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Wait a second ... how do we do custody exchanges?!

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PicsInRed · 23/03/2020 20:35

Nothing in Boris' message about travel to exchange children for contact.

What is the legal position here?

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snowballer · 23/03/2020 20:40

Also looking for this answer - my children are at their dad's tonight Confused

LumosMaxima · 23/03/2020 20:41

I'm thinking the exact same!! My DD is with her dad!

Spandang · 23/03/2020 20:42

Ditto here. Super worried

Ann87 · 23/03/2020 20:42

Following for advise as was thinking the same x

Curious78 · 23/03/2020 20:43

It's essential in my eyes that DD gets to see her dad

Lonelycrab · 23/03/2020 20:43

I’m really worried about this too. Ds goes back to him mum tmro (that’s what we’d arranged anyway)Sad

Pullywoolover1 · 23/03/2020 20:43

Same. Worried. DD at ExP's until Weds.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 23/03/2020 20:44

I would think children will have to stay with the rp. I think going to collect a child or dropping a child off will be a necessary outing. Would imagine contact would cease for the next few weeks.

PicsInRed · 23/03/2020 20:44

I really thought they'd go with "essential" travel, like Europe. But perhaps they rightly presume we're too stupid to adjudge "essential".

There must be guidance on this. I think some countries went with the kids defaulting to main carer?...but then what of those on 50/50? What of those who live 100s of miles apart? People will go absolutely mad.

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Deadsouls · 23/03/2020 20:44

I've not been doing any custody changes.

I didn't let my children's dad take them because I thought this might happen. Unfortunately they can't see their dad for weeks.

Espoleta · 23/03/2020 20:45

I mean if you can ferry then door to door without any contact shouldn’t that be ok?

Christmastree43 · 23/03/2020 20:45

It's really not essential is it, they need to stay with the RP ie members of their household

browzingss · 23/03/2020 20:45

Well it’s only 3 weeks (for now) so no, “custody exchanges” are not essential. Children will have to stay at one household during this period.

Falacy · 23/03/2020 20:45

I'm really confused. He said only contact with household. Which would mean no contact with Dad...

Hopefully this is clarified.

Ohmymg · 23/03/2020 20:45

Ds only sees his dad one day a week usually, and no overnights. Ds dad lives with elderly gps so visit there have ceased anyway. I presume he will be ok to drive to my home and have his daily exercise with ds?

elaeocarpus · 23/03/2020 20:45

Same boat, kids dropped to their dads today due back wed am....what now?

SuperlativeScrubs · 23/03/2020 20:46

As a separated pair of Key Workers, he is dropping them and picking them up. I work when he has them and he works when I have them.

We will get very little sleep.

Wallywobbles · 23/03/2020 20:46

We are in France. 50/50. After a week with no outside contact we've exchanged kids. But everyone really needs to be playing by the rules. ZERO contact outside the households.

browzingss · 23/03/2020 20:46

People will go absolutely mad.

Not trying to be nasty but there’s genuinely worse issues we’re facing right now. Your lifestyle choices to live 100s of miles apart isn’t anyone else’s problem

Curious78 · 23/03/2020 20:46

Really, you don't think it's essential? Oh Jesus...not good. Ok

Crabonastick · 23/03/2020 20:48

Following. Unsure what this means. DS supposed to go with ex for 1 week on Friday

GirlCalledJames · 23/03/2020 20:48

In other countries custody exchanges are permitted.

Yetanotherbloominnamechange · 23/03/2020 20:49

If both sets of parents can go to the supermarket, surely you could arrange to meet there.

PicsInRed · 23/03/2020 20:49

I'm really concerned as there is a court order in place. What am I supposed to do?

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Lockheart · 23/03/2020 20:49

He said you should only leave your house for the following reasons:

  • to buy food or essentials (such as medicine)
  • exercise (walk, run, cycle) once per day, alone or with someone from your household
  • to go to work only if essential that you're there
  • to care for someone vulnerable

I think children will have to stay wherever they are currently for the time being, if you live too far apart to go for your daily walk to the other parent's and back.

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