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Has anyone else lost the will to care?

624 replies

whatToDoHerre · 17/12/2020 21:46

I have. I barely care about anything anymore. I don't know what we are fighting for - if this is life then is it worth living? We are not living, we are only existing at this point.

We could be in for months and months of restrictions and there's even talk of a third lockdown. Because the first two worked so well?

In a few short months a whole year of our lives will have been restricted.

If there is light at the end of this tunnel it's a very long tunnel, and I don't think we've travelled very far.

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IcedPurple · 20/12/2020 16:58

@Schonerlebnis

So you're not worried about the way things are progressing ? Rather be a pearl clutcher than a deluded moron spreading nothing more than opinions dressed up like fact.
How is worrying and pearl clutching going to help though?
Schonerlebnis · 20/12/2020 17:20

Nobody's pearl clutching. I can't understand why people don't take it seriously. Why certain posters are egging people on to ignore advice, even calling for riots on some threads. Just don't get it. And selfishly I don't want to experience the first wave again from a professional point of view. When we locked down, we saw a huge drop in cases. Currently quiet again but we are in tier 3 which probably keeping a lid on things. Not got a clue what the long term solution is though.

IcedPurple · 20/12/2020 17:22

I don't see anyone on this thread not taking it seriously. We have no choice but to take it seriously.

Schonerlebnis · 20/12/2020 17:29

Maybe not this thread but some long running ones yes.

IcedPurple · 20/12/2020 17:31

@Schonerlebnis

Maybe not this thread but some long running ones yes.
Your comment would probably be more appropriate on those threads then.
MiaMarshmallows · 20/12/2020 17:36

The love DP and I have for each other is pulling me through but if tier 4 restrictions continue up until mass vaccination is well under way (so looking at May-June?') Then we won't be able to see one another until then which is too devastating to contemplate. Lots of tears from both of us yesterday. We both have adult kids so can't form a support bubble and live in different tiers. If it wasn't for him and what we have then I would be in an extraordinarily dark place.

Timbucktime · 20/12/2020 17:38

Sadly this will be the case for many of the poor people who’s livelihoods and mental health, treatment of other illnesses have been destroyed/cancelled etc
These people have just been ignored by the government. Why?

MassiveSalad · 20/12/2020 18:00

So you're not worried about the way things are progressing

In terms of the virus? Absolutely not, no.

In terms of the loss of freedoms and the damage that all this is causing? Yes, very.

UncomfortableSilence · 20/12/2020 18:02

@Schonerlebnis

Nobody's pearl clutching. I can't understand why people don't take it seriously. Why certain posters are egging people on to ignore advice, even calling for riots on some threads. Just don't get it. And selfishly I don't want to experience the first wave again from a professional point of view. When we locked down, we saw a huge drop in cases. Currently quiet again but we are in tier 3 which probably keeping a lid on things. Not got a clue what the long term solution is though.
I think you've missed the point of the thread. No one is not taking it seriously that I know, I have followed all the rules to the letter and done everything I've been told too and yet it still gets worse.

This thread is about people who are at the end of their tether with it all and that's allowed and is very much ok and this is a place to let it out. Peoples feelings on this thread are as valid as anywhere else on MN.

UncomfortableSilence · 20/12/2020 18:06

Oh and also from a professional perspective I don't want to see a recurrence of the first wave. Millions of kids kept at home, the detrimental impact of that will be felt for years to come. Likewise the way kids are having school pot luck now because this government don't seem to be able to tell their arses from their elbows and are always so reactionary rather than proactive.

VulvaPerson · 20/12/2020 18:39

@MassiveSalad

All these people on MN who know 15 people under the age of 40 who have either died or have 'long Covid' hmmm ok

Weird, isn't it. The actual number of people who have lost their lives under 40 (and they are always "gym bunnys") is very very small. Yet everyone on MN knows 3 of them. Almost unbelievable really.

