I'm losing friends because I have coronavirus

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I'm not sure what I want from this thread, a hand hold I guess.

This morning I received my test results and I'm positive. I put a post on Facebook set to just family and friends, warning people who've had contact with me to get tested and highlighting the need to watch out for symptoms other than the textbook ones.

I'm worried about my elderly mum who has hypertension who I've had direct contact with so my anxiety is through the roof and I'm scared.

Somebody I've known for thirteen years jumped on the post taking the mick saying if I get run over by a lorry in the next few weeks they'll put me down as a covid death as it's not a real virus but a government ploy. I told him now wasn't the time for conspiracy theories and to leave me be, he said he was removing me because I "believe the government" and he blocked me.

Somebody else I've known for a long time came on saying how the virus isn't real and "they" have given me a positive result to keep the numbers up.

Both people I've been friendly with for a long time and had no idea they held these types of views. The last thing I needed today was to deal with this. I thought I was doing the right thing by warning people to look out for symptoms other than the textbook ones (because I had none of them)

AIBU to think these people were never friends in the first place.

I'm in South East London, lewisham.

The aggressiveness of some posters is almost comical. What's the point of accusing the OP of being attention-seeking? You could argue that every single post on AIBU is attention-seeking. You obviously all love it because you keep coming back. A "sorry to hear you're ill" wouldn't go amiss, would it?

Clearly, OP, your friends are deranged and you are better off without them.

PS How do these conspiracy theories even work? What benefit is the government supposedly deriving from making up an imaginary virus and then pretending people have got it?

I'm finding that CV is giving me a new group of people to avoid. Fuck me there are some ignorant dickheads about.

NC for this but if you think the OP is dramatic posting it on FB you should meet one of my neighbours. He was taken into hospital with CV but managed to live tweet throughout his stay, write a book about his experience and now seems to be the go to person when the media need to speak to a corona survivor. It’s embarrassing.

Does anyone ever tell the OPs on live birth threads that they can't possibly be in labour if they can post on MN, the way it's posted for anyone else who says they're ill?

You've uncovered a couple of arseholes masquerading as friends. You're well shot of them. The only appropriate response from true friends would have been something along the lines of "get well soon".

Ignore the judgemental posts on this thread. They just smack of people kicking you when you're down.

Get well soon and please don't hesitate to contact the NHS if your symptoms deteriorate.

See?

Competitive Cuntiness - the Covid of Mumsnet.

Facebook is where crackpots dwell and share their wild theories. If you’d sent a text or other form of communication there’d have been a different response.

Get well soon!

My son went to be tested yesterday. Someone who has been into his workplace has tested positive. He has been here and my best friend and I had an outside meet. I let her know.

I think you absolutely did the right thing. People jump in when they don’t even know how many people you have on facebook( I don’t have one) I think letting anyone who has met with you and your relatives will want to know. People may want to get tested if they visited. Your relatives will won’t to know so they might be prepared to help if you become more unwell. You have two children to consider. You might need shopping or medication.

I hope you recover quickly and understand how worried you are. I am worried and have hardly left our village. Having anxiety will heighten your worries. I have never suffered from anxiety until recently due to stress with my workplace. It does make things more intense.
Put some music on, watch a film with the children those sort of things to distract your feelings and rest. I hope you get better soon. Check in with someone every day. My DH who rarely worries checks in with our boys everyday at the moment. I have hypertension too and asthma so just keeping safe. Phone your mum and you will hopefully be reassured.
PM me if you want and yes I would get this moved and I haven’t read many. Thankfully some people have left kind, understanding messages focus on those.🌻🌈🌻

@Coronaking

NC for this but if you think the OP is dramatic posting it on FB you should meet one of my neighbours. He was taken into hospital with CV but managed to live tweet throughout his stay, write a book about his experience and now seems to be the go to person when the media need to speak to a corona survivor. It’s embarrassing.

That made me smile

I'm both shocked and baffled by the positive result because I was sure we had already had this in March. I had gastrointestinal symptoms, complete loss of taste, terrible fatigue. It was unusual in that I hadn't had anything like it before. My 2 year old DS was given a preliminary diagnosis of covid over the telephone based on a temp of 40 and refusing his food. This was all at the end of March so naively I hoped we had some degree of immunity.

Get well soon OP, and I hope your Mum is in the clear

'I don’t think they need warned. I think they might have heard of coronavirus already.'

