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I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

802 replies

detachablehoof · 28/04/2020 00:18

So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

OP posts:
Cantata · 03/05/2020 20:03

@Lynda07 Thank you for your civil reply - but people are dying every single day, and not of Covid. People will now be dying because of Covid - but not because they have the illness. Because they have other conditions that have gone untreated. Because they take their own lives because they now have nothing.

Pomegranatepompom · 03/05/2020 20:03

Well that depends on if the partner has had contact with anyone infectious- as you can’t know that, the risk will increase if people move houses.

Mascotte · 03/05/2020 20:08

But they could live with me and that would miraculously change things?

Mikki2019 · 03/05/2020 20:17

@mascotte ditto - we live apart because our children are settled in school in different cities but we usually split our time half and half between our respective houses, the kids also in holidays

Mikki2019 · 03/05/2020 20:24

Really wish the dementors would get off this thread

Mascotte · 03/05/2020 20:25

@Mikki77 me too.. they just can't help themselves it seems!

Lynda07 · 03/05/2020 20:32

Mascotte: If you are being a responsible parent, you are doing the right thing. Kudos to you.

Mikki2019 · 03/05/2020 20:35

Totally
Anyway , @mascotte you are ‘allowed’ to move households , NPCC guidelines state

www.college.police.uk/What-we-do/COVID-19/Documents/What-constitutes-a-reasonable-excuse.pdf

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 03/05/2020 20:43

I'm sick of people saying it's just a boyfriend if you don't live together

Yep, me too. They can all just fuck right off.

Pomegranatepompom · 03/05/2020 20:45

Calling someone a dementor for having a reasoned opinion???

People will justify anything to do what they want it seems.

Lynda07 · 03/05/2020 20:53

I didn't even know what a 'dementor' was but now understand it is a Harry Potter figure who sucks joy out of people's lives. I suppose some people are like that but most at least try to think positively and to help others where they can.

It looks as though we will have some measure of 'normality' in the near future. There are other media reports of same but this was the only one I could get without loads of adverts coming up. I hope this cheers people up, it's a start. I still can't find out when foreign travel will be allowed once again, it doesn't affect me but someone close to me has a fiance in another country. They are all being very good and patient about it but obviously their plans have come to a halt. I realise that's a small issue compared to what others have to put up with, so do they.

Anyway here's the article:

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8281771/The-Partys-Social-bubble-limited-just-10-family-friends-scientists-warn.html

Mikki2019 · 03/05/2020 20:54

@Leighhalfpennysthigh exactly that

We don’t live together because we don’t want to uproot two sets of kids from their schools OR take them away from their other parent - Ffs

Dowser · 03/05/2020 20:56

Thank you
doing it, cantata and marginal

(Takes a bow )

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 03/05/2020 20:56

@Mikki2019 you don't need to justify your decisions. I live apart from my partner too. Our reasons are different to yours, but still valid.

Dowser · 03/05/2020 21:11

I just said to my dh quite a lot of mums said thanks for the post.
He said , which was that, I said I think it’s the one where I said shit a lot.
I’d forgotten about that one, posted hurriedly before we went out .
In case it sounds a bit ambiguous, he said it does, it wasn’t all my own work so I’m not taking the acclaim for it.

We had a nice walk by the river, after the rain, totally alone, then I drove to a huge park, with it’s gates closed.
I mean this place..is massive
There’s no rhyme or reason for keeping such a huge open space closed..and it has a massive car park.
I drove all around till I found where we can surreptitiously park the car and will hit it on our next trip out.

Yes, I’m that person and I hate all the mealy mouthed Covid adverts..the number of times we sit Shouting fuck off and piss off at the tv..and my husband is as meek as they come.

I cannot make sense for the life of me with all the lovely parks , beaches etc around us, why they feel the need to do this.
There’s plenty of space for everyone to spread themselves about..if the park is full, move on somEwhere else.

LilacTree1 · 03/05/2020 21:16

The open space thing is particularly mad

Cantata · 03/05/2020 21:31

Isn't it, just.

We ought to be credited with some common sense. If everything re-opens, I'll keep a reasonable distance from everyone else. That seems a fair trade-off for having my life and livelihood back. I'm guessing most people would do the same.

Cantata · 03/05/2020 21:35

@Leighhalfpennysthigh and @Mikki2019

I don't live with my partner because my teenagers are still vulnerable after having been abused, and we thought it better for them to know that their home is with me, and me alone.

However, I have seen him every day, at his house, and will continue to do so. This, to my mind, is far better than either moving him in with my children (which would be wrong) or not seeing him at all. I will be blowed if I'm going to pay the price for doing the right thing by my children, and not see him at all.

Mascotte · 03/05/2020 21:37

@Cantata I'm going to do the same kind of thing. I've been too distraught and seeing him makes me able to cope. No adult company and all the struggles I have just now make this the better option, all risks weighed up.

Cantata · 03/05/2020 21:46

@Mascotte Flowers. We really are not alone.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 03/05/2020 21:46

@Mascotte @Cantata I'd do the same if he wasn't so bloody far away from me. The minute things relax I'm getting on that motorway and going to him.

The trouble on here is that every time someone posts a thread on here questioning the government or saying that we need to plan an exit strategy there are hundreds of posts from people trying to emotionally blackmail people and accusing us all of being murderers. The truth is, the infection rate and the death rate is dropping. Some areas of the country have had fewer deaths throughout the entire pandemic than others had in one day. The NHS is getting back to normal.

It's all very well people sitting at home forever more through fear of catching this, but in the real world people's actual lives - their work, their kids education, their house, being with their families and friends do matter. It's not living at the moment for many many people. Every day is torture, nit just a bit boring, repetitive or dull but fucking torture because they are alone, or they have lost their business, their job, whatever.

Oh and don't bother patronising me by saying it's not torture. People are allowed to feel it is

Cantata · 03/05/2020 21:49

@Leighhalfpennysthigh Flowers for you, too.

My family are (at nearest) 200 miles from me. So I will be making an "unnecessary journey" to see them next week. I will be staying overnight, because I'm not doing it there and back in a day. I'll be taking the teenagers with me.

My reasonable judgement says that none of us has seen anyone outside of a very small circle for several weeks, so nobody "will die" as a result of this.

Pomegranatepompom · 03/05/2020 21:56

I think when you know people who have been very unwell it makes you stick to the rules much more rigidly.
My friend and colleague died of covid (nhs) proven to be through work, she was self isolating in hospital accommodation. She had 2 DC. She died because she went to work and was exposed. It’s unbearably sad.

Sorry to see so many people struggling, Rock and hard place ....
But if you isolate - we’ve proved we can reduce transmission.

Mascotte · 03/05/2020 22:01

Oh fuck sake. It's sad when people die. They die of all sorts of things every day. My sibling died from suicide. That's made me think differently too. And there is no more risk than if we lived together: we'd do exactly the same things.

nildesparandum · 03/05/2020 22:02

I am getting like a caged animal.I am of a certain age group and have a medical condition which affects my breathing so have been in isolation since March 21 which is supposed to last for 3 months.
I have two grown up grandchildren living with me .If they go and see their mothers they cannot come back here.I am in the way more fortunate than some of my friends who are living alone.
I am longing to see my other grandchildren and my great grandchildren.My son stands at the gate to speak to me from my front
door.I am missing my friends, also my voluntary job.I am missing going round the shops, and seeing my two sisters.We all talk on the phone but it is not the same.I am sick of trying to get online shopping.
But we are all in the same boat so to speak
Hurry up and go away virus, you have overstayed your welcomeYou have killed and distressed a lot of people