Neighbour abusing vulnerable delivery slots - what to do?

[Doeeys]

Need advice on what I should do...since the lockdown began, my neighbour receives on average 3-4 large online deliveries from Asda, Sainsbury's and Tesco, this usually occur on consecutive day's - this week she has had them Sunday (Sainsbury's), Monday (Tesco) and today (Asda). She is in her mid 40s and has asthma and has been classed vulnerable, however she often goes out during the week to do top up shops as I see her unloading shopping from her car. She has also contacted the local volunteer group to also get 3 large 6pints of milk when she only has herself and one 7yr old. What is concerning me is that there are really vulnerable and elderly people out there that can't even get one delivery slot and she has had 10plus deliveries since the lockdown and it appears she is abusing the system. I have a small 6mth old baby and I am still going out as I know there are people out there that are truly vulnerable and need these extra priority services. What are your views on this and what would you do?

[Hadjab]

It's about reducing the spread of this virus, reducing the strain on the NHS and saving lives

The spread of the virus is not going to be lessened in any way by her delivery slots being taken up by others, vulnerable or not.

[doodleygirl]

OP you need to step away from your window and concentrate on your life and what you can do to ensure you stay safe and maybe help others during these strange times.

Spying on your neighbour and reporting even on a anonymous internet forum is not healthy for you and can be considered as just plain old fashioned nosiness.

[boylovesmeerkats]

You can judge your neighbour if you want, maybe she is taking the piss but maybe she isn't. We've had 2 Tesco orders in a week, I booked them a month ago but after the one tomorrow have no more food coming. I have to be honest it's made my life much easier, as a family of 4 we're eating so much and the deliveries have had nearly everything available which meant I could bake my son a cake for his birthday yesterday. When we had a week of no deliveries we were in and out of the shops because there either wasn't enough stock or we couldn't buy enough. I know I should have cancelled them but didn't, it has kept me and my husband out of the shops though and I do have asthma so trying to stay in. If we were going to the shops we always go late in the afternoon so everyone else gets a chance to pick up food first. I certainly haven't got any slots by claiming to be vulnerable.

[PegasusReturns]

Don’t jump to conclusions



The irony

[nellythenarwhal]

It's about reducing the spread of this virus, reducing the strain on the NHS and saving lives

Supermarket deliveries reduce spread this strain on the BHS. If 2+ families combine forces to get 1 delivery then even more so.

I suspect that she's buying for other people because she can get the priority slots.

[turnthebiglightoff]

You are over invested here, OP. Let it go and step away from the twitchy curtain.

[ElfDragon]

Some people are arses.

They were arses before the pandemic, they’ll be arses afterwards, and there’s not much you can do about it, OP.

It’s not right, but the arses already know that.

My ex (lives alone, with dc visiting EOW) has 4 slots booked within the next 10 days. God only knows what he is ordering, that needs 4 separate deliveries, rather than one big shop, or why he thinks it’s reasonable (or even rational!)

[justasking111]

If you have seen deliveries, have you also seen people rolling up to take it away for themselves? If not the neighbour has issues and needs pity, she will unless wealthy go broke.

[McFarts]

OP sorry but you need a hobby!.

I have two ASDA deliveries a week, always have done, theyre booked as regular slots and ive kept them. We're a family of 5, i have two children with Autism and both have restricted diet. So on a normal week, i stock up on the things they will eat twice a week. Currently i am shopping for my mother (who is vulnerable) as well and my father in law (who is shielded). I cant always get out straight after the deliveries arrive to take our parents their shopping often its later in the evening when DH is home from work (after i have sanitised it!). So to my curtain twitcher neighbours, i look like im having two very large deliveries every week.

[1forsorrow]

As I've been noticing it more and more and we are into week 3 of this, I've noticed that she isn't doing shopping for other households as she's always unloading into her house rather than taking supplies to other households. So you aren't just noticing the deliveries because you hear the van, you are monitoring enough to be able to say she isn't ever taking stuff to other people. Honestly look after your own business, this isn't healthy.

[Penelopelouise91]

I live in a place where there are many elderly residents and many of them are really struggling
What are you doing to help the people struggling?

[FortunesFave]

Bet she's been getting stockings and chocolate from them Yanks too.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

What the hell is she buying?

How can she afford it?

Where is she keeping it?

[unhappyclap]

I think it's better to mind your business in this situation.

[LookTheOtherWayPlease]

Lol there's no spying and constant teetering at windows, you shouldn't jump to conclusions.

And the lack of self-awareness award goes to...

[QuillBill]

Slots can’t be that rare if she’s having four a week. And she’s managing to always have them at the same times too, nap time.

What are your views on this and what would you do?

My view is that it’s fine. Goodness only knows what she’s doing with it all but that’s nothing to do with anyone but her. There is plenty of food available.

I would do nothing. Expect maybe rearrange my rooms so I could sit in the back room rather than the front.

[Peppafrig]

Not only is the OP watching her neighbour out the window getting deliveries she also knows for a fact the food goes in the house and doesn't come out. Some basically watching her neighbours 24 hours a day. I say it again your poor neighbour .

[sobeyondthehills]

@Doeeys

Not gone the way you have wanted?

[MamaBearLockdown]

What are your views on this and what would you do?

Ask her to add some of my shopping to hers to help me out?

[Theharderiwork]

Call the chocolate biscuit police.

[vodkaredbullgirl]

I live on the corner of a road, i see some delivery vans come and go. Do i jump and see where it goes, nope.

Ive had a few deliveries myself, hope my neighbours are not judging me.

[Murinae]

I had two deliveries this week booked before they slots were all locked down. I have shopped for us (family of four) and two elderly neighbours with them. Now only have one slot a week booked for the next three weeks booked by staying up till midnight once a week. Will continue to ask the neighbours what they need too.

[chocolatesaltyballs22]

Oh bloody hell leave the OP alone you set of vultures. She was trying to point out that others are struggling to get even one slot a week (which is correct) and this woman seems to be monopolising multiple supermarkets. I would tend to agree with her and I think that the whole system for the very vulnerable is just not bloody working for some - speaking from experience here!

[Deux]

OP, you are doing lockdown so much better than your neighbour. Congrats!

[NewModelArmyMayhem18]

@OP you have no idea what your neighbour is doing. As other posters have said, she's probably doing a brilliant job helping vulnerable friends and family members. Wind you neck in!