Could anyone else do this forever now?

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I don’t particularly like it but I wasn’t halpy before either so now it’s just like a different version of unhappy and in some ways it’s a lot less demanding.
I’ve given up trying to home school either dc. I’ve given up going out at all. It’s much much much easier to stay home, not get dressed, watch tv, read some books, wait to go back to bed.
I could do this for a really really really long time. There’s no joy but god it’s easier than real life.

No, I’m teaching by videolink most of the day and it’s utterly exhausting and has none of the joy of actual teaching. I can’t wait to get back to my usual routine.

I’ve 2 with autism ,the eldest spent years never leaving the house ,No school ect and couldn’t be left alone ( turned the gas on ) .2 years ago the youngest went the same way and won’t leave the house ,no school ,no friends ,nothing ,just me stuck at home ,ordering what I need of internet .
Now is no different ,as long as I don’t turn the news on ..as then I just want to hide in bed

I nearly could,

I’m shielding and really miss going out at all. I’m hoping it will get ‘safe’ enough that the restrictions on me will be the same as lockdown now

My Easter treat to myself was to come out from under my shield and go for an illicit run at 0500. If I could run at quiet times a few times a week, I’d be OK

The fly in the ointment is the need for DD to go back to school at some point, and I am not confident in ability to shield effectively in our house.

And bizarrely, even though I am highly vulnerable, I’m not in a group that could access a test for a household member who becomes symptomatic

No. I’m finding it hard this week & want to bust out (obviously I won’t). Missing my family & community of friends. Sad we won’t get to go on our hols this year. Sad my kids are missing out. Sad I can’t go out with my pals and have a blow out. Also I’m grateful that we are all safe & well but I couldn’t do this forever. Even a socially distanced catch up with the kids running around in the park (not near each other) would do me. Having said all this I’m enjoying not being under so much pressure & ive been focussing on getting fit & have shifted some weight due to not being sociable.

forever? Today I'm not even sure I can do it until bedtime. I was doing ok, i didn't like it but I was doing ok, today, no not ok.

I need to get out. I need to see people, I need to do something. But I don't want to go out there either.

I think you should allow your DD to receive her presents. 5 minute drive if they could combine it with a food shop or going for a walk would be fine. You could always stash them for a day or 2 before handling them.
You do sound low OP. Would you consider calling your GP for a chat?

@kimlo I feel the same. It hasn’t really bothered me too much so far but this week I’m finding it hard. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

Please let your parents drop presents off for your daughter. It isn't fair that she misses out because of how you feel. And imo it is essential that your children have as 'normal' a life as is possible.

Lockdown is hard enough mentally for children without them thinking that no one cares enough on their birthday. Don’t be mean, allow your parents to drop your dd’s gifts off and see your dd through the window! They must be missing her so much. Don’t deprive her of that!

As for answering your question no I wouldn’t want to live like this, dh hasn’t been paid for 6 weeks, we have to communicate with the outside world through phone and text, I miss my mum and I also miss my friends. My dd is desperately missing her friends too, they talk on FaceTimed but it’s not the same,

I understand lockdown is essential and I do wish it had been stricter however some for of normality needs to resume soon.

I’m loving it !
Miss DS who is grown up and living away , DD came back just before lockdown , she is furloughed
My parents are both dead , so I don’t have to worry about them
DH deals with the inlaws
DSis and I share a greenhouse , so I see her most days , and the greenhouse has never looked better
I’m self employed and wanted to retire anyway , I’m making the most of it , as when restrictions are lifted and we go back to work it’s going to be ( hopefully ) madly busy

Wish my DM was alive for my DCs birthdays this year, I would 100% let your DPs drop gifts off.

No, OP, I wouldn't. We had 4 holidays and our wedding booked for this year. You can live like this after too if you like it so much🤷🏻‍♀️

Both me and my daughter are homebodies really so we're enjoying it. Love the ordered way they do the shopping at Tesco with the orderly queues and distancing etc.

I do miss heading to the beach on nice days for sand castles and walks etc, but other than that it's all fine.

Country walks, reading, homework, time with my daughter, it's what life should be about, not mortgaging your life span to pay stupidly high bills for meaningless "stuff"

Definitely not. I miss my DD, my job is hanging in the balance, I'm sick of seeing the same 4 walls every day and I'm bored as hell.

No. I hate it.
Everything that makes life enjoyable has gone.
I'm sick of messaged "friends" and getting no response.
I want to go out and meet people, and talk and laugh and chat.

Most of all I miss church and church people so badly and the worry that if we die it will probably be without a priest there is very scary.

It’s not being mean - mumsnet is full of threads berating people for doing non-essential things. It’s not essential.

I think celebrating birthdays is important.

I added some distinctly frivolous to online order for DD for hers. I think a safe drop off of presents is fine as a birthday one off (assuming journey is not too long - in which case get something else delivered and save existing pressies for the next occasion)

I’m getting lazy; have stopped bothering straightening my hair or putting on makeup. I’ve gained about a stone. I bought a freaking birthday cake yesterday because I felt like one....and there’s nothing better to do.
With the rain setting in, it’s worse. If I don’t catch Corona, I’ll probably get diabetes or die of a heart attack at this rate.

It is essential for your daughter. So yes you are being mean by depriving your daughter of presents and the chance to see her grandparents even if it's through a window.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with letting your parents drop gifts for your DD outside your door. You could let them do that and it breaks no rules.

After all, delivery men and the postman still deliver, so why is that any different.

It’s not being mean - mumsnet is full of threads berating people for doing non-essential things. It’s not essential.

It's also full of other threads about various issues, do you agree and believe them all?

Make the decision based on your DD and let them drop the present off. I wouldn't give a flying fuck what Mumsnet thought.

I could easily do this for another month no problem. It’s nice having a slower pace of life, watching the birds in the garden, trying out new recipes, clearing out cupboards or just enjoying the sun when it’s out!
If it goes on much longer than that I will run out of things to do though.
I’m slightly worried about going back to normal and rushed around again, I used to find that so stressful.

And no, I couldn't do this forever. I'm not a particularly sociable person, but I do want my choices back, and to be able to go and see my parents and sister.

If you like living in lockdown then you can continue with whatever aspects of it suit you after it is lifted if you want to.

I do think you sound depressed though. You should contact your GP to be assessed for that.