Yeah I find this really weird. So many posters now multiple people under 40 who have all been fit, and have died from covid. I think the record I have seen is 6, the odds of knowing 6 people at all who have died from it are slim to none, nevermind young fit people. Its just nonsense really. If they really do know such a cluster, they should be volunteering themselves for trials and such to find out why their friendship/family group is such a massive massive anomaly. And maybe put the lottery on, will wint wice in a row given the odds!
Neron · 20/12/2020 19:22

Late to the party...but this thread is such a welcome read compared to the others, with the name calling, the shaming, the virtue signalling and the self righteous.
I stopped giving a fuck about it all, a long, long time ago.

Littlefiendsusan · 20/12/2020 19:38

I've been scrolling through MN for ages looking for a thread like this one. The coward I am, I wasn't brave enough to start my own.

Was beginning to think DH & I were the only ones to be think the things I'm now reading here.

randomsabreuse · 20/12/2020 20:02

The most annoying thing is that DH is all "count your blessings". Easy for him to say when he's out at work and actually seeing clients and colleagues while I'm at home with the DC with brief school run chats being my only face to face social interaction... which is of course now gone until the 18th...

I have yet to have a conversation with another adult in the park - usually chasing toddler, also very much limits my school run chat options, wrangling a defiant/bored 2 year old

Skyline24 · 21/12/2020 00:55

I am so fed up of all of it. I feel suffocated and controlled with it all :(.. .
I also feel that the inconsistencies in the rules/restrictions are the reasons why we gave give up with it!..
I guess the only comforting thing with it all is that we are all experiencing it.
It's affecting our mental health more than I thought it would initially.

It's a very difficult time but keep taking to those around you and sending lots of love xxx

MadameBlobby · 21/12/2020 01:06

*I think you've missed the point of the thread. No one is not taking it seriously that I know, I have followed all the rules to the letter and done everything I've been told too and yet it still gets worse.

This thread is about people who are at the end of their tether with it all and that's allowed and is very much ok and this is a place to let it out. Peoples feelings on this thread are as valid as anywhere else on MN*

Totally agree

bumbleymummy · 22/12/2020 08:57

And it continues... all they had to do was mention a new strain and people have gone mad.

Neron · 22/12/2020 09:01

And it continues... all they had to do was mention a new strain and people have gone mad
Quite. People wanting more lockdowns and salivating over the idea of it

MarshaBradyo · 22/12/2020 09:04

Totally it’s grim

Ridiculous

bumbleymummy · 23/12/2020 00:48

I really wish we could keep this thread going. I’m having sit on my hands. FB might push me over the edge! 😬

Pootle40 · 23/12/2020 07:26

Checking in on the thread. Wishing I could hibernate until March?

keepmeawayfromthesherry · 23/12/2020 07:42

@Schonerlebnis

Maybe not this thread but some long running ones yes.
Please comment on those threads then. Why come on a thread where people are saying they are fed up, fucked off etc. with it all and say this when it is relevant to a different thread?

Why do some people constantly feel the need to make people who are already feeling low, even worse? What makes people like you tick???

Neron · 23/12/2020 11:17

If I thought I was done before, I really am now. The government have now decided that I can't work now at all, meaning my already minimal (i.e fuck all) earnings are now going to be zero. I don't qualify for any financial help so I'm done.

notacooldad · 23/12/2020 11:32

if this is life then is it worth living? We are not living, we are only existing at this point
I don't feel that at all at the moment. ( I did do and the feeling may come back) However everyone's situation is different and in my job I'm supporting families that are going through a terrible period and the children are struggling so much.
Away from work I am , like many others I'm sure, fed up of the news being back to back Covid stories and find my self getting a little lax. I then see three of my colleagues who have had covid and are really struggling months later, so that is a reality check for me to stay alert.
Away from work, of course I'm frustrated that I cant go to my local, I'm not going to gigs, I'm missing the theatres and cinema and my long weekends away.
Instead I have increased my cycling and done more mountain walks ( both were a hobby pre covid anyway)
It sounds very twee to say try and find joy or laugh every day. But try to see some good somewhere to keep spirits up. I know its difficult. My husband lost his business in July so we have been through tough times so I'm not saying all this from ' I'm alright Jack ' stance.

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