Sat crying. This isn’t ending or getting better

[Napqueen1234]

So sick of this. Back into tier 3. We have followed all the rules. No one in the house since March. I can’t do this all winter. I have two small children and I’m going insane with no family help. People say it’s going to get better but it isn’t. Or it’s months and months away. I can’t stop crying I just want to see my family.

I hope you have a lovely Christmas and feel no guilt when your granny gets covid. It’s people like you that will land us in higher restrictions through the most depressing months of the year.

Hold on a second, a lot of us have been living under the strictest restrictions since June/July!!! You’ve been sitting pretty in tier 1 - Maybe walk in our shoes for a while before casting judgment.

the absolute boring monotony of going to the same parks...same walks...cooking...cleaning....same toys every day. Feel like I'm losing my mind
Same. So bored. Have seen one person inside their home once since March. Nothing to do at weekends. Cold. Muddy. Had. Enough.

"I shall be seeing my friends and family and allowing my poor teenager, who has had everything fun and enjoyable about his life taken away to protect a tiny minority"

By 'tiny minority' do you mean elderly people, disabled people and people from BAME groups who are at higher risk? God forbid the need to protect these people, of which my loved ones count among them, should stop your son from having his fun...

I don’t understand the “don’t kill granny” passive aggression. Lots of people don’t even have a granny to kill. Nor does it make the OP feel any better.

Feel exactly the same.
It's almost like we have been locked down for the month just to get London's rates lower. Then back to square one for the rest of us.
Feeling pretty hopeless now.

I’ve had enough of it, I feel so down now after the announcement, cases have come down in my area but we are tier 3 I’m wfh. on my own all day, it sounds silly but I’ve so been looking forward to maybe going for a meal or drink out again. I can go shopping but we can’t even stop for a drink in a cafe. I’ve had the virus myself, all these restrictions seem a bit ridiculous now. I think people will travel to lower tier areas.

@JacobReesMogadishu

How often will the tiers be reviewed? 3 weeks?

From the gov website:

Tier positions will be reviewed every 14 days and will be based on five criteria: case numbers across all age groups, cases in those aged over 60, the rate of rise or fall in infections, the percentage of those tested who have the virus, and current and projected pressures on the NHS locally

I’m done now too OP. I shall be seeing my friends and family and allowing my poor teenager, who has had everything fun and enjoyable about his life taken away to protect a tiny minority, to do the same.
If I get caught, I’ll pay a fine. If I get ill with something else and there is no hospital bed for me because it’s full of Covid patients then so be it. I’m done

Its not about paying a fine and no bed for you. Its about the whole community. I think everyone is struggling, most people have difficulties in some way or other, but most people are still sticking to the rules.

There will be a vaccine in a few short months, so it just needs putting up with for a while longer.

It really doesn't make any sense for people to say but it has barely touched my area and that is because it would have been a lot worse if we hadn't had any restrictions.

I think there will be a spike in cases in January if some people decide to just push the boundaries. Not only will this mean more Covid illness, it will mean less beds for those with heart attacks, strokes and cancer.

So, hold on OP. It's not long to go now.

@Funkypolar

I don’t understand the “don’t kill granny” passive aggression. Lots of people don’t even have a granny to kill. Nor does it make the OP feel any better.

Yeah, my last grandparent died in 2005 and my parents are both still working-age... which doesn't mean I don't care about spreading Covid, but I do find the 'don't kill granny' line a bit infuriating.

What keeping me sane is meeting up for walks with friends 3/4 x a week

Either in work lunch break for a quick 20 mins or on my days off

You can take kids under 5

Luckily it's not pissing down here

@Noname99

I’m done now too OP. I shall be seeing my friends and family and allowing my poor teenager, who has had everything fun and enjoyable about his life taken away to protect a tiny minority, to do the same. If I get caught, I’ll pay a fine. If I get ill with something else and there is no hospital bed for me because it’s full of Covid patients then so be it. I’m done.

Who is this minority.

BAME people? People with cancer? People with severe asthma? People over 60? People who don't fall into these groups but become seriously ill with Long Covid.

Yes, I do hope you're fined but until the government give out sharp short shocks of a custodial sentences for people like you, there will be no end to the selfishness and stupidity of the minority like you.

@XmasLockdown

From tier 3 to tier 2. I can't wait to go shopping next week in Liverpool.

I absolutely do not blame you but this is one of the reasons why tiers don’t work. Restricting our ability to do normal things like go shopping means that the minute they relax them, everyone feels like this. Or vice versa, when they announce a lockdown, everyone rushes out to stock up or ‘make the most of it while they can’ be that go to soft play, go to the shops etc. The most recent lockdown only succeeded in reducing the number of spaces open for the same number of people. So everywhere that was open was twice as busy as it normally was.

