I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

[detachablehoof]

So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

[Mascotte]

@Leighhalfoennysthigh I agree. I'm sick of the hierarchy of death around at the moment when only one kind matters.

I think also the stuff that's happened on my life makes me think death is not the worst thing and living your life as fully as you can is what matters, not cowering in fear. Well, that's not for me, I don't mind at all if others want to stay in or whatever. Sorry for your losses.

[Pomegranatepompom]

Where exactly have I said there is a hierarchy of death?

I’m truly sorry that people are struggling so much that a hcp professional dying because they are looking after covid patients doesn’t register.
I really hope anyone working in critical care doesn’t see this thread.

For the record- I haven’t said anywhere that only covid deaths matter. I’m not sure anyone has.

I keep repeating this in the hope it provides some comfort - cancer care/ surgery/ cardiac care has not stopped in my trust.

Hope life improves soon for everyone struggling.

[Coffeeandbeans]

@Teaandbiscuits88 I just want to say that my children are now 15 and 17. Please please don’t worry about teaching your 6 year old at this stage. They will not fall behind. I know it’s easy for me to say but as they get older you realise how much pressure we put ourselves under and it really isn’t necessary. Children learn so much from play and copying. Just really enjoy this time with your babies because before you know it they will be leaving school. You will never get this precious time with them again.

[Leighhalfpennysthigh]

I’m truly sorry that people are struggling so much that a hcp professional dying because they are looking after covid patients doesn’t register

Oh please cut the faux sympathy.

FYI I am a HCP. My mother was also a HCP. I'm also working in the NHS again.

I still don't think that the death of a HCP is more important than anyone else's death for any reason.

Now excuse me I've got my fifth teams meeting of the day to sort out endoscopy services.

[sourcreamnchives]

'Oh please cut the faux sympathy'
😂 this is why I love Mumsnet

[Dinosauratemydaffodils]

Well the thread seems to have moved on a bit since I was last here. I'm now on setraline and have sleeping pills. My dh is under strict instructions from the doctor not to let me out of his sight until they kick in (although he's currently failing at that). I feel horrendous with the added benefit of a thumping headache curtesy of the setraline. Still feel utter despair and still have all the "fun" aspects of my ptsd back. Really not seeing any light at the end of the tunnel because the world it looks like we're going to escape into isn't one I want to live in.

My kids and those of my less screwed up friends are all starting to struggle. Lots of anger, frustration, misery...ds is refusing to skype or facetime anyone because he wants to see them in person. Dh is working stupid hours because a chunk of his company are furloughed because loads of clients put work on hold which they've now approved but they don't want to take the workers off furlough just yet just in case.

[Leighhalfpennysthigh]

@Dinosauratemydaffodils thinking of you and hoping for better times for you and your family soon.

[Leighhalfpennysthigh]

@Dinosauratemydaffodils I'm so sorry I didn't mean to put the biscuit there, slip of the finger.

[LilacTree1]

Dinosaur I’m amazed you got sleeping pills. I like your doctor.

Hope they help

[Mascotte]

@Dinosauratemydaffodils 💐

[Oly4]

I think that the hierarchy of death exists because they are mostly preventable deaths. And without lockdown, hundreds of thousand more would have died. I’m sorry if you don’t find that sobering but I do.
But back to the original OP, yes I agree, I’m bloody sick of it. It’s for a good reason but I’m sick of it. Nothing to look forward to

[Mascotte]

@Oly4 but lots of deaths are preventable but not in lockdown. It's quite clear from mumsnet and the public that mental health and domestic violence and undiagnosed illness and associated deaths don't matter just now.

[Oly4]

I agree there are all those extra deaths to consider Mascotte - some as a direct result of lockdown. But I still don’t think that toll of deaths will be as high as the toll would have been from Covid if we hadn’t done lockdown. So one type of death count has had to trump another for now..
hopefully that will change as we get the virus under control

[Cantata]

Excellent Guardian article here

[TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead]

That Guardian article is spot on

[HeIenaDove]

Fucking hypocrites

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2020/05/05/exclusive-government-scientist-neil-ferguson-resigns-breaking/?WT.mc_id=tmgliveapp_iosshare_AvRS4lrtNXXQ

Exclusive: Government scientist Neil Ferguson resigns after breaking lockdown rules to meet his married lover
Prof Ferguson allowed the woman to visit him at home during the lockdown while lecturing the public on the need for strict social distancing

[LilacTree1]

Helena I started a thread on this, just in case you want to look.

[Mascotte]

It seems we're not alone in being fed up of lockdown...

[HeIenaDove]

I found it

[Bramblebear92]

Agree with The Guardian to some extent. I'm in favour of keeping lockdown a bit longer if it helps us have fewer deaths and we're less likely to have to lockdown in the future.

Having said that, I can't for the life of me understand why large museums, National Trust Parks etc. cannot be re-opened. They might not be essential, but they might bring people a bit of... I don't know... joy? 🤔

All the museums and National Trust Parks, and even some outdoor beer gardens I've ever been to have all had greater social distancing potential than my local supermarket ever will.

[LilacTree1]

Meanwhile, in Putney

www.wpcc.org.uk/latest-news/news/post/160-why-are-we-taping-off-benches

So it happens in posh areas too.

[Dowser]

I think also the stuff that's happened on my life makes me think death is not the worst thing and living your life as fully as you can is what matters, not cowering in fear. Well, that's not for me, I don't mind at all if others want to stay in or whatever.

Totally agree Mascotte. If I am meant to go now, I’m going out living, not cowering in my bunker

Like Leigh, I’ve had too many sad things happen in my life To give a flying fuck.
I’m taking precautions. I’m building up my immune system . That’s as far as it goes.

[LilacTree1]

Dowser, I’m with you

I’m worried that I won’t have an immune system going as I’ve been trapped in solitary for six weeks and it will likely be three more.

[Leighhalfpennysthigh]

@Dowser don't be in a rush to go, we'll miss you!

[Grandma28]

I truly understand, I’m a grandma and so so fed up with not being able to see my granddaughter who’s only 10 mins up the road. At 2yrs she can’t social distance so Boris’ meet-ups are useless to me. I’m retired and so very very bored