Neighbour abusing vulnerable delivery slots - what to do?

[Doeeys]

Need advice on what I should do...since the lockdown began, my neighbour receives on average 3-4 large online deliveries from Asda, Sainsbury's and Tesco, this usually occur on consecutive day's - this week she has had them Sunday (Sainsbury's), Monday (Tesco) and today (Asda). She is in her mid 40s and has asthma and has been classed vulnerable, however she often goes out during the week to do top up shops as I see her unloading shopping from her car. She has also contacted the local volunteer group to also get 3 large 6pints of milk when she only has herself and one 7yr old. What is concerning me is that there are really vulnerable and elderly people out there that can't even get one delivery slot and she has had 10plus deliveries since the lockdown and it appears she is abusing the system. I have a small 6mth old baby and I am still going out as I know there are people out there that are truly vulnerable and need these extra priority services. What are your views on this and what would you do?

[AnneOfCloves]

Wind your neck in, OP. You’re being a nosy parker, and no one likes those.

Curtain twitchers and judgemental neighbours are the last thing this situation needs.

[SquirrelInTheOak]

Can people pls focus on the point

[notacooldad]

Can people pls focus on the point, yes some vulnerable customers are getting slots but a large proportion are not because of behaviour like this
No the point is you should mind your buisness if it I'd a true post.
You know jack shit about why she is doing what you are alleging. Butt out and live your best life away from twitching curtains.

[myrtleWilson]

Have you NC'd for this post OP?

[Swingingsally]

My friend has a volunteer shopping for him , they wash it before giving it to him and wipe it down.

It's this level of low mentality and low, we are all bearing the brunt of

[Crimsonnightlotus]

How do you know she is abusing the system though. She may have legitimate reason to get what she gets.
It's very unhealthy to check up on what others are doing. Best stay away from it and concentrate on yourself and your family.

[fezzesarecool]

Honestly op just focus on you and your baby

Get a good daily routine going, sensory activities etc Maybe move where baby naps/close windows if the noise is disturbing her

Make sure you are putting aside time for your own self care too

You really should be this involved with your neighbours business and if you do want to be involved as others have said then do something productive for others, help out, donate

[NaomiFromMilkShake]

Can people pls focus on the point

That will be me then.

Naughty Naomi.

[majesticallyawkward]

It's like twee bingo here 'selfish behaviour' and 'uncertain times' smh.

How can you know what's in these deliveries or what your neighbours circumstances are? What do you call a big shop? And how loud is the van that it wakes the baby up?

OP, step away from the window. It's not healthy and if your neighbour has managed to book these slots that's her business and her right to use them without the busybody next door curtain twitching and tutting.

FWIW I'm not particularly struggling to get a delivery or click and collect every 10-14 days, there isn't lots of choice but clearly not every area has no slots at all- have you actually checked to see what availability is like?

[CherryBakebadly]

By the way whoever said asthma won’t put you on the list, not true - Sainsbury’s accepted DH because of his asthma.

[MrsG010814]

You can't possibly know who the shopping is for unless you are literally watching them 24 hours a day. I had 2 deliveries in 1 week a couple of weeks ago and some of this was for my parents and in laws who I didn't get the shopping to that day so anybody watching us would have thought we had 2 deliveries for ourselves. Maybe concentrate on your own life instead of curtain twitching everytime there's a noise outside, it's really none of your business.

[LastTrainEast]

Can people pls focus on the point but if she is shopping for several vulnerable people (quite possible and even likely given that she can't be using all this food) then that IS the point and she is helping not hindering.

How did you feel about this neighbour before this started?

[sobeyondthehills]

Are PP not frothing the way you wanted?

[PastMyBestBeforeDate]

Cherry what medication is he on though? It needs to be quite severe asthma to be on the extremely vulnerable list and get a shielding text is my understanding and just being on the vulnerable list doesn't get you any priority anywhere.

[VegetableMunge]

This level of focus on your neighbour is not healthy OP. Are you struggling? It must be hard having a baby during lockdown. Standing gawping at the window isn't going to help.

[champagneandfromage50]

She may be getting different items from different shops as some cant deliver everything on her list. Also she may be getting family members delivering stuff to her too.

Also i am surprised she is going out when she should be shielding.

[SquirrelInTheOak]

Exactly, beyondthehills

[CherryBakebadly]

@PastMyBestBeforeDate we got priority for being vulnerable before the shielding letters went out.

[MamaBearLockdown]

What is she doing with all that shopping?

Supermarket deliveries are not restricted to vulnerable households. Anyone can book one of they are lucky enough - online at the right time. So no, she is not abusing anything.

She is wasting her money if she buying things she doesn't need and will end up in the bin. Are you sure that's what she is doing?

[LastTrainEast]

As others have said the problem of slots is easing now anyway. I can get tesco easily, but in case that stopped working I signed up with others and I can see that there are ASDA, Morrisons and Ocado slots if you watch out for them. While I should be on a priority list really they don't know that so I'm not.

[PlanDeRaccordement]

I thought that the reason a large number of vulnerable people were not getting delivery slots was due to lack of supply of slots not due to nonvulnerable people taking them instead. The U.K. has 1.5m on the shielded list alone. Once you add in everyone self isolating with symptoms (also priority for delivery slots), then you have way more demand than delivery slots. Every company- Tesco, Sainsbury, ocado, waitrose, Iceland has published that they’ve had to hire more drivers and increase capacity and it’s still not meeting the full demand. They’ve all said that vulnerable people get priority. It’s just that priority is not a guarantee of a delivery slot.

OP, if she’s getting all these slots it’s safe to say she is one of the vulnerable and probably also shopping for other vulnerable people as well. You are assuming the worst of her. In addition, she may be supposed to be shielding but taking extra risk to help other vulnerable people.

[sayanara]

Why on earth would she get so many deliveries for two people? I think you must be mistaken or she is distributing the food to other people.
On my street the there is a free space outside my house and all the vans pull up there to unload not only for the street but for the lane of houses that runs down the side of my house plus the houses on the facing street perpendicular to my street. A nosy neighbour might jump to the conclusion that all these deliveries are coming into my house ... but they would be wrong and very silly to do so.

[fezzesarecool]

I think this is what op was looking for
Confront the neighbour
Tell all the other neighbours how selfish this one is
Report to police
Report to the supermarkets

There that should keep her busy and away from the window

[PastMyBestBeforeDate]

Cherdy but did he get a letter or text?
I'm in the vulnerable group but not the extremely vulnerable group so no text or letter.

[chocolatesaltyballs22]

The problem of getting slots is really not easing @lasttraineast, at least not in our area. Unless you count having to sit up til midnight and wait in a queue multiple nights in a row just to secure one weekly shop. Honestly, all these people who are saying they are getting them easily, I really do wonder where they live!