed up of people calling for school closure yet again. I cannot do that again.

Thank goodness someone else agrees!!! I too do not want a slower pace of life and neither do I want to be made to feel guilty by the stay the fuck at homers because I want to go on holiday, go to concerts, don’t want DCs activities stop starting every two weeks and go to restaurants without having to give all my details!!!!!

And yes, also agree that’s it’s very fishy just how many MNetters know whole villages who have had CV?! I know only one person who’s had it....

Yep, I'm so done with all of this. It's gone too far now. Lockdowns haven't achieved anything apart from ruin businesses and people's mental health. This has become all about control now.