People having family and friends visit

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Why do some people think that it's ok to have friends and family over? That they are special and the rules do not apply to them. So infuriating and an insult to those of us who are missing seeing our loved ones.

So you can sit at home like a mug if you want, but I'll carry on seeing my family.

Brilliant. What's the point 🙄

It’s a pity the NHS can’t put you at the back of the queue if you get ill @Pulpfiction1

Actually don't disagree with you @Pulpfiction1

My Mums house is the size of 3 of the terraces put together with garden to match so what's the difference?!!

Getting tired of this now the snitching flipping society. I've personally stuck to the rules my mom is struggling she misses the grandkids they are her life she misses me aswell but I've stuck to the rules like a good little sheep.
Next month I will be going to see my mom so my kids can hug their nanny and I don't care what anyone says they can ring the police and report me or mind their own business.

Fully agree Maria680

People need to stop spying and moaning about their neighbours

Since when were we ok to weigh up the risk....I’m happy for people to weigh up the risk and perhaps sign away their rights to nhs treatment. Otherwise it’s simply a case of them thinking they are special and exempt from the hell the rest of us are going through

Well if Govt ministers can do it why not, or are they special? My kids live too faraway for me to see them as they can't really pop round for a visit that involves a 400 mile journey but if they were closer I wouldn't worry about sitting in the garden well space out.

Well if Govt ministers can do it why not, or are they special?

So let’s just not have a lock down at all

No way would I be going to see friends or family. If one of them gets sick and dies I’ll be left forever thinking ‘was it me’ that gave it to them?
I don’t think people understand they can have the virus and pass it on with no symptoms.
I also don’t want to put the nhs and the selfless staff under more pressure because I couldn’t bear not to see my parents for a month.
I’ll follow the rules and sleep well at night.

OP if it was an obvious bbq/party I’d report them.

Since when are we able to weigh up the risk ? Maybe because we're adults and don't need to be treated like stupid children we know the rules laid down their drummed into us every second of everyday on adverts the radio the paper stay at home I fall asleep saying it.

Because one persons situation could be totally different to another you could miss your loved ones and want to see them which most of us do but for some they are their crutch and for their own mental health need them.

I'm sorry but this kind of curtain twitching wannabe police culture is doing my head in, one thing this virus has made obvious is there are some really small minded people in this world.

I don't think anyone is following every rule to the letter so let's keep our noses out of other people's situations for god sake!

I'm personally sticking to the rules but if others aren't it's not my problem or business.

@Pulpfiction1 out of curiosity, do you and your family feel that if you caught covid, you'd probably be fine? Do you feel there's no way you could pass it to someone who would be less fortunate? Do you not believe the science that mixing could in some way cause the death of others? Does it not bother you that the lockdown will last longer if the rules aren't followed? Not being goady, genuinely would like to understand other people's mindsets and I think it's healthy to air and discuss them rather than brew resentment.

At the end of the day, government won't lift the lockdown until the 5 principles are reached and lockdown is helping reach that point. I guess it'll just last longer if people don't follow the rules but I wonder if government have actually factored that in anyway!

Just get on with your life.

And stop overusing the word special.

I don't think it's fair to judge without knowing what is going on.

My elderly mother is, to outsiders, in good health for her age. But she is absolutely not capable of living on her own for long periods of time without help. She is not capable of cleaning a toilet, or laundry, or doing dishes. How do I know her neighbours aren't badmouthing me all over the place for continuing to 'visit'?

Also, we had a friend in our house the other day. Our neighbours might well have seen his car on our drive and decided that we were selfish rule breakers with no concern for anyone. But actually, he was only here because he was fixing our boiler.

Just to warn those of you who don't seem to get it, you can still get very ill from COVID-19 if you're not in an 'at-risk' group. I caught it from my DD2 (8) on 9th March, after she became ill with high temperature, chest pain and bad headache. I haven't been in hospital but I keep going down with chest infections needing antibiotics and I'm still unwell 6 weeks later.

