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Neighbour abusing vulnerable delivery slots - what to do?

261 replies

Doeeys · 14/04/2020 12:26

Need advice on what I should do...since the lockdown began, my neighbour receives on average 3-4 large online deliveries from Asda, Sainsbury's and Tesco, this usually occur on consecutive day's - this week she has had them Sunday (Sainsbury's), Monday (Tesco) and today (Asda). She is in her mid 40s and has asthma and has been classed vulnerable, however she often goes out during the week to do top up shops as I see her unloading shopping from her car. She has also contacted the local volunteer group to also get 3 large 6pints of milk when she only has herself and one 7yr old. What is concerning me is that there are really vulnerable and elderly people out there that can't even get one delivery slot and she has had 10plus deliveries since the lockdown and it appears she is abusing the system. I have a small 6mth old baby and I am still going out as I know there are people out there that are truly vulnerable and need these extra priority services. What are your views on this and what would you do?

OP posts:
GoofyLuce · 14/04/2020 14:01

Why would you think that you need to do anything?

You have no idea what the shopping is, who it's for and how long its meant to last.

Wind your neck in love.

Namesgonenow · 14/04/2020 14:02

It's about reducing the spread of this virus, reducing the strain on the NHS and saving lives.

Is that you Bojo

Namesgonenow · 14/04/2020 14:03

you shouldn't jump to conclusions

The fucking irony

Tattiebee · 14/04/2020 14:04

Some people are just selfish, pandemic or not.

thebridgelooksbroken · 14/04/2020 14:05

You seem to know an awful lot about her!

Have you got the house under surveillance? Hmm

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/04/2020 14:06

Yawn...

zsazsajuju · 14/04/2020 14:07

Lol at feeding hostages!

WotchaTalkinBoutWillis · 14/04/2020 14:07

If you have seen deliveries, have you also seen people rolling up to take it away for themselves? If not the neighbour has issues and needs pity

What?
If she is buying for other people, why on earth would they be coming round to take their shopping from her, that doesn't even begin to make sense - because if they could get out of the house in the first place to get food, they wouldn't need your neighbour to get it from them in the first place, they'd just go out and get it themselves, surely?
I honestly think common sense has gone out the window on here Confused Grin

ajandjjmum · 14/04/2020 14:08

I don't care how many families you're shopping for, you don't need three or four delivery slots a week.

To do so at the moment makes you greedy in my book.

ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings · 14/04/2020 14:09

It's so bizarre that you think she can't be shopping for other people because she unloads it all into her own house. What would be the alternative, that she unload it all onto her front door step and sort it out there and then in full view, then bag it up and take it away immediately without even putting her own shopping away first? Of course she would unload it into her own house and sort it out indoors in her own time. I mean it's possible that she's just a massive greedy person who genuinely eats 4 big shops worth of food a week to herself, but is that really the most likely option? Spend less time poking your nose in and more time using common sense op.

Alsohuman · 14/04/2020 14:10

She’s obviously shopping for other people. Good for her.

wizzywig · 14/04/2020 14:11

Id just be jealous she can get a slot. Nothing in tesco, amazon, sainsburys at all

justasking111 · 14/04/2020 14:11

But if the OP sees all the deliveries, how come she is missing folk coming round to take the goods off her. This makes no sense at all.

LockdownLucy · 14/04/2020 14:12

One of the local mums is like this - posting about her delivery slot wins multiple times in a week, I just don't understand how you can even get through that much food. I know I should mind my own business but it is a bit irritating!

ajandjjmum · 14/04/2020 14:13

Alsohuman
If so great. But does she need four deliveries a week?

We are shopping for three different oldies - going to store as we can't get an online delivery slot, although two are vulnerable and one is shielding.

Let's be honest, we're all spending more time looking out of our windows at the moment. I do - moaning at all the cars parked at the end of our drive, as the dog walkers flock in to take their dogs over the fields. I know I'm being unreasonable, but these are strange times.

EstuaryBird · 14/04/2020 14:14

We’ve had a couple of comments about our Asda deliveries, a fortnightly recurring slot. We’re both in our 60s and both with lung conditions which don’t warrant shielding but GP has told both of us that we should isolate ourselves as we wouldn’t be good with Covid 19.

We thought we were doing the right thing (Save the NHS etc) and not over buying as at the end of the 2 weeks the cupboards are pretty bare but apparently our deliveries have been noticed.....and questions asked about whether we’re entitled to them..

GreenLeafTurnip · 14/04/2020 14:14

I think lockdown is getting to the OP 😂

viques · 14/04/2020 14:18

I think the best thing would be OP would be to pop a note through her door, ask her what the secret is to getting so many delivery slots then post the magic formula on here.

That way,

Your neighbour knows you are watching So will mind her ps and qs from now on

You are satisfying your inner Crocodile's Child

You are helping the massed ranks of MN

Win win win

Hoarder123 · 14/04/2020 14:19

NRTFF. Regarding vulnerable people, if they are genuinely vulnerable they should be on the shielded persons list. People on this list are told not to leave their homes and, if they haven’t got anyone to shop for them, they are offered a FREE box of groceries (staple items), to be delivered each week. My husband (shielded list) was given the option of this, but as we have someone able to shop for us, we have obviously not taken up this offer.

Ilovethekittehs · 14/04/2020 14:19

Get away from your windows and stay out of other peoples business. I am so sick of all this virtue signalling nonsense.

Alsohuman · 14/04/2020 14:20

But if the OP sees all the deliveries, how come she is missing folk coming round to take the goods off her. This makes no sense at all

She’s probably delivering the shopping. Make more sense now?

MamaBearLockdown · 14/04/2020 14:20

and questions asked about whether we’re entitled to them..

you are paying for them, so why wouldn't you be entitled. If you can get a slot, keep it!

pootlepootle · 14/04/2020 14:20

I would recommend crochet. Easier to learn and master than knitting with lots of free videos on the internet to teach you. It's a cheap hobby to start and will keep your eye off the window.

nellythenarwhal · 14/04/2020 14:21

She’s probably delivering the shopping. Make more sense now?

And she'll be taking them in to sort by recipient and chill/freeze any items that need to be stored cold.

bellsbuss · 14/04/2020 14:22

I honestly couldn't say what my neighbours are up to and how many deliveries they have. I've been too busy enjoying the sunshine with my family and keeping in touch on video chat with friends and family.

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