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Daughter being Evicted, Needs to come Home

112 replies

TheCupboardWasBare · 25/03/2020 17:31

I really don't know what to do about this, so would appreciate your thoughts. DD(21) rang me earlier to say she is being evicted from her flat (north London) as the landlord now needs it. She's only been in it a month and has a 6 month tenancy contract. The landlord let it when he went to live in a religious commune (yes really), and now with Covid-19 the commune has closed and he wants his flat back.

I've told her he can't do this, but she said he's given them a month's notice. Complicating matters is she's freelance (film) and currently laid off, so paying the rent is causing issues (she flat shares and they pay £600 per month each). DD, while prepared to sit it out and keep paying the rent using savings with the assumption her job will recommence in June/July, doesn't want to pay another month if it means she'll be kicked out of the flat before work resumes anyway.

Her flatmate has said she'll move out next week so she doesn't have to pay another month's rent. DD wants to come home, from London to the countryside. I really don't want her to, but what choice does she/do we have? There's no way she can go flat hunting now! I've told her if she comes home she'll be in self isolation for 14 days. She has a large room here with a TV, sofa and ensuite and I can put a fridge in the room.

I've said I'll consider all options and get back to her, and she's going to do the same. What would you do?

OP posts:
CtrlU · 25/03/2020 21:52

Is this even a serious question !?!

Of course she needs to come home. She can shower and sanitise whenever she gets in.

I can’t believe...Hmm

fussychica · 25/03/2020 21:55

Home now. The poor girl must be devastated, no work, no home and you are thinking about it! Amazing

ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 25/03/2020 22:02

He can’t evict her - especially now with the new rules. Eviction proceedings can’t begin for three months - but he wouldn’t have a leg to stand on anyway.

However, I’d let her come home (if that’s what she wants) - my ds is in another big city, he was supposed to come home from uni last week but then started having symptoms. He’s now self isolating for 2 weeks and then coming home. I know its going to be difficult as he’s not easy to be around a lot of the time but these are unprecedented times - and no way would I let him stay all alone in his houseshare slap-bang in the middle of a COVID hot-spot!

nonsenceagain · 25/03/2020 22:08

Jesus, find your humanity.

CorianderLord · 25/03/2020 22:09

Under those circumstances she should definitely come home and self isolate. You don't have much choice.

TooTrusting · 25/03/2020 22:45

If her flat mate goes she'll be liked with the rent.
So I'd let her come. But the landlord cannot legally evict her so she should try to get compensation out of him to leave voluntarily - eg return of 1st month's rent.
On another note he sounds like a crap landlord. Has he paid her deposit into a protected scheme? He is legally obliged to do that and I if he hasn't she's entitled to quite a lot of compensation.

TooTrusting · 25/03/2020 22:46

*Lumped with the rent

Sushiroller · 25/03/2020 22:59

Some families amaze me....how cold.

This. Mindblowing stuff.

Don't be a dick.
Get your daughter home.

HonestlyItsFine · 25/03/2020 23:00

If you are worried about the virus- can she self isolate for a month in her flat alone and then drive to you?

SleepingStandingUp · 26/03/2020 05:13

If you are worried about the virus- can she self isolate for a month in her flat alone and then drive to you?
Why would she need to self isolate for a MONTH? I mean sure if you're just pretending to want to help her whisky basically refusing, tell her a month. How do you even properly self isolate for a month when it's impossible to get a delivery slot and we're not meant to be stockpiling food? Even if she can get deliveries, op can argue there's a transmission risk so can restart the month. This is basically the perfect way to pretend you care when you clearly don't

user1498572889 · 26/03/2020 06:15

She is your daughter just let her come home and take precautions. I’ve had to let my daughter and grandchild come home to me because on day 1 of lockdown her partner became extremely abusive. Not ideal but better than staying in her own home.

CanIHaveAPenguinPlease · 26/03/2020 06:25

I collected my dd from university on Tuesday. No way was I leaving her on her own up there. Your poor dd.

ninox3 · 26/03/2020 06:31

The landlord can't actually do that as it says no evictions for 3 months now, and as he is living in a commune with no other accommodation in to reside at I'm sure he's allowed to stay weather it shuts or not- same for caravan parks
He's just being a pain in the arse

But all this aside. Let your girl home!

X

Mayra1367 · 26/03/2020 06:34

She’s your daughter why do you need to consult Mumsnet?

Pixxie7 · 26/03/2020 06:43

What he is doing is illegal not only because of the contract but the PM said earlier this week that evictions are illegal during this period.

Nmagain · 26/03/2020 06:48

And yet Kristy Allsopp is getting crucified on another thread for taking her family home to Devon? What is the difference here?

thegreylady · 26/03/2020 07:07

Your own daughter? Why are you hesitating? You say she wants to come home how could you not bring her? If one or all of ours wanted that they would be here ASAP.

YgritteSnow · 26/03/2020 07:41

And yet Kristy Allsopp is getting crucified on another thread for taking her family home to Devon? What is the difference here?

Well a family member - OP's child no less is about to be homeless during a pandemic. How is Kirsty Allsop swanning off to her second home with her entire family and young children, in any way similar to this?

ThisIsReallyShit · 26/03/2020 07:45

Mum? Is that you?

ErrolTheDragon · 26/03/2020 07:52

If you someone can't tell the difference between Kirsty Allsopp moving her family from their main residence to a holiday home, and a young adult returning to the family home because they've got nowhere else to live, there's probably no point trying to explain it to them.Hmm

littlebitwooway · 26/03/2020 07:54

Agree with pps that she would HAVE to self isolate without compromise.

supercee · 26/03/2020 08:00

The privileged Kirstie Allsop isn't getting kicked out her flat and facing homelessness, Kirstie's mum isn't telling her she can't go back to the family home despite facing said homelessness.

Kirstie is CHOOSING to take her family from one lovely (I'm assuming) home to another lovely home in a scenic location.

But yeah, no difference.

CanIHaveAPenguinPlease · 26/03/2020 08:12

Errol 👏👏👏

OchAyeThaNoo · 26/03/2020 08:17

Because the landlord cannot legal evict her, does she have it in writing that he wants her out and will return her deposit? A contract can be broken if both parties agree but this guy sounds like he has absolutely no clue about the laws of renting and I would not trust him. If she moves out he could attempt to hold her liable for 6 months rent and other costs for leaving and "breaking her lease" if she has no proof of him wanting her out.

Her being allowed to come home is a no brainer though.. She needs to. She doesn't have much choice if she can't pay rent and the LL wants her out.

Bignet182 · 26/03/2020 08:24

If anyone at home is 60+ get her to isolate for 4-5 weeks, then come home (with a mask on). Imagine what she’d have to go through for the rest of her life if she came home with the virus and a parent passed away because of it? It seems there’s very little critical thinking going on in this thread. People say you’re heartless, I think you’re being smart.