I'm losing friends because I have coronavirus

[Yellowc]

I'm not sure what I want from this thread, a hand hold I guess.

This morning I received my test results and I'm positive. I put a post on Facebook set to just family and friends, warning people who've had contact with me to get tested and highlighting the need to watch out for symptoms other than the textbook ones.

I'm worried about my elderly mum who has hypertension who I've had direct contact with so my anxiety is through the roof and I'm scared.

Somebody I've known for thirteen years jumped on the post taking the mick saying if I get run over by a lorry in the next few weeks they'll put me down as a covid death as it's not a real virus but a government ploy. I told him now wasn't the time for conspiracy theories and to leave me be, he said he was removing me because I "believe the government" and he blocked me.

Somebody else I've known for a long time came on saying how the virus isn't real and "they" have given me a positive result to keep the numbers up.

Both people I've been friendly with for a long time and had no idea they held these types of views. The last thing I needed today was to deal with this. I thought I was doing the right thing by warning people to look out for symptoms other than the textbook ones (because I had none of them)

AIBU to think these people were never friends in the first place.

@Monkeydog123

Yes, so you don't have any typical CV symptoms and you probably have asymptomatic CV which just coincided with you having thrush and sneezing. And you have an anxiety disorder and got tested for CV as a result of MN telling you to - and some MNetters are telling everyone to. And you're not even feeling very ill.

If you're telling people on FB to get tested for CV because they've got vaginal thrush and a blocked nose and being all dramatic about how scared you are when you're really not feeling very ill, people might well react to that.

The OP tested positive

She doesn't have to have serious symptoms to be infectious
Many superspreaders infected people without realising they even had it

It was a knee jerk reaction to post when I received the results. My first thought was to panic and worry that I may have infected other people and I was scared.

I was yet to hear from T&T at the time and because I wasn't in a good head space to make a string of phone calls, I thought it would be simpler to post a status to a select number of people who may have wanted to know or need to know.

My heart was In the right place.

Its in the news every day so it seemed like a relevant thing to inform those who I care about / care about me.

The arsehole friend doesn't fit that category anymore however I felt he had a right to know because we've had direct contact.

It's highly unlikely that you have had it twice.

"Can You Get Covid Again? It’s Very Unlikely, Experts Say"

"Reports of reinfection instead may be cases of drawn-out illness. A decline in antibodies is normal after a few weeks, and people are protected from the coronavirus in other ways."
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OP:
You did the right thing
People on your FB now have a heads up, to watch for symptoms and get tested

You weren't to know that a lot of people get the rage if COVID is mentioned
It's completely irational - if you'd posted you had flu, you'd have just got sympathy

People post every detail of their lives on FB,
but some people - including some MNers - think you shouldn't post about testing positive for a virus that had the whole country and half the world in lockdown

Gosh some nasty folk on here. Wishing you better soon OP and you didn't do anything wrong. Giving a heads up earlier than the tracers have is helpful and may stop someone unknowingly spread it in the meantime. So you did the right thing.

My heart was In the right place.

So was your head.

I find some people's reaction to it being mentioned so odd. I wonder if that's their way of coping with it, to deny it exists or can be serious. That's how it comes across when people get annoyed if anyone mentions it.

Stop being dramatic OP, tracers are there do track the people you have been in contact with, no need for your big announcement really. As for your friends, sounds like a bit of banter which clearly did not suit you. No big deal really is it?

Great idea Crumpets, let's all keep a diagnosis of covid to ourselves and leave it to the trackers who may or may not be able to get through or reach said people.

It's absolutely unreasonable to want to let people know in a timely fashion that they may have picked up a virus from me that just so happens to be serious enough to cause the world to go into lockdown.

I'm beyond bored of such comments now. You're just echoing the same shite as posters before you with no empathy or compassion. Well done for sticking the boot in when I've repeatedly stated throughout the thread that I have health related PTSD from a near death experience so this type of thing is my worst nightmare.

If ever I had a right to be dramatic (which is your take not mine) then it is now.

TLDR; piss off.

curious why get tested without the symptoms?

OP those people weren’t friends. Friends don’t respond like that so better you know.

You’ve also had some really horrible replies on here. Same kind of people who want to shout you down because it doesn’t fit their narrative.

