Sat crying. This isn’t ending or getting better

[Napqueen1234]

So sick of this. Back into tier 3. We have followed all the rules. No one in the house since March. I can’t do this all winter. I have two small children and I’m going insane with no family help. People say it’s going to get better but it isn’t. Or it’s months and months away. I can’t stop crying I just want to see my family.

I feel so so bad for those in tier 3. My area has narrowly escaped tier 3, but our cases have skyrocketed over lockdown, despite being a pretty rural area with a very old and family based population, so very few house parties, no major public transport, and insanely low case numbers throughout all of the first lockdown. I understand why people in tier 3 are so angry. The government have been saying 'follow the rules and it will fix things'. Clearly from today we can see the rules dont fix things, and people who have followed every rule have seen no benefit to doing so.

I wonder how many have just reached breaking point today?

@PatriciaPerch

the don't kill your Gran stuff is awful, my Mum - my kids Gran- is working full time in a pharmacy, she is more likely to be killed by her customers than her Grandchildren

and now I am laughing I've actually typed that aswell :o

My children’s granny works full time as a nurse. Their step grandmother is a full time teacher. ‘Don’t kill your granny’ is one of those banal fucking sound bites that people have latched on to because they think it makes them sound witty. It doesn’t. Tier 3 here too... 17 cases in our town in the past 7 days. I don’t personally give a shit about bars, or restaurants or anything else (although I do give a shit on behalf of all our wonderful local businesses that are going under), but I do care about seeing my family. And about my three young children being able to behave and interact like normal young children. About the fact that my toddler hasn’t socialised with anyone her own age since March (before someone pounces to say ‘toddler groups have been allowed to reopen’, they didn’t here as all the community venues they used kept their doors closes throughout).

I’m with you OP. So fed up of this. Viruses don’t disappear if you hide in your house. What do disappear are jobs, homes and livelihoods. Back in March we didn’t know what we were dealing with. Now we know over 99% of people survive. A lot of businesses and jobs won’t survive until this vaccine rolls out and on a personal level I’m beyond fed up of sitting in my house alone all day long then, when evening comes, sitting in my house alone. We should just be able to get on with our lives now.

We are in tier 3. I worked in hospitality and was made redundant earlier this month due to closure. Dh work in hospitality so we now have to carry on living on 80 per cent of his wage while I desperately keep applying for jobs. I have also had a good cry today.

We’re in Tier 2 despite having very few cases. This means I can’t see DS2 who is, also, in tier 2. He’s working over Christmas, his birthday is Christmas Eve and I don’t have a clue when I can see him. I am absolutely gutted.

I’ve had 3 operations postponed. One, a Gynae op, I will have waited over a year for by the time it happens. I can’t go out for a walk because I can’t walk. My joints are fucked and I need hydrotherapy, can’t have that. I’m sick to the back teeth of these four walls and now I can’t even see my kids. If DS1, a soldier, gets off the plane this weekend to be told he’s working over Christmas I won’t cope.

Tier 3 here too OP. So fed up. My whole maternity leave will be in lockdown. The only saving grace for me is that I can have a support bubble now with having a baby under 1 so I can see my parents. I'm not sure how many more freezing cold, windy walks I can take.

@ILoveToSing

We are in tier 3. I worked in hospitality and was made redundant earlier this month due to closure. Dh work in hospitality so we now have to carry on living on 80 per cent of his wage while I desperately keep applying for jobs. I have also had a good cry today.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It's so horrible.

‘Don’t kill your granny’ is one of those banal fucking sound bites that people have latched on to because they think it makes them sound witty. It doesn’t.

Agreed: it's trite, commonplace and unimaginative as most soundbites are.

All it calls to mind for me is that old Scottish ditty ‘Ye canny shove yer grannie aff a bus'. Which makes me take it even less seriously ...

I have totally empathy for you. It is destroying peoples sanity, and in years to come I hope criminal proceedings are thrown at all of these politicians destroying peoples mental health.

It is an utter disgrace, and how it is allowed to go unchecked is beyond me

@ILoveToSing God, I'm so angry with how hospitality have been treated. I really hope you find a job soon.

We are in tier 2 despite really low rates. It makes no sense. I have had enough too...

We will not have a society to go back to. Cafes, bars, restaurants, small galleries, independent shops - all will go to the wall if they remove Christmas trade after depriving them of summer trade.

Lockdowns, a luxury afforded by the affluent.

People talk of social injsutice, these lockdowns are massively dispropriante in their impact on the social scale.

It will get better @Napqueen1234 There is already light at the end of the tunnel and I say that as someone in Tier 3.

Vaccines are on the horizon, by the time the weather improves next year, IMHO things will look very different.

Are you bubbled with anyone ? Do you have a husband or partner for company ?

