Sat crying. This isn’t ending or getting better

[Napqueen1234]

So sick of this. Back into tier 3. We have followed all the rules. No one in the house since March. I can’t do this all winter. I have two small children and I’m going insane with no family help. People say it’s going to get better but it isn’t. Or it’s months and months away. I can’t stop crying I just want to see my family.

Urgh it's so hard, big hugs xx

I feel for you. We were tier 1 pre lockdown and looking to be tier 3 now.. so lockdown has made it worse. Utterly fed up.

I'm the same, follow the rules, our figures are down 30% and we've still gone up to Tier 3. Our lovely plans for our Wedding Anniversary and our little boys Birthday in a week all cancelled.

I just can't live like this. I haven't seen my sister and nephews/niece since February. I'm working from home. I never leave the house.
I can't bear it.

See your family, I am. Chances are you'll see them and none of you will even have Covid at that point in time.

@onedayinthefuture I feel like so many people will because whats the point. Follow the rules do what they say but still nothing improves. I am not responsible for the rising numbers but we are all suffering hugely with the restrictions. Our local businesses will just shut. Whats the point in any of it any more.

It WILL get better.
It will get much, much better.
Not as soon as we might like but it will, I promise you.
I am so sorry for how hard you are finding it right now. It's always darkest before the dawn.

Napqueen1234 sending you a big hug. It's hard isn't it and frustrating when you follow rules and others don't.

I’m sat here in car feeling the same. I just can’t get enthusiastic about anything and it’s all just shit and so many things non Covid related have happened recently I’m wondering where I can possibly find the oomph to keep on keeping on for the sake of the kids. I’m running on empty and millions are worse off than me. It’s all just shit. And we can’t even meet and hug people to sooth ourselves. Big virtual hugs coming atcha. Just trying to dry up my tears before I go into this shop. I’m so done with this xx

I'm so sorry, it is just awful. I daren't look because I'm sure we'll be going into Tier 3 (previously Tier 2) as well. This is so hard with small children and no family support. I can cope better than in March because school and playgrounds are open. Would getting any child care for a few hours a week to take some of the pressure off you be an option?

You çan see people outdoors in tier three as long as not more than six in total meeting so you can still see family and friends.

Lots don’t have family help in normal times so have to rely on their partners if they need a break etc.

@Napqueen1234 - are your children under 1? As you can bubble with someone now?

Also, you can continue to use family for childcare in any tier. I’m on maternity leave but there are days I send my 3 year old to my parents. I’m exhausted. I need a break for my mental health. I don’t see it as any different to if I was working & she’d have to go to them twice a week. I can’t afford full time nursery.

It’s total bullshit tbh. Tier 2, even though we’ve had one of the lowest amount of cases the whole way through the pandemic.

Just utterly, utterly sick of all this now. And I hate this govt.

With you. We've followed the rules since March, still managed to catch covid in July (dh got it at work which was unavoidable) and now we've gone from tier 3 to tier 2
which seems little different from lockdown, no Christmas activities that we can do with ds at all, following the rules has made things no better.

It’s temporary- in a whole lifetime this is a teeny blip. It doesn’t feel like it now but it will end.
One day at a time.
(Tier 3 here, 15 month DD and family miles away in tier 2 and no chance of a Christmas bubble-I do get it).

I am very glad DD in nursery though, they at least tire her out so I only have 3 days a week to muddle through.

Thanks all. @Powerof4 I work part time so have my younger DC on my non working days (my older DC is at school hours preschool every day). My youngest is just over 1 so cant bubble and my family live the other end of the country. Usually they or us would visit regularly but obviously we cant now. We don't really have anyone close to use for informal childcare although a good friend had the kids one day as we had to do some fairly major DIY so needed them out the way! The kids are so good its not them its just the sadness of not seeing family, kids not having relationship with GP (too young to engage with facetime really for long) and the absolute boring monotony of going to the same parks...same walks...cooking...cleaning....same toys every day. Feel like I'm losing my mind.

It’s fucking shit. Every winter hospitals are overrun and we are allowed to go and spread our germs. You can’t control a virus!

If it helps any I think these get reviewed every 14 days so things may change.

@onedayinthefuture

See your family, I am. Chances are you'll see them and none of you will even have Covid at that point in time.

And that's exactly why cases are going up and restrictions stay in place for longer

We were tier 1 pre lockdown, now tier 2 but not far from tier 3.

I know how you feel OP, if people go ahead and mix over Christmas this is only going to get worse, we could be stuck in restrictions until March and all this made worse by having 5 days of festive fun. I for one will be staying at home.

It is tough but we will get through this and there is a end in sight, fingers crossed they can roll out the vaccine and more testing before Christmas.

Hey, I feel your pain. My area has gone from tier 1 to tier 3. None of it makes much difference to me because I am already in a household of 6 so can't have family round anyway, plus my dh is out of work so we wouldn't be likely to be spending money on pubs, meals out or Christmas anyway, but it still feels disheartening, seeing ones region in tier 3. It will get better one day. Just hang on in there.

@SquishySquirmy

It WILL get better. It will get much, much better. Not as soon as we might like but it will, I promise you. I am so sorry for how hard you are finding it right now. It's always darkest before the dawn.

This 100%

I'm abroad OP, I like you have two young children (2.5 and 3.5) all my family are in the UK and I haven't been back to see them for over a year now. I have no family help either and it's just so difficult. It will get better though, once the UK and the rest of Europe start vaccinating I am sure of it. We've had pandemics before and the human race has survived and thrived, that day will come again. Big hugs to you and your family!

It's so tough. I'm in Scotland but tier 3 here. I work and the DCs are at school, but things are tough. DS1 has health issues and adhd, DS2 is being assessed for ASD. DD misses her old life.
I miss my family and I'm not even getting the joy out of the little things I always have.

Me too. I've WFH since 12 March. I'm fucking sick of it. Barely seen my family since they live a long drive away. It's just me and four walls all day, and then just DH at night, who stressed and grumpy from being busy at work.

I'm going to be stuck inside the house with a newborn in January as well because we have one car and DH needs it to get to work. Yes, I can get the bus places but the money fucking adds up doesn't it, and as anyone knows you're really limited to direct bus routes.

I'm so, so fucking sick of this.