fucksake now all DD15's friendship group has arranged to meet up!!

[fuckinghellthisshit]

I have of course told DD she cannot go.

All of them (5girls 3 boys) are saying their parents say it is fine as long as they don't hug. I am really annoyed, why do people have to make everything harder.

Fucksake.

I wonder if this period of time will have reduced teenage pregnancy rates at all. Or whether there will be a spike now that teens perceive that it’s ok to go forth and engage in social activities again?

Random musings while I make the toddler’s breakfast (and wish she was a teenager so I could have a lie in...)

If they live in the UK, then even if they were unfortunate enough to be orphaned and living in care (or even on the streeets) they are privileged compared to many in the world.

The fuck?

When people are saying the homeless are privileged, in the middle of a pandemic, you know people have lost it.

Newsflash: it’s ok to have problems even when people are dying. Including giving a shit about unhappy teenagers.

I predict / Won't things change in the next few weeks? Little by little I think they'll allow social interaction, people will be able to meet, so long as social distancing is followed.

When people are saying the homeless are privileged
if you want to be cold about it, as they still have access to medical care, assistance for shelter and food... they are still better off than many.

The world can be a horrible place out there. I am not sure i agree with the race to the bottom for the homeless, but many hysterical posters on MN do need a reality check when they rant about their current situation and having to spend a few weeks pottering around safely at home.

Young people are really paying the price in this lockdown

Are they?
I think all sorts of ages and all sorts of people in all sorts of situations are paying the price, particularly those who are dealing with it on the frontline. For most of us, we're paying some sort of price, but we're distanced from the worst sufferers of the virus. I can't imagine having to actually deal with fighting to save lives.

So sure, young people are having difficulties like the rest, but it's a stretch to hint it them having it particularly worse.

It's not the teenagers fully though is it, it is the parents allowing them out.

I have three teenagers and while one is missing school they have ways of keeping in touch with their friends and they are all sticking to the rules.

It's very hard for teenagers. I don't know why so many people lack empathy for them. We all were teenagers once, have they forgotten? I would have hated to have bern locked down at that age.

When people are saying the homeless are privileged
if you want to be cold about it, as they still have access to medical care, assistance for shelter and food... they are still better off than many.

What planet do you live on?

When does the meeting one friend each start?
As if when is that allowed?

Two of mine are meeting one other friend and going for socially distanced walks. And once a bike ride

I live near a park, and guarantee that this is what the parents would say of half the kids who show up looking sporty on expensive bikes, then sit and smoke pot in the large field for an hour.

Sometimes I'm envious of parents locked down with older dcs who don't need constant supervision, then remember parenting a teenager on lockdown must be so hard!

There are always others parents saying their DC can do things you won't let your DC (stay out late/take drink to parties/wear inappropriate school shoes) such is life. Teenagers will always push the boundaries and rebel a bit. It's what they do. Instead of staying out late at a party and coming home tipsy they are meeting friends outside but socially distancing. You won't let your DC join them, I wouldn't let mine but other parents making things harder isn't unique to lockdown. In fact I've quite enjoyed a break form not having to be the the patent when is meaner than everyone else's parents.

The teenager next door to me has been meeting up with her friends in her front garden for weeks now (mum fully aware and accepting).

The mum says "oh we follow the rules where we can" complete with wink and laugh as if you say "we are doing whatever we want".

Just awful.

I really think some people here might've skipped being a teenager. Of course they're making plans to meet up, and I'd have done exactly the same at that age. Whether or not parents will/should/can stop them is another matter, but I dont blame the teens for one second for making those plans.

@Oblomov20 I think in England you can now meet one person outside if you observe the 2m stuff.

Definitely seen older teenagers snogging on one of my walk routes!
Not just one lot either...
Not a surprise.
Just imagining the conversations to their parents- Just going for my daily walk... All carefully choreographed for secret meeting up...

@toolatetooearly I agree with you and know that that's just what teenagers do - it's the parents I don't get. My son is only a toddler but if he was older and did something like this he'd never hear the end of it! I'd be furious.

We all remember that one of the hardest things about being a teen is being different to our peers. Which is why some parents breaking rules makes it harder for everyone else’s.

I might be inclined to check that “everyone else’s parents” have agreed though.

Of course it's entirely possible none of the parents have a clue what's going on. Teenage have been lying about having parental permission for generations.

A teen in our road had a party at the weekend. I saw at least 2 friends arrive in cars although from the noise I suspect there were more already there. The 2 friends in cars stayed overnight. One of the host's parents in a police officer!

For once I'm grateful my teenagers never seem to want to leave the house!

I wish my teenagers would go out and see friends. They are being so compliant that it makes me want to scream. They need the company of their friends. I need them to go out a bit, too.

Make a whatsapp group with the parents then you can check if everyone really thinks it’s fine

My dd tells me crap like this. Unsupervised large scale sleepover, everyone’s staying, everyone’s parents say it is fine. Texted the only parent I knew and she was horrified, had no idea it was unsupervised and said her dd was definitely not staying over!

Other parents are the bane of your life when parenting teens. Well that and the moods, tantrums, rudeness etc...
(Teens also come with lots of positives but not the thread for that!)

On my walks in the woods with the dogs I’ve seen small groups of teenagers gathered together, it’s not that surprising that teenagers find a way to get around the rules. DH is in his second week back in the classroom with 14 to 16 year olds. In the classroom no problem, all spaced apart properly and following the rules. As soon as they’re outside, lots of them are hugging and generally messing around together as usual. No doubt they’ve been told at home how to behave, they’ve certainly been told by school how to behave, but many of them just don’t take it seriously.

Caught DS16 lying on the grass round the corner with 3 mates drinking Monster last week when he was allegedly going for a solo bike ride for exercise. Gave him a bollocking of course, but it's happening everywhere and will get worse with warm weather and light nights.