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I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

802 replies

detachablehoof · 28/04/2020 00:18

So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

OP posts:
Coffeeandbeans · 03/05/2020 10:37

I too have lost my parents to cancer way before they should have gone. I think we need to get back on with our lives as this virus isn’t going away. I have good days and bad days like everyone. I worry about my teenagers. With polls, those on furlough, or course they will Want it to continue. How about asking those who have no income and bills still coming in.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 03/05/2020 11:03

I'm glad you're all still here. I went out for an unauthorised and totally non essential drive yesterday and then got a nice meal delivered by a restaurant which felt like a massive treat. However....

My business is finished and I'll have to make people redundant when they return. I have discovered I've got fewer friends than I thought I did. I miss my partner desperately and my dad is facing PTSD because this is reminding him of his experience with the real stasi.

I'm dreading what Boris Johnson is gojng to say next week. I can't believe that we are getting out of this any time soon because the voices of the spoilt people who see this as a fab holiday because they have their families with them in their nice houses, huge gardens and no money worries.

To the supremely selfish nurse who dismissed everyone's worries yesterday - you are not the only one working 75 hour weeks. Many people are. Many people are doing so without the knowledge that their job is gojng to still be there when this is over.

LilacTree1 · 03/05/2020 12:46

Grumpy “ The fact that this time next week we could all be allowed to go out and about is a major worry.”

This will absolutely not happen, especially with it being a bank holiday weekend.

LilacTree1 · 03/05/2020 12:48

Leigh “ I have discovered I've got fewer friends than I thought I did. I miss my partner desperately and my dad is facing PTSD because this is reminding him of his experience with the real stasi. ”

I really feel for you. I’m losing friends because I’m shocked how many actually want to live under the Stasi!

MsSafina · 03/05/2020 12:57

You asked how many of my family I'm prepared to sacrifice. Well two of them have lost their jobs and another one has mental health problems and living on his own in a flat.

MsSafina · 03/05/2020 12:59

I'd like to know how many of the excess deaths are due to people not being able to get treatment for other conditions.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 03/05/2020 13:02

@LilacTree1 me too. My parents actually lived through an oppressive communist regime and had to be smuggled out along with us children. They lived in an environment where neighbours reported other neighbours for perceived infringements, where freedoms were curtailed, where people were restricted in where they could go.

It was not fun.

Why the fuck do people want to live like this?

FliesandPies · 03/05/2020 13:03

I’m losing friends because I’m shocked how many actually want to live under the Stasi!

That is definitely a 'thing' isn't it? Some people don't want freedom, choice, rights. Don't want the bother of thinking for themselves. They'd rather have the certainty of having their lives ordered down to the smallest detail.

Dowser · 03/05/2020 13:16

I think this sums it up very aptly..

For the people crying for the country to remain shut down, answer these questions:

🔶 1) How many children should starve in order to make you feel safe?

🔶 2) How many families must go bankrupt in order to make you feel safe?

🔶 3) How many wives and children must be stuck at home with an abusive partner/parent in order to make you feel safe?

🔶 4) How many business owners should lose everything they've worked for in order to make you feel safe?

🔶 5) How many people are you comfortable with committing suicide from hopelessness and financial ruin in order to make you feel safe?

🔶 6) How many people have to lose their jobs, their health insurance, their life savings, and most important precious time with their family and loved ones they will never get back to make you feel safe?

Come up with an actual number, don't just dismiss the questions. Come up with the number of people that you think should surrender their lives for YOUR feelings and YOUR safety.

Does it make you feel safer knowing that your unwarranted fear and panic are costing others their livelihoods and even their own lives?

Each time you whine and complain about keeping the country shut down, remember what it's costing OTHER people for you to sit in your house watching TV, swallowing the panic narrative, and hoarding toilet paper.

Also, remember this - if the TV news had never told you to be afraid of this virus, you wouldn't have. You'd have never given it a thought, you'd have gone about your life as usual along with everyone else. You'd likely have never known there was a virus at all, you’d have thought that this was just another type of Flu. So, remember that all your fear and panic exists because you were TOLD to live in fear and panic. Regardless of whether things reopen or not, you still have the choice to stay home and not go places if you feel that is what is best for you and your family.

Orangeblossom78 · 03/05/2020 13:25

The BBC are at it too with the shaming etc, I found this piece today pretty bad. Going on at people for going to look at the stars for example.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52501417

CruCru · 03/05/2020 13:28

I've realised why some posters keep referring to toddlers - it's because the OP referred to her toddler. I was going to get quite snippy about that but am now going to assume that those posters haven't read the actual thread itself.

Kimtendo · 03/05/2020 13:30

Right this second some poor African is getting chased by a pack of ravenous hyenas. You call your life a problem? Get a grip woman and get some perspective. As long as someone out there has it a little worse than you then you have no right to feel aggrieved about anything, EVER!!! Them's the rules and if you feel like complaining then make sure you look behind your back to check for hyenas chasing you before you dare press on that 'post' icon.

sourcreamnchives · 03/05/2020 13:41

@dowser this in its wonderful entirety.

grumpyorange · 03/05/2020 13:41

@LilacTree1 who knows what will happen...

However I hope it won't just be a release into the wild 😂

LilacTree1 · 03/05/2020 13:53

grumpy you’re welcome to stay at home.

grumpyorange · 03/05/2020 13:54

@LilacTree1 I didn't come here for a shitty response. As I said I totally understand the issues etc people are facing but gave my experiences.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 03/05/2020 13:55

@dowser. Excellent! For me, enough people have or will die due to the consequences of this pandemic. It's time we had a grown up conversation about risk without the hysteria.

LilacTree1 · 03/05/2020 13:57

grumpy I was stating a fact.

Mikki2019 · 03/05/2020 13:58

@LilacTree1 miss my partner too so much. He’s going to move in with me next week. Which means him then being away from his children till this stupid lockdown is lifted (

bloodyhellsbellsx · 03/05/2020 14:01

Great post dowser!
We need to take the leap and see what happens because this can’t continue.

breadwidow · 03/05/2020 14:15

I think the Uk is in a shit position where because we went into lockdown too late, we will have to be in it for longer. And the lack of testing / tracing only exacerbates that. Fuck so depressing

I'm feeling really bleak today I have to say. Think made worse by fact I just didn't enjoy a virtual catch up with friends I had last night - it just felt strained and odd. I have had that a few times, where I walk away from the laptop feeling worse than before

MarginalGain · 03/05/2020 14:20

I’m losing friends because I’m shocked how many actually want to live under the Stasi!

Seriously! I started telling people 48 hours ago, when they suggest yet another Zoom drinks, that I'm done with the cheerful lockdown culture and I'll see them IRL and they're all pretty shocked.

I continue to be concerned that the vast majority of the population is under the impression that lockdown is the product of 'scientific consensus'.

Mikki2019 · 03/05/2020 14:23

What’s the long view of all these people ??? I mean , don’t they realise that this virus is now part of our world ? Argh so frustrating !

iamapixie · 03/05/2020 14:25

Dowser Great post

LilacTree1 · 03/05/2020 14:28

Bread given the evidence is mounting that lockdowns useless, I dont think it’s a legit excuse to make it longer. The real problem we’ve got now is the length of the furlough scheme.

Marginal I don’t do Zoom or anything like that. If I had work and had to, sure, but I hate all that and the idea of a Zoom party.....
I don’t think my computer would cope anyway.

Mikki sadly, I think the long view is that the vaccine will save them and they don’t see they will pay a huge bill themselves.