Wait a second ... how do we do custody exchanges?!

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Nothing in Boris' message about travel to exchange children for contact.

What is the legal position here?

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What about "no contact with other households" don't you get. If the child is with you and their father lives somewhere else then you keep the child until it is over. A court order is always ignorable in the case of force majeure. If a volcano had erupted between the two would you be asking?

My daughter will still be going between houses. Can't expect her to not see one parent for an indefinite period.

Who is the RP if you do four nights one House and 3 the other?

MurrayTheMonk The one who gets Child Benefit.

I am a keyworker and single parent. I have 2 options to allow me to go to work.

1. Send them into school
2. Send them to their dads house

Which is the right one?

@murraymonk the parent who does 4 nights.

No one is going to be fined for parenting their children for goodness sake. Children should stay in their homes at all times, if they happen to have two homes then so be it. They don't need to be in shops or mingling anywhere in the meantime.

@greenleafycarrot what if neither gets child benefit? My DC are with their dad, I can still get them back tomorrow can’t I?

@leninahux we have three kids between us. None of them will see their dads for the duration of this. Please explain to me why you're so different that this doesn't apply??

Their Dad is going to go mad! I'm the 4 night parent. He has his elderly mum living with him temporarily but was insisting they go back after their 14 days isolation ends on Monday which I had doubts about anyway. But now this too

Does anyone actually know what other countries rules are who have already been in lockdown regarding this? It would be better than all this speculation.

I'm unsure what to do my dc is due to go friday for the weekend he lives with his gf who is a NHS worker and two children who live with there dad half the time, I think it's too many people interacting so will speak to him tomorrow probably be met with hostility but needs must

@MalcolmFucker exactly. Sounds essential to me and still safer than going in to school. Parental contact will come up.

Of course, Hippy!

If a volcano had erupted between the two would you be asking?

No doubt he would direct a letter to my solicitor angrily alleging I had conspired to make the volcano erupt and requiring evidence that was not the case.

This is why I can't ignore the court order and why I require specific government instruction.

Not every ex is reasonable.

This is confusing....so as a keyworker I can send my kids to school to mix with 30ish people but I can't send them to their dads where they will mix with 3 people who are on lockdown

U simply Don't ! They don't get to spread it from one house to another 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ my dd ain't see her dad it's not essential they aren't guna die it's for other people lives!!

@MalcolmFucker then they go to their dads and they stay there until lockdown etc is over. They should prob have been there already when the school closed on Friday and key workers were asked to keep working in their important roles. Not easy I know....but needs must.

Please if any of you are considering making the decision to not share care, just acknowledge that it’s awful to not see your kids for weeks. None of you would be happy if you had to do that, but if one parent is being forced to then just understand and empathise.

Why would you think that, amy?
I'm starting to think this is a form of trolling others: to make them think social lockdown means children can no longer see their parents. What kind of dystopian nightmare do people think this is?! Ridiculous.

My ds is going to his dads at weekends as usual for now, it is essential in my eyes, for all of us, both single, one child the only place either will go is to very local shop once a week.

Wow.. so keyworkers shouldnt see their kids for 3 weeks? I really hope BJ is more understanding!

Seeing parents isn't essential?? Eh?

‪We are going with coparenting and picking up/dropping off is providing care As per attached. Only one of us will go and we had already agreed a week at a time each just like summer holidays/half term arrangements. If both households are following the rules, which they are, then it will be like we are just one big household anyway. Up until Friday when we implemented the week each structure, we saw DSD daily and had her overnight 3 nights a week.

You can say all you want about keeping them safe with you and the NRP can have the tough/suck it up stance but how would you feel if your child was denied seeing you for an unbeknown of time - you wouldn't. You might do FaceTime for a few nights but when your child is crying because they just don't understand fully and you physically cannot go and give them a hug or manage their expectations for a proper hug like 'I'll give you a big hug/kiss later' then get back to me on how it's 'fair' for your child to be so upset, unable to be comforted by you, their mum and you have no way of knowing when you can see, hold, smell, hug and feel at ease with them by you again.