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I can’t see an end to this.. 😔

309 replies

Mummypig2020 · 22/04/2020 17:40

God I’m really struggling the past few days.

I just want to see some light at the end of the tunnel. It just feels like constant negative news and nothing about the near future.

It makes me so sad. How are other countries starting to go “back to normal”? But we aren’t?

OP posts:
0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h · 22/04/2020 17:45

We're incompetent as a nation. We have a very high death rate and low testing levels. We can't keep our staff safe because we can't source PPE. We have a poorly resourced health service the creaks at the hinges.

We voted for silly politicians who were a byword for incompetence, ruthlessness and tribal obsessions. Then we expected them to behave like altruistic scientists. Now we're screwed until they can get their act together.

I'm sorry it's difficult.

user1485461206 · 22/04/2020 17:45

I have very bad anxiety and I was feeling like this for the last 2/3 weeks but I do think the end of it all will come and that we have to do our best to stay positive.
I think the countries who are somewhat getting back to normal didn’t have it as bad or are further ahead in their virus stages.
I am in no rush to get back to normal life if it means the risk of a second bigger peak.
I’m taking comfort in the fact that so far my family have stayed healthy, my job is pretty secure as is my husbands and my child is happy, that is what I am counting my blessings for each day, I do have some bad thoughts but I am doing my best to push past them and keep healthy mentally speaking.
I hope you feel better and feel at ease soon

millymaple · 22/04/2020 17:46

I feel the same. But have got some hope from the fact that vaccine trials are already starting.

BirdieFriendReturns · 22/04/2020 17:48

Unfortunately if we are on lockdown we could be waiting several years for a vaccine. We will just have to get used to it. Better to stay at home for 5 years and survive right?

Coronabored · 22/04/2020 17:50

We are not staying at home for 5 years. My company going back in just over a week, so that is 5000 people right off the bat. Life will be relatively normal for us thank Christ.

notsureneversure · 22/04/2020 17:50

I think the countries who are somewhat getting back to normal didn’t have it as bad or are further ahead in their virus stages.

This. I’m in Holland and it’s a lot more under control here. We’ve just been told that primary schools will start to go back part-time on 11 May. Other things will follow but it will be a slow process. It won’t be “back to normal” right away, it will be what they’re calling the ‘1.5 metre society’, the ‘1.5 metre economy’.

But I can promise you it will also happen in the UK, OP. Things will get better. Flowers

Waxonwaxoff0 · 22/04/2020 17:52

Birdie we will not be on lockdown until a vaccine is found. The country will run out of money if that happens.

Other countries are ahead of us in terms of infection rate OP, we will likely be following suit a few weeks after them. Remember a lot of then locked down before we did.

Costacoffeeplease · 22/04/2020 17:52

I’m in Portugal and apparently we’re going to start to come out of lockdown at the beginning of May, but very slowly with each step 15 days apart. But then we went into lockdown much earlier with much lower levels of infections and even lower numbers of deaths. Plus, outside of the main cities, the population is much sparser and more spread out, so I think that has helped too

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Mummypig2020 · 22/04/2020 17:52

@BirdieFriendReturns actually no. I don’t think many people will manage to stay in for years. It won’t be the virus that kills people.

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NoMorePoliticsPlease · 22/04/2020 17:53

In the first place tomorrow a vaccine begins testing and this is happening in many other countries, Secondly I have just come off a call with a friend in Rome and the situation is virtually the same there, they are just a little infront of us . Spain is also having a bad time. Everyone is resorting to blaming their governments but you have to know the problems of testing and PPE are the same, It WILL PASS,. For now manage your stress. Thing about a few little things that are good, eg nature and the envirinment are getting a break, we are spending less money, the in laws cant bother you, anything you like. This is now about you managing your feelings, not solving the virus

MargotB7 · 22/04/2020 17:54

Mummypig2020

Who are you in lock down with? Do you talk to friends daily?

