Anyone missing just being on their own?

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Just that really. Before lockdown I had my own routine for doing things and having the house how I like. I am beginning to find DH's habits really infuriating. Examples are:

• making endless cups of tea and coffee, always with a new teaspoon which he leaves on my clean tea towel
• never ever washes up an empty milk bottle - just leaves it until I have to do it!
• stands behind me when I am on my PC/tablet and comments on what I am looking at
• throws all his shoes, clothes and jackets either onto the floor or into the bottom of the wardrobe
• never cleans his bathroom unless I nag and nag
• won't clean his desktop (glass) even though I leave the spray and cloth on it and ask him to do it

I know these are small problems in the way of things, but they all just make me crosser and crosser. I NEED time on my own!

Dh still working but adult dd is staying here for lockdown. Not used to it. I go for long walks on my own and read a lot in a separate room. Too much effort to talk.

Yes and I didn't realise tbh because I like people to be around usually, went for an hour walk this morning by myself and it did me the world of good.

Me too... Always thought I loved having the house full.. Loved Big family meals.. Love catering for the masses... Etc etc.. Turns out I hate it.
I have four dds aged 17-23 and dp here, plus three dogs.
Its a big house and we are few mins from beach... But I just want the house empty... Again..
I am used to being on my own some of the week.
I am also fed up of being the responsibile adult, making decisions on cooking, shopping etc

Absolutely, dcs usually all at school all day and dh at work from 730am til 630pm, apart from an hour when he comes for lunch. I feel like I have no time to have thoughts of my own atm before I’m bombarded with somebody wanting something or other 🙄

I was just thinking today, I miss having Saturdays to myself. Before this I'd go to bootcamp and then chill out for the rest of the day while my partner took the children to visit his Mum or Nan. Even once things go back to a more normal state, they won't be able to go as both his Mum and Nan are shielding.

All I can say is thank you to you all.
Before I read your posts I thought I was losing the plot.
Normally I have time on my own while my youngest two are in school. Now I have to help them with school work 9 to 3.30. May eldest daughter is home from university complete with boyfriend.
Normally I work from home, now my office is a classroom. No space in my own house for me.
All I do all day is cook, clean and try and get my 13 year old to do her schoolwork. Struggling to find time to do my own work.
All I want is a bath in peace.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3896020-The-loneliness-is-becoming-less-and-less-bearable?msgid=96100513

Perhaps you should look at his this thread and it might make you feel better.

That's really unnecessary

Oh god yes me too. I am so fed up with the loop tapes that pass for conversations around this place too. With no new experiences from school or work to bring home, the wife and kids just end up going round and round the same conversational tracks again and again.

And again.

Ooh that was an extreme reaction @User202004

Yes family are annoying but even having my 2 primary age DDs half the week is better than the half week I spend alone. I really really feel for single people with no kids at the moment. Your lack of empathy is vile

@unambiguousbeard shall I go onto the thread you've just posted and post a thread about someone who has just lost a parent to the virus and tell her she should be grateful her parents are alive? No, because that's a dick move. Don't try to turn this around on me for supposedly not having sympathy for the random thread you posted, I sincerely do, but coming here to shame someone for struggling at the moment with a sadder story isn't exactly good human behaviour is it? So yes my over reaction is out of sheer frustration of your ignorance.

I may have to start early morning bike rides just to get some alone time. Even though it'll kill me

unambiguousbeard

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Big news, there's usually another opinion on a subject

Massive wake up call for you

Well my point is you can carve out some alone time by going out for exercise or locking the bathroom door. You can't create company.

Hell yes, OP!

They follow me around! I go to read and they all appear. And the endless questions! I also have a TMI need for alone time but the thread hadn’t gone that way (yet )

@unambiguousbeard oh wow thanks for that, you know what, I didn't realise! I am so grateful we have enlightened posters like you to point out these things, dopey over here has been leaving the bathroom door unlocked, I can't wait to feel the calm that will descend on me when I take a shit later with the door locked, in your face lockdown!

I’m so glad it’s not just me! I can’t bare it. DH works alone 55 hours a week and doesn’t understand why on his day off I need a few hours peace while he watches the kids, rather than me being with them all and ‘enjoying the family time’

I’m so peopled out, constantly being touched and talked too. I’m used to wfh alone

I've very recently started c25k. I work weekends and get half an hour in my car alone but it's not enough. We're not all carbon copies of one another. People have different struggles. Can't measure misery

I am usually at home alone for at least 8 hours 5 or 6 days a week because DH is working.

He is not working at the moment. He is self employed and works in people's homes so no way is he doing that at the moment.

I am loving it. He is talking about cutting right back on work once things get back to some sort of normal and I could not be happier.

What are you all going to do when you retire? DH is my best friend and we love spending time together

@lynsey91 go to restaurants, the gym, library, workshops, holidays, beach.....I do not plan on spending my retirement locked in the house 24/7. Plus my own difficulty is the fact atm I am trying to work a full time job with 3 other people in the house, so I'm either dealing with employees or the people in my house constantly, it's exhausting and not remotely what I plan on retirement being like and not a reflection of my relationship with the people I love.

My husband is also one of my work colleagues, so working from home hasn't really made much difference. We both disappear into our offices in the morning and meet up for dinner, sometimes lunch too.

So nice to hear other people feel the same. I usually work part time and my one day at home on my own is golden. I try and get out for a walk or run once a day for a bit of space, or I get up early for a bit of peace and quiet or take myself off to the bedroom when everyone else is downstairs.

I do feel guilty in a way because my dsis is all by herself and finding that tough and my DM is finding being at home with DDad all day every day a bit of a trial but I think this situation throws up challenges for everyone in a different way

I have started getting up at 6.30am. It helps. Everyone else sleeps in til 9 - by agreement.

Oh god, yes.

I am single parent to 3 dc with ASD. In my former life, sometimes the only thing that got me through the day was the fact that I had a chink of time on the middle of the day when they were all at school, just for me. I often just embraced the peace, and the silence, after the whirl of the morning and before the storm of after school.

It has now been 45 days of uninterrupted single parenting, with the constant noise, and never a moment to myself.

I love my children dearly, but god I wish they could be quiet, not need to touch me, and were able to entertain themselves at all, even just for 10 minutes.