We won't be going anywhere for Christmas or having any visitors. Older relatives in our family who would have been having a day out and Christmas lunch cooked for them have decided to order their own Christmas provisions and stay at home, even though Boris has decreed that we could get together. There'll be lots of phone calls back and forth (sadly none of them are tech savvy enough for Zoom etc) but we're confident that Easter next year will be do-able.

@ILoveToSing

We are in tier 3. I worked in hospitality and was made redundant earlier this month due to closure. Dh work in hospitality so we now have to carry on living on 80 per cent of his wage while I desperately keep applying for jobs. I have also had a good cry today.

I'm really sorry

Still tier 3 here. I am so done with this. All I wanted was to be able to meet someone in an enclosed space like a garden so the toddler was safe and I could actually talk to another human being except my husband. Park "walks" are either her screaming because she's in the buggy or else raking all my concentration to keep safe.

I guess I may as well go back into the office as that's my only chance of any human contact.

Maybe it'll get better. Right now I'm not sure I can keep going long enough to reach that magical "sometime". I've had it.

I live in an area with a rolling rate of 39: 100000 and only 3 active cases in a pretty large area. It’s gone down by less than 0% but that’s because we started at less than 0%. The adjoining areas have 58:100000 and 52:100000. Both have gone down by 4% in the last week but as we live about 15 miles away from the county town which has gone up by 50% to 185 we are in Tier 2 . I also think it’s because we are in the same county as Hancock’s constituency he doesn’t want to look like he is favouring his own so it’s political .

So fed up with this, just want to be able to see a few people indoors and for households even if it’s only 2 to be able to mix . My mother is so lonely and MIL has just lost her closest friend ( not COVID related) .

Also areas like us will be left to malinger because we won’t get lateral flow tests or anything to help will just stay like this until Easter 🙁

Do you think restrictions are only going on in England? It's a world wide thing-the clue is in the name- and most countries have restrictions and some have pretty big consequences for those who don't think keeping those restrictions applies to them.

There seems to be a move afoot to blame it all on the Tory government! Totally bizarre.

I agree......so many businesses ae going to go to the wall. What a ridiculous mess we are in.

@fromdownwest Agree with you. It's criminal what they are doing.

It's depressing when we are doing all we can, and the cases around us still go up because people aren't being as careful.

We need to keep reminding ourselves that we are doing our bit, and that if we weren't we might well be part of those numbers. It's thanks to people like us that those cases aren't even higher, so it's not useless.

And we need to keep reminding ourselves that this is a long distance endurance process. Not a race, and certainly not short distance.

Can you try and find something new every day?
Slightly different activities in the park. Small challenges. Maybe look at corners that you normally don't.

Maybe think like a child minder or nursery and have a plan to follow with activities?

Pretend you live in a different country and make plans for when you can see your family. (long term rather than short)

We will get through this, but it will take time.

Tier 3 here too. DH and I are secondary teachers. It is just living to work at the moment.

I’m so angry that it’s deemed safe for me to teach 150 pupils a day. I’ve just finished unpaid lunch duty surrounded my hundreds of pupils but I can’t see my friends or family.

Utterly miserable.

My 18 month old has barely seen anyone in months, she is petrified of other people and I am genuinely worried that she will never be able to bond with her extended family, and definitley not as much as her older sister has and my 5 year old is missing her family who we would normally see very regularly. My mental health is at an all time low after it had just about stabilised at the beginning of the year, I feel like all of that hard work was for nothing because I now get 0 support and can't actually do any of the things that helped me because they are against the rules. Financially my partner and I cannot afford for either of us to have to self-isolate let alone both of us. It really is shit OP and I do feel for you, but we have to hope that it will get better because if we lose hope we really will lose everything.

@fedup2017

Here's a flipping idea.... Rather than blaming people who want to interact like normal human beings, how about blaming a government who thinks it's ok that we have one of the lowest ITU beds per head of population in Europe? Who have literally handed over funds to their mates as jobs or contracts? Who encouraged zero hours contracts and have families living in poverty who feel they can't afford to self isolate if needed?

Interesting that hospital capacity Is being used as a measure to increase tiers. If you've worked in the NHS you will know in a normal winter hospitals runs at 100% ALL THE TIME. This is not new. A shortage in itu staff is not new! Crazy

Thank you!

If you want to tell someone not to kill grannies, tell the Tories.

I think the cruel nature is the infite changing of the goalposts, if we lock down in May it will allow us to get back to normal summer, if we lock down in summer, it will allow a 'safe' winter, if we lock down in winter, then next year will be all sh*ts and giggles.

Just accept that lockdowns do not work, and let people make informed decisions themselves. This is a tyrannical of power and control, that no elected democratic government (s) should be allowed to impose upon a nation.

An absolute disgrace

I'm sorry 😞 Feeling similar.
I have a 5yo and a 9 week old. I don't want to form a bubble and put my parents at risk (68 and 70, mom has had COPD) but they would happily so I feel conflicted.
They're not much support generally so it would just be for Christmas/baby cuddles purposes.

It's hard looking at the same 4 walls day in day out.