I think because I get on well with husband & teenager and I am also in touch with all my close friends and family I am coping.

I know everyone isn't as lucky.

MarshaBradyo · 22/04/2020 17:55

I keep hearing really positive vaccine news which is good.

How nice it would be if we did meet the early projections.

Otherwise we just have to get through it, it’ll be ok at some point.

midgebabe · 22/04/2020 17:55

We were late to lockdown , and had let things get rather out of control, which is why other countries are ahead of us

And some are basically just relaxing their rules to be more like ours...Spanish children have not been allowed outside

But the data shows that the corner has been turned. So now is the time to keep going and to work out what we do next to avoid getting in such a state again.

It takes time, but we are probably talking weeks not months for some gradual changes. We can watch what mistakes other countries can make and hopefully get a better exit process

Hang on in there , progress is clear

NoMorePoliticsPlease · 22/04/2020 17:55

@0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h
Thats the most unhelpful and untrue post I have ever seen

vera99 · 22/04/2020 17:56

Whitty just said in the Press Conference that in the absence of a vaccine or a reliable therapeutic drug combo which he saw as very unlikely in this calendar year that the reliance would be on social distancing measures for the foreseeable

MarshaBradyo · 22/04/2020 17:56

Coronavored are you in the U.K.? Can you say the sector?

etopp · 22/04/2020 17:58

@BirdieFriendReturns I can only imagine you are joking. I'm finding every five minutes a battle. I think people are just going to start quietly getting on with their lives, in so far as they can. If nobody's telling us when it is going to end, that's pretty much on a par with them silently sanctioning a gradual return to seeing family and friends. Nobody can expect people, who are largely social animals, to stay in their cages indefinitely.

Grasspigeons · 22/04/2020 17:58

I think that many places 'locked down' before us, so of course we will re-open a little later. I also think our lockdown is quite soft compared to some places as we can go out for exercise and shopping. I think we will start to relax things soonish.

LilacTree1 · 22/04/2020 17:59

OP I share your fears Flowers

I wish I could say something helpful

midgebabe · 22/04/2020 18:05

Social distancing does not mean carrying on with this level of lockdown

It will need to be combined with contact tracing and testing but it should be possible to get much more freedoms and social interaction for people..visiting friends and family , going to the beach, and more working for those who can't work from home so easily .

Some things unfortunately may be slower to be released , there will be people who fall in the cracks but for most it should be more normal

LastTrainEast · 22/04/2020 18:08

0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h yes it was silly of the tory party to choose to have an epidemic just now wasn't it.

LastTrainEast · 22/04/2020 18:12

Mummypig2020 The other countries are not back to normal. Some have relaxed some restrictions just as we will shortly. It can't go back to normal completely until either we develop the vaccine (which is looking hopeful) or everyone has had it and got over it.

It's going to start getting back to normal gradually as we get the vaccine and when we've done enough testing to know what percentage have had it.

People talking about staying on lockdown for years are just confused and should be ignored.

user1471448556 · 22/04/2020 18:13

0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h I agree with you.

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Mummypig2020 · 22/04/2020 18:15

I feel so depressed. At the beginning of this I was holding on hope we could still go to Cornwall in July just to sit on an empty beach and breathe. Go and drive to a beautiful view and just watch the waves.

But now that’s out the window I feel like crap. I’m desperate to see my dad too :(

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neveradullmoment99 · 22/04/2020 18:18

I don't mind. I am a bit reclusive though and enjoy being at home. It doesn't really bother me. I can see a time when we look back and think wow! It wont last forever. I am quite confident they will find a treatment or vaccine, maybe not tomorrow but within the year. I reckon they will slowly ease the lockdown but only when the virus levels are low and they can trace who has it. I reckon social distancing will have to happen for a long time. I do think people will go back to work but not in the way we have been doing. Maybe a skeleton work force and those still at home. No idea how any of this would work around schools though.