Daughter being Evicted, Needs to come Home

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I really don't know what to do about this, so would appreciate your thoughts. DD(21) rang me earlier to say she is being evicted from her flat (north London) as the landlord now needs it. She's only been in it a month and has a 6 month tenancy contract. The landlord let it when he went to live in a religious commune (yes really), and now with Covid-19 the commune has closed and he wants his flat back.

I've told her he can't do this, but she said he's given them a month's notice. Complicating matters is she's freelance (film) and currently laid off, so paying the rent is causing issues (she flat shares and they pay £600 per month each). DD, while prepared to sit it out and keep paying the rent using savings with the assumption her job will recommence in June/July, doesn't want to pay another month if it means she'll be kicked out of the flat before work resumes anyway.

Her flatmate has said she'll move out next week so she doesn't have to pay another month's rent. DD wants to come home, from London to the countryside. I really don't want her to, but what choice does she/do we have? There's no way she can go flat hunting now! I've told her if she comes home she'll be in self isolation for 14 days. She has a large room here with a TV, sofa and ensuite and I can put a fridge in the room.

I've said I'll consider all options and get back to her, and she's going to do the same. What would you do?

I’d bring her home.

Under these circumstances I would let her come home.

I’d want her home also.

I'd let her come home. DS lives at home and he only surfaces for meals. You can always put food outside her bedroom door and collect the empties later.

My own daughter? And you have the perfect set up for self isolation? I’d have her home in a tick with her room all ready and as comfortable as possible for her.

Bring her home.

Bloody hell let her come home!

Why don't you want her to come home?

I would have her back in a heartbeat. And unless there were vulnerable people/key workers in the house I would isolate the household rather than just her.

He can’t evict her. Not until 6 months. So she should sit tight.

Seriously? Home!

She should tell him what to do. His problem not hers.

Why on earth don't you want her to?

england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/coronavirus

OP - your daughter should seek advice from Shelter.

She is your daughter. What is wrong with you ?

WTF? This is your daughter. You let her come home, obviously

She’d be coming home if I was in the same situation. No way would I leave one of my children (adult or not) in this situation with a parent who wants to “think about it”. Honestly...you shouldn’t need to ask this question. You are her Mum, let her come home and welcome her.

Why does she need to self isolate? Was she a key worker in contact with people who may have the virus? No...so she’s essentially been stuck in the flat anyway, there is no need to isolate her.

Yes, her LL is probably acting illegally, but since her flatmate is moving out, she'd be landed with the full rent
She's laid off and may not get her job / income back

• she needs your help

I'd let her home ....

on the condition she isolates strictly for 14 days, no exceptions
and
that afterwards she does her full share of chores,
no mess, no noise, no socialising outside and NO visitors - i.e. full social distancing

If you work, she should do all the chores

If you are worried about her infecting you, then probably better she doesn't go for a supermarket job
If you can afford it, don't charge her for groceries or utilities etc but she should use her savings to pay for her phone or anything extra - shouldn't be much, as she can't go out

My biggest fear is that she'll bring the virus here, where recorded cases are very few. I keep reading The virus doesn't move, people move it, and all the aggro second home owners are getting (quite rightly) for fleeing London. She would be driving herself home, so not on public transport, and would use gloves/sanitise when filling up.

Along with a fridge, can you give her a single/double ring stove or a microwave so she can cook, and a kettle (travel or regular)? A set of crockery and a couple of pots. And a basin to be able to washup.

Then again, she would be able to come into the kitchen when you/DH are not there to cook/washup, but at least a kettle in the room would be a good idea.

You’ll “get back to her”.

Some families amaze me....how cold.

Without a shadow of doubt she’s to come home ffs that’s your daughter why on Earth are you even asking if you should allow her to come back home.

She must be pretty desperate to even be asking. You sound rather cold tbh.

Do you like your daughter?

Ffs it’s not even a question, get her home!
I collected my DD on Sunday from uni, no way would I leave her to face this alone.
Your DD can self isolate for 14 days, stop being so bloody heartless.