Neighbour abusing vulnerable delivery slots - what to do?

[Doeeys]

Need advice on what I should do...since the lockdown began, my neighbour receives on average 3-4 large online deliveries from Asda, Sainsbury's and Tesco, this usually occur on consecutive day's - this week she has had them Sunday (Sainsbury's), Monday (Tesco) and today (Asda). She is in her mid 40s and has asthma and has been classed vulnerable, however she often goes out during the week to do top up shops as I see her unloading shopping from her car. She has also contacted the local volunteer group to also get 3 large 6pints of milk when she only has herself and one 7yr old. What is concerning me is that there are really vulnerable and elderly people out there that can't even get one delivery slot and she has had 10plus deliveries since the lockdown and it appears she is abusing the system. I have a small 6mth old baby and I am still going out as I know there are people out there that are truly vulnerable and need these extra priority services. What are your views on this and what would you do?

You don't get classed as vulnerable just by asking. Dh had a "you are vulnerable " txt from Sainsburys (he's asthmatic) but no access to delivery slots. His parents are over 70. I applied for them. No word yet apart from marketing messages. I have MS.
Perhaps you could spend some precious time getting our shit sorted out. Or mind your own business.
Sorry to be blunt.

It makes me sad that at a time like this people should be considering those that are really in need

It makes me sad that with all this time on your hands you can't do anything better than spy on your neighbours.
ffs get a life, find a hobby.

@PastMyBestBeforeDate

Ring them. I got a shielding letter. Sainsbury's took forever to sort their slots out.

To be fair. I shop with Asda. Anyway.

Well apropos of this thread, loosely, very loosely....

I rang JS and asked why I couldn't even get considered for a slot, turns out when they revamped the website my address was removed, and as they didn't have a delivery address I was never going to get a slot.

That has all been amended now and card payments updated, I should receive an email in the next forty eight hours telling me that I have made the cut.

So message to anyone who is wondering why they can't get on to JS deliveries, check all your details are in order.

Note to OP if you are local to me, I now have Tesco and hopefully Sainsbury's in my arsenal, oh and Laithwaites are collecting the manky less than satisfactory wine we bought for Easter.

That should keep you busy for a while.

She could be doing it for others. E.g my mum ended up getting 3 deliveries in a week as I could only order to her and my grandparents could only order to her 🤷🏼‍♀️

There will be huge arguments over who is classed as vulnerable.
People will be judged for being classed as vulnerable when others believe there are people who deserve it more.
I don't have a clue whether or not anyone in my street has a delivery as I never think to look.
If I did happen to see a Tesco van, I'd just assume they needed it and wouldn't think any more about it.
I'm a single parent who is self isolating with a severely disabled child who is considered high risk, and I think myself lucky that I have someone to bring my shopping to me.
I certainly don't feel bitter about those who are able to get deliveries for what ever reason.

My DH is on the shielding list but I clicked that he doesnt need help with shopping on the government site as I do it online or pop out to the local shop. I have had to ask neighbours to help get lactose free milk as i couldnt get any. However i would prefer the priority slots to be used by those who truly need it. I sit up until after midnight every 8 days to book my tesco delivery slot and have no issues so far.

I have no idea how many deliveries my neighbours get in a week.

I don't sit by the front window spying on them.

3 carrots counts as 3 items.

It didn’t in my last shop. I think they’ve removed that an anomaly now. Thankfully!

Unfortunately I've known this lady for almost 10years now and I know her quite well which is why I was seeking advice. We've always been friendly and good to each other. I know for sure from what I know of her that she is definitely not doing what you ppl are suggesting of helping others. In the past she has told me of how she often distorts her situation to take advantage of schemes that are there to help ppl. Also she wouldn't be taking charitable donations from volunteers if she was helping others. We live in a quiet neighbourhood where unfortunately everyone knows everyone's business, this is also the reason why when deliveries arrive, it echoes and is extremely loud. Please read my posts carefully, they are misconstrued into something else

If you know her so well, why not just ask her?

You're friendly with her yet she openly admits to you that she exploits loopholes?

Aye right.

Because this is something that can cause a rift and I'm don't want to ruin our relationship, morally I know what she is doing wrong but at the same time I have to live next to this lady and I don't want that kind of negative atmosphere for my family when we are home all the time

This would be a good time for you to take up an absorbing, worthwhile hobby.

Wow I didn't realise there was such ignorance and ppl were so judgmental. I'm not questioning others but asking about my situations where I've given facts. This isn't about what others do. You have to ask yourself why some ppl do certain things. An example is the grenfell tower tragedy when ppl would fraudulently say they lived there to get handouts (there were many individuals prosecuted for fraud over what is quite frankly despicable actions)- why would ppl do that when a lot of ppl lost their lives so tragically and lost their homes and were genuinely in need? I can't explain why ppl do what they do, however collectively we should all know what is morally right and wrong.

You're accusing us of being judgemental?

Really.

If your neighbour really is getting 3 deliveries a week, it's their own money they're spending, not a free handout.

I don't think you can liken booking shopping delivery slots that are open to the general public, with fraudulently claiming you lived in Grenfell to get a cash handout.
Those two examples are poles apart in the moral highstakes.
Booking a delivery slot open to the general public is fine and not a problem.
Cashing in and fraudulently claiming money you are not entitled to is a fraudulent and illegal activity. Poles apart!

@smartiecake that's not what I meant, I gave an example of a when people are dishonest. I'm not drawing parallels to that. The issue here is someone is obviously taking advantage of a situation meant for those in need. If ppl in the first place thought of others and didn't stockpile like other countries in the world - we wouldn't be in this situation or going to the supermarket and finding essential shelves empty. There is a responsibility to each other and ppl should be considerate of that. These are testing times instead of hoarding and taking away vital services for those that are really in need, people should be more considerate and maybe think about who else is missing out when they want 3 consecutive delivery slots. It's also putting those poor delivery guys at risk who are out delivering, obviously online deliveries need to happen but ppl need to be conscientious of others

Drip, Drip, Drip

I can see why you changed name rather than posting about performative nosiness with a regular nick.

OP, so what are you going to do about it?

They are not delivery slots for the vulnerable. They are just delivery slots.

In the past she has told me of how she often distorts her situation to take advantage of schemes that are there to help ppl

Sure she has.

How do you explain the five black bags of non recyclable rubbish then?

I explained my 8 bags. We’ve had a big clear out. How you can tell it’s non recyclable through black bags, I’ve no idea.