I'm losing friends because I have coronavirus

[Yellowc]

I'm not sure what I want from this thread, a hand hold I guess.

This morning I received my test results and I'm positive. I put a post on Facebook set to just family and friends, warning people who've had contact with me to get tested and highlighting the need to watch out for symptoms other than the textbook ones.

I'm worried about my elderly mum who has hypertension who I've had direct contact with so my anxiety is through the roof and I'm scared.

Somebody I've known for thirteen years jumped on the post taking the mick saying if I get run over by a lorry in the next few weeks they'll put me down as a covid death as it's not a real virus but a government ploy. I told him now wasn't the time for conspiracy theories and to leave me be, he said he was removing me because I "believe the government" and he blocked me.

Somebody else I've known for a long time came on saying how the virus isn't real and "they" have given me a positive result to keep the numbers up.

Both people I've been friendly with for a long time and had no idea they held these types of views. The last thing I needed today was to deal with this. I thought I was doing the right thing by warning people to look out for symptoms other than the textbook ones (because I had none of them)

AIBU to think these people were never friends in the first place.

I never put anything on Facebook that isn’t vanilla now. I have had too many encounters. (Including crazy family members who thought I went to America leaving my 92 year old gran in charge of the kids)

At least you know who is bat shit crazy in your friends now.

I get why you did it, but people don’t seem to feel comfortable with it and go into handbag mode!

Bloody hell, there are a lot of smart-arsed, know-all, judgemental twats on MN these days. Are you all trying to out compete each other to be too cool for school? Or are you just attention seeking by making such snippy responses to an OP who seems genuinely worried and upset?

OP - Everyone I know who has had covid has flagged it up on FB or social media - because it is still new, and worrying, and no less interesting or attention seeking than all the other shit that gets posted on social media.

Here's a hand hold . I'm not surprised that you're worried about your elderly mum (and yourself). Fingers crossed you won't have passed it on to her. Have you been in very close physical contact? (Less than 2m etc?).

Re your 'friends' - you're better off without them. They'll get it too in time and may change their opinions.

Out of interest what were the symptoms that made you get tested?

To all the posters claiming OP wants attention, there isn’t anything wrong with that. Every single person who posts on the internet wants attention.

Yes, so you don't have any typical CV symptoms and you probably have asymptomatic CV which just coincided with you having thrush and sneezing. And you have an anxiety disorder and got tested for CV as a result of MN telling you to - and some MNetters are telling everyone to. And you're not even feeling very ill.

If you're telling people on FB to get tested for CV because they've got vaginal thrush and a blocked nose and being all dramatic about how scared you are when you're really not feeling very ill, people might well react to that.

@Yellowc I hope you’re feeling better soon and I hope your mum is ok too. You’re better off without conspiracy theorists in your life, they’re a right headache

You are not losing friends because you have coronavirus. You are losing friends because they are idiots. 🤷🏻

COVID has been a great opportunity for me to slim down my FB friend list.

So far I’ve removed one who claims it’s all a hoax and shared videos about the illuminati, one who pretty much jumps on whichever conspiracy is top of the agenda at the time, a husband and wife couple who referred to wearing masks as being muzzled, and this morning one who posted some crap about how we shouldn’t have to wear masks for the benefit of other people when those other people probably do other unhealthy things in their lives so don’t care about themselves so why should we, or something.

I wouldn’t have shared it personally but I don’t think the pile-on on here was necessary.

OP - I see you've already posted your symptoms. Thank you.

They are just stupid people, probably winding you up - and succeeding. Ignore them. I hope you don't develop any bad symptoms. Take care.

Can't for the life of me see what the OP has done wrong. She has not been contacted by the test and trace people, so chances are that people she might have passed the infection onto have not been warned by T & T and are in their turn in danger of passing it onto others whilst asymptomatic.

OP, try not to panic about your own diagnosis. Hopefully you will feel better soon. But you were absolutely right to want to warn others, some of whom may have vulnerable family and really need to know.

Some people genuinely seem so scared of this illness that they can't even bear to have it mentioned: a bit like people used to think if you mentioned the devil's name he'd suddenly appear. I think it's much better to discuss it calmly and make sure everybody who needs to be warned about potential infection gets that warning by any channel possible.

There are some real idiots on facebook. I've been surprised by the posts of someone who I thought as being intelligent, well informed and caring. He has subsequently apologised and taken back his opinions after being hounded after by many of his peers.

I still have no idea what to think about his words. It wouldn't matter if he was a stranger but it's someone I've known for years.

I don't have a very big friends list but even so, I only set the audience to those I know well enough to be comfortable to share it with. The 'friend' who blocked me I have seen in person so he certainly needed to know.

The reason I said I'll have this post moved is because I can see it's irritating people and that wasn't my intention. I'm just a bit scared and as I'm home by myself and my two small DC I don't have anybody to talk to.

