I'm losing friends because I have coronavirus

[Yellowc]

I'm not sure what I want from this thread, a hand hold I guess.

This morning I received my test results and I'm positive. I put a post on Facebook set to just family and friends, warning people who've had contact with me to get tested and highlighting the need to watch out for symptoms other than the textbook ones.

I'm worried about my elderly mum who has hypertension who I've had direct contact with so my anxiety is through the roof and I'm scared.

Somebody I've known for thirteen years jumped on the post taking the mick saying if I get run over by a lorry in the next few weeks they'll put me down as a covid death as it's not a real virus but a government ploy. I told him now wasn't the time for conspiracy theories and to leave me be, he said he was removing me because I "believe the government" and he blocked me.

Somebody else I've known for a long time came on saying how the virus isn't real and "they" have given me a positive result to keep the numbers up.

Both people I've been friendly with for a long time and had no idea they held these types of views. The last thing I needed today was to deal with this. I thought I was doing the right thing by warning people to look out for symptoms other than the textbook ones (because I had none of them)

AIBU to think these people were never friends in the first place.

First off all I feel for you as a human who has coronavirus, I imagine that's pretty worrying

Secondly I'm so sorry to hear that people have been knobheads to you on Facebook. Some people are just shitty.

Thirdly I'm sorry that you've had such bitchy replies to this thread, I wish people would just scroll past if they didn't have anything half civil to say.

Hope you get well soon and that your mum stays well ❤

(Oh and I absolutely would put it on Facebook, and I would want my friends to, too, I don't see why people are being twats about that either).

Why didn’t you just message the people you have had contact with rather than telling the world and his wife in Facebook?

I wouldn't expect anyone I have on Facebook to say the kind of things these 'friends' have said to the OP.

OP, they're loons and ill-informed ignoramuses. Block them. Fuck 'em. I hope you're feeling better?

Out of interest OP, would you pop back and let us know when track and trace have been in touch? I don't question the existence of corona virus but I do wonder whether track and trace is actually happening. Another good reason to let as many people as possible know that you tested positive. Look after yourself.

You've done nothing wrong, OP, and I think had some unfair comments on here. As for your friends, I guess there's some weird thing going on where they don't believe it so the only way to rationslise things is to disbelieve you. People can be very odd. And it's rubbish for you.

I can’t see what you have done wrong either. You directed your FB post to the people that needed to know not everybody and you have done it quickly and efficiently unlike the Government system.

Hope you feel better soon

I will update this thread if I hear from track and trace yes.

I got both a text and an email confirming my results were positive and both did say I may be contacted by track and trace but I've heard nothing yet.

I'm doing ok health wise. I had pretty much fully recovered by the time I went to bed last night and felt fine. I feel a bit crappy today but I recognise that as anxiety/stress more than anything else.

It's worth noting that at no point during the duration of being unwell was I unable to go about my business, looking after the children, cooking and cleaning.

If I'm over it now then it was very mild. I'm hoping I don't decline of course, but I think I'm going to be ok. Fingers crossed.

Some unfair comments on here directed towards Op. You're probably worried and feel horrible which accounts for the slightly dramatic sounding post. Probably wasn't the best idea to post it publicly on fb. As for the "friends" they sound really odd. Better off without them.

I would just consider it a head up that you need some better friends. Downgrade them to weird thicko friends and keep that in mind if you have any future communication with them.

@Yellowc That's the point. You think it was CV causing you to feel like that but you don't have any globally recognised symptoms so completely possible you're just spreading bollocks on the internet when you may well have asymptomatic CV and coincidentally other symptoms.

Hey everyone that i've been in contact with, i've tested positive for CV. Fine. No-one will moan that you've told them.

Hey everyone, i've tested positive for CV and it gave me a runny/blocked nose and thrush in my vagina so look out for those symptoms as CV - not fine.

That's the difference.

Bloody hell - it's not Aids in the 80's is it? In 2 weeks you'll be fine. Let the track & trace team do their job to contact people you've been in contact with and let the virus run its course.

This is why track and trace maintains some anonymity when alerting your contacts. It's fucking absurd if people react like your friends when told they've been in contact with an infected person.

I take it your ignorant conspiracy theorist "friend" won't be isolating or getting tested then. Even though he's been in contact with you. What a selfish twat.

You OK hun?

I phoned my DM as soon as I got the results and told her as we've had direct contact in the last two weeks. She was at my aunt's visiting.

