Anyone missing just being on their own?

[MilkTrayLimeBarrel]

Just that really. Before lockdown I had my own routine for doing things and having the house how I like. I am beginning to find DH's habits really infuriating. Examples are:

• making endless cups of tea and coffee, always with a new teaspoon which he leaves on my clean tea towel
• never ever washes up an empty milk bottle - just leaves it until I have to do it!
• stands behind me when I am on my PC/tablet and comments on what I am looking at
• throws all his shoes, clothes and jackets either onto the floor or into the bottom of the wardrobe
• never cleans his bathroom unless I nag and nag
• won't clean his desktop (glass) even though I leave the spray and cloth on it and ask him to do it

I know these are small problems in the way of things, but they all just make me crosser and crosser. I NEED time on my own!

[Phifedean123]

I was just thinking this then when I was coming back from the shop (my only alone time I cherish it 🤣)
My DP is one of those people who has to constantly make noise. Talking or singing and I feel like screaming at this point.
My two year old is driving me crackers he had just started nursery in January and was loving it and I always used to have my evenings where I'd put my music on or read a book cos dp was working. Now DP is here, every evening aaaaargghh 🙃

[TorchesTorches]

I agree. I wake up in the night and enjoy it because it's the only time I have to myself without demands or noise or responsibilities.

Or rather, I thought it was the only time. At 3am a few nights ago, I was on Facebook and a former acquaintance (male) that I am facebook friends with, but havent seen in over 10 years, sent me a fb message sayng 'hi sexy' as he could see I was online . Apart from the fact that I have had 2 kids, put on 2 stone and have aged about 20 years in the intervening period, so am not remotely sexy, AND apart from the fact that he is married to a gorgeous lovely wife (I knew her too years ago) and has 3 kids, my first thought was CAN NOBODY JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!! (I blocked him).

[Kab30]

I am so wanting to be able to just sit and watch what i want ..xxc

[pocketem]

The thing about watching what you want surprises me. Surely everybody has at least two screens in their house what with phones/iPads/laptops etc? You can each watch what you want?

[Ifonlyfor1]

Yea it is exhausting.

[TheSandman]

The thing about watching what you want surprises me. Surely everybody has at least two screens in their house what with phones/iPads/laptops etc? You can each watch what you want?

There is that. But watching what you want without having to listen out for other people is so much better. There's stuff I want to watch that I can't when my kids are around. As sure as eggs is eggs the little buggers will walk in during the only sex scene /gory bit in a two hour movie... or demand feeding just as the show is reaching a climax and all the convoluted threads I have been following are about to be resolved...

I can't relax enough to enjoy anything knowing I'm about to be interrupted any second.

[Rosspoldarkssaddle]

What are you doing?
Why are you doing that now?
Where are you going?
Why have you done that?
Do you have to do that now?
What, where, why all fecking day.
I work from home. I now have three at home. DH is the worst offender. The other two just ask what's for tea.
I am making him make his own calls, pick up his meds, and do his own admin and he wants me to constantly explain every. Fucking. Thing.
The patio is calling.

[emmathedilemma]

Try living on your own for 6 weeks with no human contact other than a passing chat with the neighbours and zoom calls......it’s not that easy either!!

[Realitea]

My DH makes constant noise. Clearing throat, sighing, humming..and then eating loudly, listening to loud music, tv on too loud. It's really annoying! I want to go back to work!

[homeschoolmyarse]

Downloaded a star wars game for ds, thinking it would get me some quiet, oh no, he wants to run it by me, frame by frame

[Defenbaker]

@emmathedilemma - that sounds quite lonely - I think it's true you can have too much of a good thing. It seems that during lockdown many people are at either extreme of the company spectrum - either they're feeling crowded and missing some quiet time alone, or they're alone most of the time and missing human contact. Both situations are hard.

[TheSandman]

It seems that during lockdown many people are at either extreme of the company spectrum - either they're feeling crowded and missing some quiet time alone, or they're alone most of the time and missing human contact. Both situations are hard.

It is possible to be in both states at the same time (Quantum Lockdown Syndrome, anyone?) My kids are crowding my headspace to the point where its really starting to hurt and my wife is so withdrawn that I'm lonely as hell.

[Peaseblossom22]

It’s bizarre on the one hand I am craving my own space and solitude but on the other hand I am not sure I have ever felt so lonely

Dh normally commutes , no commute but keeps the same similar hours except gets up a little later. So by 7.30 he is in his office ( used to be spare room) emerges a couple of times for a coffee or lunch ( only makes his own unless I specifically ask ) lots of loud conference calls where he seems oblivious to the volume of his own voice , although he is getting better at this . Appears about 5.00 to ask me to take the dog for a walk for an hour , which is nice but is at the worst time for me and he gets all offended if I don’t go. We return and he leaves me to cook dinner and disappears to work more until then , comes down for dinner and then usually back to work again.

Also have one ds also working from home and one year 13 who is still having some lessons and is playing a lot of COD loudly with friends ( never been into PlayStation so this is new) .

I am also working from home , usually do three days in office but now that seems to have stretched to being constantly on call . Also feel quilty if I am caught not either working, cooking or cleaning! It’s a bit like running a hotel .

In addition I seem to be the one doing all the emotional support of parents and parents in law.

Just longing for some peace to read a book or garden without either work messaging me or people needing food or my attention or implying that I am having it easy .

[GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman]

Yep. As soon as I settle down to bloody anything, somebody wants me. It's not as if they're toddlers, they are all 18+. It's as if I put my headphones in and an alarm goes off...