Other people without underlying health issues have been hospitalised and some have tragically died. Some HCPs have died too. We're not only protecting ourselves, we're also protecting the vulnerable and the NHS.

It's not about sticking to 'rules', it's about protecting ourselves and others from catching this virus. I want the lockdown to come to an end as much as anyone, so that my DDs (11 and 8) can go back to school and see their friends and so that we can friends and family again, some of whom are vulnerable in our case. But this will take all the longer to come about if the infection and death rates of this virus don't flatten.

I won't be reporting anyone, as I have enough to cope with recovering from this virus myself and protecting my DDs and my DH (who has asthma) from catching it. But I do want people to weigh up the consequences of their actions.

Mittens I know the virus is nasty and I get that but what others do is not our business really they know the rules at the end of the day I hope you feel better

Both neighbours on either side of us and the ones at the bottom of the garden have been having people around frequently. It becomes obvious in the current warm weather because they have the back doors open and spill out into the garden! I know they aren't the neighbours voices, there's clearly extra people there and sometimes they make comments within earshot such as 'I must go home soon'! Now many neighbours on our street have taken to hanging out in the street and chatting but there are too many of them getting too close to social distance. All very lax! I am not taking any risks however, as DH gets asthma symptoms with coughs/colds.

My neighbours are doing the same thing whilst my son and I abide by the rules. Son who normally works away is now starting to feel hemmed in and would really benefit from meeting friends. Will he? No because we abide with the rules.
Meanwhile next door have had family over making a racket all day for the second time this weekend. And no they do not abide by the 2m rule as I can see them sitting together in the garden and going in and out of the house.

I've noticed a few of my neighbours have had their family over this weekend but sat in their gardens keeping distance.

I think people are just at the stage now where they are weighing up the risks and making an informed decision.

I must live somewhere very law abiding, which is a huge surprise to me! But I haven't noticed any coming and going that seems unreasonable. I know neighbours had two friends in their house one day, but there was a good reason for it, and it was a one off. They were so worried about being judged for it that they felt they needed to message me to explain.

My dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer 2 weeks ago. We’ve been told he has only days a week if we are lucky. It’s come completely out of the blue.

We can have barely no help because of the corona virus and the impact it’s having on cancer suffers and palliative care.

We have also been told that as these are exceptional circumstances that we are allowed to visit. At first we did it abiding by social distancing, but as the days have gone on my mum needs a hug and I want to hold my dads hands and give him a kiss. I am one of 4 children and we all need each other and need to be with each other.

You literally have absolutely no idea what’s going on in someone else’s life. Being monitored by my parents neighbours is adding a extra layer of anxiety on an already, quite frankly, horrendously hard time.

I have complete respect for the rules, we are all making sure we are only mixing with each other. I’m spending a fortune on having veg and meat boxes delivered to all my family so we don’t need to go shopping and mix with anyone else.

Sitting in your garden and having a cider, knowing your neighbours from a distance does not mean you know everything that’s going on in their life.

For anyone else reading this policing everyone else’s movement, please have some humanity. You really don’t know what other people situations are.

@maria860 Fair enough, and thank you for the good wishes. What bothers me is the number of people who say that no one in their family is in an 'at risk group'. I think they need to be aware that it doesn't mean either they or their loved ones shouldn't take care, as people without underlying health issues do die sometimes, or get seriously ill.

A lot of them will also go shopping and infect other people without realising it.

My relative died 3 weeks ago, we have been helping their partner with organising stuff & providing support which includes seeing them in the garden through a glass door.

I am so angry at the fuckwits who have flouted the rules, and those who increasingly don't seem to give a damn any more. More people than ever in the supermarket pushing standing too close coming in in family groups. Cyclists on the pavement just whizzing by less than a foot away. People out for a picnic. Fuck the lot of them. Get sick. Die. I don't care anymore. What a dire country we are, with this bunch of incompetent morons leading a pack of self righteous, entitled Britons nowhere fast. If I was a medic I'd down tools and go home. How can people be so fucking selfish as to lend tools and share gardens with family's they don't live with?