For the PP asking, I first came over a bit strange last Wednesday. I actually posted on here wondering whether it would be possible that it was related to a zoo visit as two years ago pre covid I got ill after visiting the zoo and thought it was a strange coincidence.

My mum doesn't have any symptoms at the moment and I'm hoping it stays that way as she's considered higher risk due to age and hypertension.

I already regret posting to Facebook but like I said it was a knee jerk reaction and I thought I was doing the right thing at the time.

I don't want attention per say, just reassurance really.

Sorry for posting here I've asked MN to move it to the relevant board.

I posted on MN once when I had pneumonia. I really didn't have anyone else to talk to and I was terrified. Of course I was told if I was posting I couldn't be that ill but aside from that I had lovely reassurance. I didn't want 'attention'.

@blurpityblurp

Some of the posters here are absolute arseholes. There’s a weird hatred on MN for social media, and it sounds like posters are jealous that the OP is getting attention. Imagine being jealous of someone for having a potentially fatal illness!

In the real world people put major stuff in their lives on Facebook. Only on MN is that considered being an attention whore or drama llama.

Well it often is! However in this case I think the op was very sensible to warn people with whom she has been in contact.

I hope she and her mum are OK.

@Yellowc

I would like to talk yes because I'm frightened. I suffer with anxiety as it is and was worried about this happening.

I'll ask MN to move my thread.

Initially it felt like glandular fever which I had before years ago, I considered whether it was an allergic reaction as I'd been to the zoo last Monday. The feeling of my throat being restricted (but not sore) lasted two days.

I then developed thrush down below.

Then a blocked runny nose and sneezes.

I didn't have a cough, temperature, shortness of breath or change in my taste or smell.

The group I shared it to on Facebook consisted of 16 people so not the world and it's wife.

My symptoms again for those asking

As much as I agree FB can be a ridiculous place, I’d be grateful if someone I’d spent time with let me know they had it.
Hope you feel better soon.

Hey OP. I hope you feel better soon. You were trying to be responsible and let people know when you did your heads-up on FB and I don't see why you should get a kicking for it.

If I tried to let people know I had any virus, I'd be totally blindsided by the responses you got. They should have thanked you for letting them know and wished you well. As they didn't, they are complete prats and no loss to you.

Ignore the idiots on here, you did the right thing telling people you had been in close contact with. Test and trace is pretty pointless currently, as you've discovered, they've not even contacted you, let alone your contacts yet!

Those two friends are people you probably don't even want to be friends with, ignore both of them and concentrate on getting better

Might be a false positive?
Hope you're feeling better soon.

Lol at people posting nasty comments on the internet accusing someone else of being an attention seeker for posting on the internet ....

Op I hope you feel better soon.

another one here not understanding why you've got so much flak for this. if I was in contact with someone who tested positive for COVID then I would want to know. I would also want to know to stay away from other people they had had contact with so actually I dont think letting people know via whichever channel you choose is dramatic.

I hope you feel better soon OP. your friend isnt worth loosing any sleep over - hes entitled to his opinion, as we all are, but hes not entitled to shove it down your throat then have a tantrum because you dont agree with him. very childish

@Monkeydog123

Yes, so you don't have any typical CV symptoms and you probably have asymptomatic CV which just coincided with you having thrush and sneezing. And you have an anxiety disorder and got tested for CV as a result of MN telling you to - and some MNetters are telling everyone to. And you're not even feeling very ill.

If you're telling people on FB to get tested for CV because they've got vaginal thrush and a blocked nose and being all dramatic about how scared you are when you're really not feeling very ill, people might well react to that.

It wasn't just thrush and sneezing.

For the first few days it felt like I had glandular fever, which i had as a teenager so recognised the feeling.

Except it wasn't GF. It was coronavirus.

Jesus Christ some of you people are blunt to the point of coming across as nasty.

Don't ask for your thread to be removed. You do deserve reassurance and sympathy, yes. Some people are just dickheads.

I dont understand what you did wrong. I think it would hit home with more people if more people did put on fb they had covid.
Sometimes you just want someone to talk to and are scared and a fb post is the quickest easiest way.
I hope your feeling better soon

@Northernsoullover

I posted on MN once when I had pneumonia. I really didn't have anyone else to talk to and I was terrified. Of course I was told if I was posting I couldn't be that ill but aside from that I had lovely reassurance. I didn't want 'attention'.

Yep I had a similar response when I was in hospital recovering from sepsis after giving birth. I was posting on here to distract myself and hopefully hear from others who had gone through the same.

I couldn't possibly be that I'll because I was able to use mumsnet.

Im glad you received some kind comments at the time, sometimes you just need to talk don't you. I'm glad you recovered too