ah Pigeon, I have posted on the thread.
I am sorry this has happened.
Your posts don't need to be fun. I moaned all weekend. We are all here to help each other get through and maintain some sense of humour.
This group, really helped me over the weekend. Talking out my problem and helping me get the root of it.
We are pretty fab! If I do say so myself.
We are here to support you. Please don't feel guilty. I know that's easier said than done.
My friend killed herself last year and I felt the same. If only I had done xyz.
Unless you had checked on her right at the right time, where symptoms are showing but not too bad she can't answer the door, it probably wouldn't have helped.
My grandad had a stroke in hospital. My aunt saw his face droop but he didn't survive. And he was in hospital, got care immediately. Not sure if that's helpful, but you are clearly a kind and loving person. You arenr one of these that ostracised older people or didn't care what happened to them. How you feel now, is because you are a good person, who wants to do their best.
Yes, I also worry about peolle living on their own. What happens if they have a serious but survival accident. My neighbour has cancer. I dont think he would go to hospital, so even checking on him may prove fruitless. He wouldn't tell us if he was bad. It will be waiting until he doesnt answer the door because he is too sick to.
My mum and dad split up when I was 2 and mum remarried. She then divorced him and some years later got back together with my dad. I have never been happier that they got back together. The thought of either of them being alone, makes me feel sick.
I feel incredibly lucky that non of my family live alone.
Please carry on posting here. Let us help you.
Not sure if any of that helped. But I hope so. ❤