Family breaking lockdown rules

[PandemicPalava]

My family are not following the guidelines as they've had enough of it. I'm finding it really difficult.

Mum and sister plus family live together so are in a bubble with my Nan. However my Nan and mum have both had my other sister and cousins in their houses.

I'm so worried for them all. Walks outside would be fine but they're popping round for a cup of tea like there is no lockdown.

I broached it with my Nan earlier and she said her mental health and my cousins are more important than Covid and she'll suffer any consequences, health, legal or financial.

I'm so torn as I don't want anyone falling apart buy equally don't want anyone to fall ill. Nan is 82 and mum has asthma.

I don't know what to do or say. Probably nothing will make any difference and they're all adults. I just think it's insulting to all those struggling that they've just chosen not to bother and are being flippant about it all.

Urgh. Just needed to rant.

What would you all do / say if anything?

No I don't disapprove of it, but it can make life difficult at times as I have 4 adults unable to make a decision over the simplest of things

@GabriellaMontez am I really coming across as that unbearable and judgemental?

I am surprised at the number of PP who are saying do nothing. So all the relatives who state they will take the consequences... Have they got strict instructions that if they are in hospital they will not expect to take their turn in the queue. Or will they and their relatives be screaming for medical assitance?

Its an easy thing to say you will take the consequences but once you are suffering you will almost definitely find you do care about getting better

Yes! I know full well if one of them gets ill they'll then want the full benefits of what this society offers and everyone to rally round.

Just spoke to my Nan and my uncle is working down the road today and will be popping in for his lunch as he did yesterday. There was absolutely no reason for this my Nan was very happy on the phone is out and about in the garden and my uncle is working.This is nothing to do with mental health.

Although yes, I suppose it is something for my Nan to look forward to today. I didn't realise my uncle was breaking the rules as well, so that's one more

I Give up.There is absolutely no point in giving a shit. I'm not even going to ask anymore

@PandemicPalava

Just spoke to my Nan and my uncle is working down the road today and will be popping in for his lunch as he did yesterday. There was absolutely no reason for this my Nan was very happy on the phone is out and about in the garden and my uncle is working.This is nothing to do with mental health.

How lovely A very elderly woman who lives alone has her adult son visiting her for a spot of lunch.

Jesus my Nan isn't a decrepit old lady! She's outside sweeping up leaves and drives, doesn't have any help with anything around the house etc, goes into town every other day by herself. He works inside peoples houses so he is going straight round there after being inside a strangers house. Brilliant

@Jroseforever and she really doesn't live alone - my mum stays there half the week

My nana died a fortnight ago. Unrelated to COVID. I'm so glad I didn't stick to lockdown rules and I was able to see her in her final days. It was a quick deterioration. Completely unexpected.

We never know when our time is up.

My granddad's view is he'd rather die of COVID having spent his final weeks with his family, than die alone and miserable.

So I'll continue to go around 4 times a week to spend time with him. I'll take the fine if I have to.

I think some people just have to do what works for them and that's it x

Well this it’s brill.... her and her son can take a bit of gardening post lunch!

Tackle

[quote PandemicPalava]@GabriellaMontez am I really coming across as that unbearable and judgemental? [/quote]
I wouldn't use the word unbearable.

But read your own posts!

I have 4 adults unable to make a decision over the simplest of things

You alternate between speaking about them like they're children. Looking down on their decisions and decision making!

Then describing them as independent, active, competent adults.

You disagree on this. Its allowed. Leave them to it. Just as they are you.

@Jroseforever why are you being nasty and taking the piss? Why is this the response I'm getting for having concerns.

I am not sure there is a 100% correct answer to all of this but saying you would rather take your chances is not really the whole story. Its who you infect whilst you are doing what YOU want to do that is the issue here.

I dont know anyone who has made legal statements should they find themselves in a overrun hospital. I know not all hospitals are struggling. Ours isnt around here but my friend had to visit a city centre one and she said there were little in the way of ICU beds (just like most winters!)

@TokenGinger so sorry for your loss, completely understand your Grandad's position. I feel like this is the stance my family are taking but what they're saying is that they don't care any more. Maybe if they articulated it to me I could understand but all I get is that they are bored and don't care any more

Being so nasty and taking the piss?

Good lord OP
I said I thought it was lovely your Nan was having lunch with her adult son

And when you responded that she’s fit and well, I just said great they can do some gardening together.

You seem very negative and determined to see shadows in everything.

@Bathroom12345 that's exactly it. I'm finding it hard to juggle social responsibility concerns and understanding the actions of my family

@Jroseforever you're such a dick, you know full well what you meant.

[quote PandemicPalava]@TokenGinger so sorry for your loss, completely understand your Grandad's position. I feel like this is the stance my family are taking but what they're saying is that they don't care any more. Maybe if they articulated it to me I could understand but all I get is that they are bored and don't care any more [/quote]
Possibly because they are bored about being probed about it by you!
Just let it go.

@Jroseforever gaslighting fun is it?

@Jroseforever I don't probe them, that's why I'm talking about it on her.

[quote PandemicPalava]@Jroseforever you're such a dick, you know full well what you meant. [/quote]
What?

You are most bizarre

I meant exactly what I said.

I think it’s brill your nan is having lunch with her son today. No more. No less.

Any information given to me has come out naturally in conversation, I haven't been asking them about their stance on the lockdown at all.