Crumpets spiteful, unnecessary and track and trace isn’t working.

Absolutely horrified by this thread. Sending much love.

I got rid of Facebook a few years ago, it's really made a dramatic difference to my Mental Health
Take care of yourself 🤗

Why are people roasting the op for sharing her condition with f&f?
What's dramatic about that? The story is everywhere, surely it's worth a mention, especially if they've been in contact with the op.
Weird negative reaction here.
My kids had to be tested due to some symptoms, it was natural for me to tell the people who'd been around us. They all turned out to be covid deniers too but at least I could 'rest' easy knowing I'd shared the news with relevant people.
It's the same as getting an std, you tell everyone you've had contact with just in case

You've done nothing wrong. Don't let mean girls on here make you second guess yourself.
I also have cptsd, I've discovered that certain types sense a weakness and just dig the knife in for fun. Fuck em

Biscuitsneeded
"OP you got some very bitchy responses on here - ignore them. I understand why you posted on Facebook - not for attention but to warn people that Covid may not present in the way the literature says. And given how inept the Track and Trace has been thus far you can be forgiven for deciding to do their job for them! I'm sorry you've been feeling ill, and that people you thought of as friends have turned out to be unpleasant, but at least now you"
^this

Glad you seem to be doing ok. Sorry for some of the unnecessarily shitty and bizarre responses you've had!

Bless you must be frightened, you don’t need friends like this. They are not real friends, let’s hope they don’t get it.
Take care of yourself, I hope your mums ok.

OP I think it was very public spirited of you to think of others and let everyone know to look out for symptoms.

Finding out your friends are unhinged, rude, and unkind,is all you need when you're ill.

I would post on FB too. I'd hope my friends and family would want to know. When my friends have had it I've been interested in how it's been for them. And wanted to know if I could help.

I hope you feel better soon.

Do let us know if track and trace get in touch I'm not even sure if it's up and running yet. (No rush Boris. It's only been six months!)

That's exactly what T&T is for, it's not spiteful but truthful, a personal text would of been sufficient tbh, and other people are allowed opinions of their own even if you do not agree with them.

Take care of yourself, OP and ignore the nasty posters. As for 'friends' who think Covid is made up, well they won't be so certain if they contract it themselves!

Ah OP I wanted to join the others by saying that you do NOT deserve the roasting you’re getting from these cynical miserable arseholes on here.

You can post what you damn well like on your own Facebook. It’s a SOCIAL media. I don’t think it was the wrong thing to do and I don’t think you’re being dramatic either. And let me caveat that by saying I do not use Facebook, or any other social media for that matter and I can be as cynical as they come!
What do people suggest is ‘allowed’ to be posted then??

And your ‘friends’ are idiots.

I really hope you have a mild case and do not suffer and I hope you haven’t passed it on either.
Get well soon

It’s a pile on for the sake of a pile on here sometimes. The OP is clearly anxious about the whole thing. I swear sometimes you’d get a roasting for posting that you’d rescued a puppy from drowning, such is the huge desire of some MN members to fall over themselves to win ‘most cynical and argumentative person’ award.

@Crumpets111

Stop being dramatic OP, tracers are there do track the people you have been in contact with, no need for your big announcement really. As for your friends, sounds like a bit of banter which clearly did not suit you. No big deal really is it?

What the fuck is wrong with you? Seriously.

@Yellowc

Great idea Crumpets, let's all keep a diagnosis of covid to ourselves and leave it to the trackers who may or may not be able to get through or reach said people.

It's absolutely unreasonable to want to let people know in a timely fashion that they may have picked up a virus from me that just so happens to be serious enough to cause the world to go into lockdown.

I'm beyond bored of such comments now. You're just echoing the same shite as posters before you with no empathy or compassion. Well done for sticking the boot in when I've repeatedly stated throughout the thread that I have health related PTSD from a near death experience so this type of thing is my worst nightmare.

If ever I had a right to be dramatic (which is your take not mine) then it is now.

TLDR; piss off.

Well said Yellow!

OP, you posted a few times that you had symptoms like glandular fever -- but never fever itself. So I'm confused. What does glandular fever 'feel' like if not the symptoms in this graphic?