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I know IABU but I am totally fed up of lockdown

802 replies

detachablehoof · 28/04/2020 00:18

So. I know I have an awful lot to be thankful for. My family are all in good health, we have no change in our income (yet), my husband is able to work from home, we have a big garden and had plenty of nice weather to enjoy it. There's just us two and our toddler in our house. We're a lot more fortunate than many.

But... I quite honestly don't know how much longer I can stand it. I'm grieving our old life, missing my parents so much, and finding it SO HARD to keep my toddler occupied at home.

I just want to go back to normal 😭 and it doesn't look like there will be a "normal" for a while. It's all just so uncertain and indefinite. It feels like there is nothing to look forward to any more and every day is a chore.

Anyone want to offer some solidarity?

OP posts:
Doingitaloneandproud · 03/05/2020 14:28

@Dowser that's a great post! Really well put

MarginalGain · 03/05/2020 14:29

Love the post Dowser.

I'd like to add to it: I've contributed seven weeks of my life to this misguided quest for 'safety' and that's quite enough.

Cantata · 03/05/2020 14:32

@Coffeeandbeans Well said.

Fantastic post, @Dowser. Thank you.

Cantata · 03/05/2020 14:33

Crossed with @MarginalGain

I've contributed seven weeks of my life to this misguided quest for 'safety' and that's quite enough

Same here.

iamapixie · 03/05/2020 14:40

MarginalGain and Cantata. Feel the same. And it particularly irks me as all these weeks are being paid for by the miraculous magic money tree, which was never there to fund any issues I cared about before, most of which would have lessened the effects the pandemic.

MarginalGain · 03/05/2020 14:41

Jeremy Corbyn may as well be in power. I don't think it could be any worse. We conservatives (small c) were all worried he'd go and nationalise the economy

MsSafina · 03/05/2020 14:43

China could be sued in International law
www.theweek.co.uk/coronavirus/106525/will-china-be-sued-over-coronavirus

breadwidow · 03/05/2020 14:43

LilacTree: lockdown stems infection but I agree that it's not a long term solution & ineffective long term, I completely agree we need a sustainable way out now.

Downer: great post. My husband has unfortunately full sucked up the fear fed by the media

Mikki2019 · 03/05/2020 14:45

@breadwidow yep my ex is like this and is now trying to use the kids to keep me and my dp apart !

MarginalGain · 03/05/2020 14:51

Downer: great post. My husband has unfortunately full sucked up the fear fed by the media

How are you coping with that?

MarginalGain · 03/05/2020 14:55

@breadwidow yep my ex is like this and is now trying to use the kids to keep me and my dp apart !

One of my very best friends has done this with her ex. She's determined that she's going to die if she gets covid19 because she's a smoker, despite me having sent her many articles indicating that this may indeed be protective factor and that her overall risk is minuscule (she's young-ish and fit) but she won't let her kids visit their dad if the new wife is there.

Hard for me to stay schtum because I know her ex quite well and like him, I don't approve at all, but what can I do.

breadwidow · 03/05/2020 15:16

Marginal: I basically don't listen to him a lot! It was hardest When we went out for a walk together (with kids) one day (last weekend I think). He was getting annoyed with me for not pulling kids into road to stay far apart from people. Roads weren't busy but I've seen some god awful speeding round where I live (central London) so think cars a greater risk. I have some sympathy for his fear, plenty of healthy people have died of this especially around his age (nearly 50). But at the same time I feel he's damaging his own mental health via the living in fear.

HeIenaDove · 03/05/2020 15:37

@LilacTree1 A lot of people dont have/cant afford the tech for Zoom.

Personally i dont shop online or have a Kindle so trying to get hold of a book i want is hard work
Tesco...........sold out
Sainsburys..............its non essential
WH Smith closed.

This probably sounds like whining but this also means the author loses out.

Oh and Sainsburys is stocking gardening and barbecue equipment I live in a flat.

So those in flats and/or tower blocks left out again

Only a small thing but a final straw moment for me.

Along with the thread on this board blaming the high death toll on overweight people

Despite the Nightingale hospitals having hardly any patients while people are dying in care homes and the care workers just left to cope.