Yes, but they might wish to be warned that someone whom they knew had it, so that they knew to avoid her; and so that they might be aware of any direct or indirect contacts that they'd had with her (by 'indirect', I mean contact with someone else who'd been in contact with her).. Posting on FB isn't necessarily telling the whole world; many people post only to their own group of friends. And especially if the OP is not feeling well, it might be easier to post to her friends as a group than separately to individuals.

OP, I know it’s easier said than done but don’t worry about losing those two people as “friends “. It’s not much of a loss. I mean what use is having friends as thick as those two in your life anyway?

Hope you get over Covid soon 👍

Cross posts with some lovely, emphatic people concentrate on those.

Actually a bit agog at some of these batshit responses saying you’re a drama llama or attention seeker for telling people. I’d certainly want to know if someone I had contact with or knew had it, so op you did the right thing,

Those who thing Covid is some form of conspiracy and will block you because You think it’s real you’re better of staying away from. So no loss there.

I actually have an acquaintance who believes it’s a conspiracy and posts all the time in face book about it, I found it mildly amusing to start with and now am actually concerned for their mental health. It stopped being funny when it became clear just how much she believed it and how angry she was.

My quarantine period ends today and the text said I can go outdoors if I haven't had any symptoms within the last 48 hours.

I haven't had the usual symptoms in the last 48 hours but I have had the runny congested nose and sneezing until Monday night so I don't think it's safe for me to yet.

I'm going to see if I can get my GP on the phone for clarification.

If you think the OP is looking for attention, instead of saying it, keep your opinion to yourself. That way, those of us that are human can empathise.
OP, I hope you feel better soon, and as others have said, ignore the spitefulness on here.

Not everyone who attention seeks warrants empathy!

To the OP: I hope you're OK soon, and that your Mum doesn't have it. I don't think the two people you mention are true friends: even if someone has conspiraloon theories, they don't use them to attack a friend at a time when they're ill. Please concentrate on your real friends!

'Not everyone who attention seeks warrants empathy!'

No, but everyone who has or is at serious risk of coronavirus does!

@IndiaMay

You sound a bit dramatic "it's a scary diagnosis"... cancer is a scary diagnosis. For 99% of the population coronavirus is a cold.

You wouldn't worry that you'd infected other people including your loved ones?

You sound a bit dramatic "it's a scary diagnosis"... cancer is a scary diagnosis. For 99% of the population coronavirus is a cold

It's scary enough a diagnosis for governments around the world to implement a global lockdown and risk destroying the economy, so it's scary enough for me (somebody who struggles with anxiety) to panic.

Posting it on FB is pretty sensible tbh. The sooner people know the sooner they can keep an eye on any potential symptoms.

Those friends, however, are twats.

@SoftlySoftly123 Loss of sense of smell/taste was recognised globally, it had been mentioned in numerous early studies in countries ahead of us.

Quick Google could tell anyone that. Doesn't matter when the UK added it.

This issue is with scaremongering, not realising correlation isn't necessarily CV and the attitude that virtually any extremely common and often vague symptom is being put down to CV.

And some MNetters are particularly bad in that regard. It matters what people post online and this kind of post just leads to uneccessary anxiety for other posters and ultimately, a waste of public resources.

I've seen people on MN told it's likely they have CV because they have a headache, feel tired, have the sniffles, their muscles are sore after a workout (yes! that happened). I've seen someone claiming to be a Dr of microbiology tell a poster that felt exhausted and had a cough for one day that they had the 'blood form of CV' and needed to seek medical attention a.s.a.p as they were at risk of blood clots and complete organ failure.

So I see the point of OPs friends when she's scaremongering and saying 'I don't have any recognised symptoms of CV but I have tested positivr and think these are symptoms of CV' which are completely random and can be attributed to a thousand other things.

Like I said, no-one would give a shit if you post on FB that you have CV. Post on FB saying 'I don't have any recognised symptoms but I think these random things are, so watch out' then people are likely to be pissed off and think the poster is an attention seeking drama llama.

I do find it suspicious that some people can have it and apparently have no symptoms and know nothing about it until they have a test. Like u get things can affect people differently like old people can die from the flu and a young healthy person wouldn't but you would still know you was Ill if you had the flu. How can you have it and not feel slightly ill? And your friend is right they do out people down as covid deaths even if they had recovered