She called me back shortly after to ask for the telephone number to call if she developed symptoms as she doesn't use the internet and my aunt shouted in the background "don't worry, I don't think you have that"

It's very frustrating that people who I thought had common sense are denying it's existence. Even in the face of a positive result it's all "bullshit"

I'm not that surprised. I was thinking about this scenario if it happens to me (as it can to us all) and I would keep it as quiet as possible. PHE should be able to advise what you have to do and I will be following the rules, nothing more.

I remember you OP, the zoo lady, you said you had fatigue and a tight throat, which sounded like symptoms to me.

So sorry you've had a positive, but well done for doing the test and warning people. I hope you're feeling better soon.

Fucking hell.

You have had some vile responses and friends.

1. You did people a favour contacting them. If T&T contact them they could spread the virus further but they can self isolate now thanks to your post.

1. If we were FB friends I would offer sympathy and practical support like going to the shops. OP is the only adult at home rn and could do with some sympathy. Being ill while looking after the kids alone is shit.

1. I would be shocked too if I got a positive result without the 3 main symptoms. It's not attention seeking to have someone agree that they'd be shocked too.

1. The NHS only list 3 symptoms because the majority of cases have one of those and it's easier to remember 3 than loads. This is the list of symptoms that the CDC in the US have published

Hope you feel better soon and find some better friends.

@Monkeydog123

Yes, so you don't have any typical CV symptoms and you probably have asymptomatic CV which just coincided with you having thrush and sneezing. And you have an anxiety disorder and got tested for CV as a result of MN telling you to - and some MNetters are telling everyone to. And you're not even feeling very ill.

If you're telling people on FB to get tested for CV because they've got vaginal thrush and a blocked nose and being all dramatic about how scared you are when you're really not feeling very ill, people might well react to that.

Loss of taste wasn't an "official" symptom according to the NHS until well into lockdown. It's a new virus that we still don't know masses about. It seems much more likely that OP has experienced some more uncommon symptoms / side effects than that she coincidentally had said symptoms randomly at the same time as being an asymptomatic case!

OP, here is a hand to hold. I don't think you were unreasonable to share your symptoms and diagnosis, as that's useful information for people you've been in contact with. I'm sorry you've had a hard time both with your friends and here!

Wow, there are some nasty bastards in real life and on here too, it seems.

Of course you’re worried. I don’t blame you for feeling scared.

Take care of yourself and know that some of us do care and wish you well. (((Hugs)))

@Yellowc You've done nothing wrong. Not by posting to a select group on your own personal facebook, and not by posting here.

Just like social media is awash with conspiracy theorists, Mumsnet is awash with nasty cunts who constantly try to out-cunt each other. It helps them feel superior, you see, to be so much more with it than the poster they're trying to grind into the dirt.

Let's hope they never start a thread for support, huh? Can you imagine the drama of it all.

Tbh they sound like utter fuckwits anyway so you're better off without.

You sound a bit dramatic "it's a scary diagnosis"... cancer is a scary diagnosis. For 99% of the population coronavirus is a cold.

Quite alarming to hear track and trace hasn’t been in contact but I wouldn’t have put it on FB whatsoever. Given the guidelines in place did all 16 have to know? That would mean close contact of less than 2m for over 15 minutes with all 16.

I’m sorry you have coronavirus OP and hope it’s mild and you feel better soon- also hope you manage to get some rest with your DC too. If you don’t mind me asking, whereabouts are you based? Is it one of the places with a recent increase of Covid?

Some of these replies are ridiculous, and I'm the one being flamed.

People respond in all manner of ways when they receive bad news, are in shock or anxious.

Forgive me for being scared after being diagnosed with something that has the world on lockdown.

I've just received a text from track and trace so they are up and running. I have to click a link, log in and declare who I've been in contact with.

Ok well have a good afternoon. Thank you to those who offered some reassurance, I appreciate that.

God people are being shite today.

You can post what you want on social media. Telling a handful of friends and family you're ill isn't attention seeking. Posts like checking into a and e to fish for people questioning if you're ok, are attention seeking!

Secondly if one of my friends had a positive test and I'd recent direct contact with them, I would appreciate them telling me no matter how they did it, and in fact if they didn't tell me and just waited for the track and trace people to get in touch instead, I'd be a bit pissed off it caused a delay.

You're friends are idiots. Ok I guess if they have different beliefs but to if you've been feeling ill the least they could have said is they hope you get better soon rather than effectively accuse you of being part of a big conspiracy