But no its all the fault of those who arent slim!!

HeIenaDove · 03/05/2020 16:04

Perhaps all people in that category should shield right now My overweight friend who cleans in our local hospital included. And the others who are overweight who work in the NHS, for supermarkets and in care homes.

Does anyone know if they can get furlough.

Perhaps they should just walk out and say that due to the concern about their weight re. Covid 19 its best that they #StayHomeSaveLives.

Pomegranatepompom · 03/05/2020 17:03

How about BAME staff? They are more at risk too.

Mikki2019 · 03/05/2020 17:13

@MarginalGain OMG!

Yes, I think dp moving in will cause ex to say he can’t see the kids due the the ‘risk ‘

Still, I am going to press on with it as we have been apart for 6 weeks now ..

I did wonder if ex phoned the police after do moves in with me for lockdown - would they try to send him back to his own place ? Any ideas? Thanks !

MsSafina · 03/05/2020 17:28

The Swedish Professor explains why lockdown doesn't work.

MinesaPinot · 03/05/2020 19:14

Dowser that is a brilliant post and sums up the whole situation better than anything I have read it heard. Thank you.

MinesaPinot · 03/05/2020 19:15

Sorry that should have been "read or heard'.

HeIenaDove · 03/05/2020 19:16

People who went to second homes were told to stay where they were rather than make another unneccsary journey so as far as i can see this sets a precedent

Lynda07 · 03/05/2020 19:18

You can still buy books, HelenaDove. I've bought four in the last month or so from Amazon, they have plenty, so does ebay. As for a kindle, you could buy one of those, they aren't that expensive. I must say I prefer books but I know kindles are preferred by some. Here are some examples: www.amazon.co.uk/s?ref=nb_sb_noss&k=kindle&tag=mumsnetforu03-21

I don't do Zoom or anything like that but I don't particularly like being seen - 'going live,' it's called, I believe. Facebook messenger and emails are quite enough for me.

You're still allowed to go out for a walk every day and to buy shopping if you want to.

Lynda07 · 03/05/2020 19:22

Mikki2019 Sun 03-May-20 13:58:32
@LilacTree1 miss my partner too so much. He’s going to move in with me next week. Which means him then being away from his children till this stupid lockdown is lifted (
..
A partner is someone who does live with you, surely? He's your boyfriend.

It's not at all satisfactory for him to be parted from his children, I wonder what they will think of him putting you first.

Lynda07 · 03/05/2020 19:34

Cantata Sun 03-May-20 14:33:33
Crossed with @MarginalGain

I've contributed seven weeks of my life to this misguided quest for 'safety' and that's quite enough

Same here.
.........
I've been self isolating for at least as long as that but can't say I feel as though I've 'contributed' that much though I have tried to do a few things for people through the internet. Not enough really but the best I could think of.

At least I haven't contributed to the spread of infection, neither have I put any strain on the NHS by catching the virus myself. It's not killing me, I've grown used to not going out and as long as I can obtain enough groceries and toiletries, am not worried.

I understand some people are going stir crazy but it would be a disaster if an end to lockdown caused another wave of the pandemic. There are times when we have to be unselfish, it doesn't happen often and this is our time.

What happens if lockdown is gradually lifted, will people then be allowed to go abroad again? I imagine that will take longer. The idea of being quarantined in another country and not allowed back home for ages is horrific, let us at least keep the gradual end to lockdown here for the foreseeable.

People are still catching the virus and dying. That isn't pessimism, it's just a fact.

LilacTree1 · 03/05/2020 19:51

“ I understand some people are going stir crazy but it would be a disaster if an end to lockdown caused another wave of the pandemic.”

At the start of this, they said their aim was to take bites out of the curve, which would have meant small peaks.

Mascotte · 03/05/2020 19:59

I'm sick of people saying it's just a boyfriend if you don't live together. Bloody stupid. I'm a fifty year old woman and have been seeing my partner for three years; we have, responsibly, chosen not to live together just now because of my DC and the upheaval they've already had cos their dad departed.

And it makes fuck all difference to risk if we live together or in separate houses nearby. We love each other, are each other's support and are committed to each other.

I'm sick of being patronised and penalised for being a responsible parent.