Here's a flipping idea....
Rather than blaming people who want to interact like normal human beings, how about blaming a government who thinks it's ok that we have one of the lowest ITU beds per head of population in Europe? Who have literally handed over funds to their mates as jobs or contracts? Who encouraged zero hours contracts and have families living in poverty who feel they can't afford to self isolate if needed?

Interesting that hospital capacity Is being used as a measure to increase tiers. If you've worked in the NHS you will know in a normal winter hospitals runs at 100% ALL THE TIME. This is not new. A shortage in itu staff is not new! Crazy

I haven't seen a single member of my family or DH family for a year now .

I’ve been getting through this month by repeating ‘it’s only 4 weeks’ but now it’s indefinite. We are only tier 2 so lucky by most people’s standards but saying we can only meet outside is very different in December/Jen/Feb to saying it in the summer. There is no chance of sitting down with a friend for a cup of coffee or a glass of wine for months now.

I want this over so I will continue to stick to the rules but atm I am so sad.

@nanbread

What keeping me sane is meeting up for walks with friends 3/4 x a week

Either in work lunch break for a quick 20 mins or on my days off

You can take kids under 5

Luckily it's not pissing down here

I can't walk without pain at the moment. Which is my fault for getting pregnant in a pandemic, really, but it feels so isolating at the moment. I went for a walk on the beach with my mum at the weekend because I was getting so down (and because she desperately wanted to see my toddler) and I struggled to walk at all for the next two days.

I hear you OP, I've had a little cry too :-( gone from tier 2 to tier 3 and I'm so fed up! I have a baby, and all of my family/friends are missing out on her so much, but there will be an end to this, not right now but there will, and we will appreciate everything so much more when its over

Allow yourself to feel sad and fed up, treat yourself to a hot bath and massive chocolate bar (my plans for after work!) there was a thread on here yesterday where people were sharing positives they've experienced from the virus and lockdowns and it made me feel so much better, helped me to see things from a different perspective, so if you can find that (I can't I've just looked) its definitely worth a read

You can have family help.

Look at Childcare Bubbles x

Most of the country is in Tier 3 now. What is the POINT of ending lockdown?

The point is for the government to boost morale by imagining the public is gullible enough to believe in the illusion of normality they're fostering. That's all it is. The hospitality industry will still be decimated and people's livelihoods still as much under threat.

Trying to be 'glass half full' here and look for a few, if not many, bright spots. November lockdown has been pretty awful: seems all fun and leisure has been removed whilst only the work remains. But I for one have far less FOMO on the grim, dark autumn than I did the light, bright spring. I'd probably be indoors with a blanket-throw, glass of wine and His Dark Materials anyway, rather than outside wanting to enjoy the natural world burst into life again. I also prefer Easter to Christmas: autumn and winter are far less my cup of tea.

The brightest spot for me is that the gyms and swimming pools will be reopening. I find the dark months of the year horribly depressing even at the best of times (2020 not being one of them) and my mental wellbeing depends quite heavily on my workouts and swimming. I'm euphoric to have those back again.

Sorry other people are feeling so grim (and yes, we're tier 3 too). Try to cling to the one thing you've got back that you're really grateful for. This too shall pass

I"m just pissed off because I think none of this rule changing makes a jot of difference.

I bet Boris is laughing now at us trying to decipher the latest changes.

What a load of bollocks the whole thing is.

Basically Boris promised to end Lockdown on 2nd December and couldn't be seen to break that promise, as he's broken so many others. So they've continued the lockdown in the guise of new tiers.

That's it folks. Nothing more to see here. You can move on.

Lots of people don’t even have a granny to kill.

I'm sorry, I know that sentence shouldn't be funny .

But if you'd told me pre covid that the above would be a sentence of mumsnet I am not sure what I would have thought was happening.

The thing is, it wasn't expected to get better. This is peak viral respiratory disease season, and will only get worse in the next couple of months. The lockdown has kept most hospitals from being too full to cope with what is inevitably to come.

Things WILL get better. There is a vaccine coming very soon for the most vulnerable, and sometime next year for the rest of us. The spring bulbs are already showing their heads. The shortest day is only three weeks away. It is utterly, utterly shit right now and we just have to slog through it day by day and get to the other end. And take vitamin D if you don't already, it will help stop you getting sick and make you feel a bit brighter generally.

Rather than blaming people who want to interact like normal human beings, how about blaming a government who thinks it's ok that we have one of the lowest ITU beds per head of population in Europe? Who have literally handed over funds to their mates as jobs or contracts? Who encouraged zero hours contracts and have families living in poverty who feel they can't afford to self isolate if needed?

This cannot be said often or loud enough.

Anyone falling for "it's all the public's fault for being naughty" rhetoric is playing straight into their hands.