Neighbour abusing vulnerable delivery slots - what to do?

[Doeeys]

Need advice on what I should do...since the lockdown began, my neighbour receives on average 3-4 large online deliveries from Asda, Sainsbury's and Tesco, this usually occur on consecutive day's - this week she has had them Sunday (Sainsbury's), Monday (Tesco) and today (Asda). She is in her mid 40s and has asthma and has been classed vulnerable, however she often goes out during the week to do top up shops as I see her unloading shopping from her car. She has also contacted the local volunteer group to also get 3 large 6pints of milk when she only has herself and one 7yr old. What is concerning me is that there are really vulnerable and elderly people out there that can't even get one delivery slot and she has had 10plus deliveries since the lockdown and it appears she is abusing the system. I have a small 6mth old baby and I am still going out as I know there are people out there that are truly vulnerable and need these extra priority services. What are your views on this and what would you do?

[OuterMongolia]

If she's asked for 3 x 6 pints of milk, she must be sharing with other households. Maybe she's shopping for family members etc.

[Wetfloortiles]

The way lockdown has made people snitch/spy and bitch at other people stuns me. What an interesting social experiment this pandemic is turning out to be!

[viccat]

Well she's going to end up wasting a lot of money if she gets a large shop three times a week for one adult and one child... don't all those supermarkets have a minimum spend for delivery too?

[DressingGownofDoom]

@Doeeys but you said yourself 'She is in her mid 40s and has asthma and has been classed vulnerable' so why are you whinging about her taking a vulnerable persons delivery slot?

[vodkaredbullgirl]

Blimey you know each supermarket which is supplying her with food.

God some people are so nosey.

[BarbaraofSeville]

The volunteer groups aren't going to be supplying 18 pints of milk to a 2 person household are they? I've seen people talk about item limits even for larger families.

[rottiemum88]

Honestly OP, what's the point in working yourself up over something that you have absolutely no control over? Some people are selfish 🤷🏼‍♀️ Sometimes their selfishness will be to the detriment of others. It's not a desirable characteristic, but unless you plan on confronting her about it (which I wouldn't recommend as it's still none of your business), I'd suggest concentrating on those things you can actually do something about

[CuriousaboutSamphire]

I'm another you'd hate, OP.

Out more than once a day, shopping 2 or 3 times a week, loads of bags, loads of milk, bread and loo rolls.

I'm shopping for 3 households. Neighbours who aren't vulnerable enough to be on a list but scared enough to have accepted help.

God help anyone who decides to report me to 'the authorities'

[NaomiFromMilkShake]

I am registered as vulnerable, I have historic online accounts with Sainsbury's and Tesco.

Tesco emailed me within a week of me registering, I am still waiting for Sainsbury's.

I have a delivery arriving this evening from Tesco and then no slots until May 1st, I never seem to catch the slots at the right time.

Totally misses the point of the thread.

[Bluntness100]

I find it quite astonishing that we have become a nation of curtain twitchers. People looking to see what their neighbours are doing, judging them and deeming their behaviour unacceptable.

[MaggieFS]

You can't do anything, except live with your own conscience and know that she has to live with hers.

[Doeeys]

It's not about hating, it's about supporting each other during the pandemic. It's about reducing the spread of this virus, reducing the strain on the NHS and saving lives. So many people are already lost their lives. If people could abide by the system and not be selfish, the situation could be somewhat easier on everyone else.

[fezzesarecool]

Have you offered to support this neighbour? You say she’s vulnerable and has a child so maybe you can do some shopping for her to help out

[notacooldad]

Step away from the window.
Concentrate on your own life.
This will stop you feeling sad.

[Doeeys]

I can't even respond to the comments about spying etc, it's a common thing to look out when you have some noise. I want to ensure we are all safe and what is happening around me especially during these uncertain times. Obvious large items will he noticed. As for people shopping for other households, this post is not about that. It's about saving slots for the vulnerable and giving them a chance to shop and get basic essentials

[CoffeeRunner]

Maybe she’s putting together hampers for others? That would explain all of the food going into her own home first.

I can’t imagine a scenario where there isn’t more to it than meets the eye.

[LoveIsLovely]

@Doeeys You are not going to curb the pandemic by reporting your neighbour for buying more food than you think she should.

Just admit you're doing it to be nosy. If you truly want to help, donate some money to the Red Cross or some other charity, offer to bring food to someone who can't go out, start a blog for your neighbourhood to cheer people up, do an online class in something useful.

Do something positive instead of being a nosy parker.

[GoldenOmber]

It's about reducing the spread of this virus, reducing the strain on the NHS and saving lives.

You peeking out your window whenever the van turns up and totting up how many bags she's getting is doing none of this, though, is it?

You don't know what she's doing, you don't know who she's shopping for, you can't control other people's behaviour anyway, just keep your eyes on your own shopping.

[5zeds]

Ask her?

[fezzesarecool]

But you say she is vulnerable? So she does need the slot and you don’t really know what the situation in her household is

Not sure why it’s up to you to decide how many shops she allowed to do

[Doeeys]

Can people pls focus on the point, yes some vulnerable customers are getting slots but a large proportion are not because of behaviour like this. Buy what you need and stop taking up slots that someone who hasn't got help or support, can use instead

[Swingingsally]

Op you have no idea who she's shopping for. Just because she doesn't immediately drop it to other doors on your street means zilch.

Your detective powers are absolutely zero. Do not inflict this level of mentality on your neighbours.

You have no idea at all. Please please leave her alone.

[rainingcats]

I am very aware of what my neighbours do and do not do due to living in a block of flats but honestly apart from perhaps saying to my husband 'number 10s got another delivery wonder how they managed that' I really wouldn't give any more thought to somebody else's shopping habits

[PumpkinP]

The only time I look out my window is if I hear what sounds like a fight (screaming or shouting) I don’t look out if I hear vans pulling up 😂 seriously you look out the window every time you hear a noise? You must be at the window all day then. I live on a main road in London, it’s constant noise, but then I have a life and things to do so no I don’t look out unless it sounds concerning.

[fezzesarecool]

Also just to say that we did have a large delivery yesterday but unfortunately items were unavailable so as my husband has to go out for a work related matter today he will be going to the shops as well