Can't stop crying

[stickwoman]

Anyone else with leaky eyes? Feel like today is the first day of a new time and I'm so sad. My little one loved pre school and has asked so many times to go already. I'm just so desperately sad for her. Trying to be positive and come up with lots of things to keep busy but it's so hard and it's for so long. Sorry just needed a vent.

I'm sorry, it really sucks, doesn't it?. I know younger people with children are feeling it worse than oldies like me.

Your little daughter will adjust and so will you.

Yep, got my son and daughters birthday in a couple
Of days, feel shit for them tbh, I know there are worse things but just feel sad

It hits me in waves. Like one minute I'm like fucked me the world is over and the next I'm like fuck it it is what it is.

The thing is we will get through it. All our worrying isn't going to change the outcome. We need to use our energy now on keeping safe and getting through (I tell myself numerous times a day!).

Like one minute I'm like fuck me the world is over and the next I'm like fuck it it is what it is

This is totally what I am like also

I had a tiny cry when I hung my son’s school uniform up to dry today. He won’t get to wear some of it again (though he’s in reception so most of it should fit him next September, I hope!)

Comes in waves - yes. Some of the time I'm being all practical and sensible. At 3 am I was proper ugly crying. But what can we do? I'm pretty worried that there's going to be a major mental health crisis internationally, on top of everything else.

My DD is 10 and is upset she won't be at school and seeing her friends. She had quite a few tears last night. I can't tell her when she'll go back as nobody knows. She's old enough to understand why but it doesn't mean she can't be sad about it.

If you’re a SAHM and it isn’t causing you additional financial worries, would just try to look at this as an opportunity to share extra precious time, it’s the only positive thing to do really, On the plus side, she won’t understand what’s going on and almost certainly won’t remember this time next year.

Yeah this was me yesterday- thought I was gonna be ok, trying to make the best of it etc but then thought about how much my 20mo DS loves other children and could spend months without seeing one and I randomly started sobbing and couldn’t stop all evening.

The trouble is partly the news media. They thrive on tales of exciting apocalyptic disaster, they love to dramatise to get more viewers/readers, and that tends to influence the public attitude.
It’s very attention grabbing to scream about deaths and pandemics and show people in Hazmat suits - it’s much less exciting to state the truth, which is that 98% of the population are going to survive this even if we ALL get it. And for people under 40, their individual chance of survival is 99.8%.
We need to be calm and sensible, comply with social distancing, isolate at home if we have symptoms, stop panic buying and hoarding, and try not to overload the NHS with trivia so they can concentrate on treating the serious cases.
One good thing that has come out of all this is the willingness of people to help neighbours. Our small group of villages has registered over 200 volunteers already. Let’s focus on the positives, and aim to get through it as best we can.

I stay positive all day long for my toddler and then when he’s in bed I can’t hold it in anymore and my eyes go.

I’m so sad that my elderly parents are unlikely to meet their new baby for potentially weeks or months when baby makes an arrival soon

Hi OP yes, I think it's natural at the moment. You will absolutely be fine but agree it's going to get shit before it gets better.

I can already hear the knobbers running over to tell us to get a grip, yada yada. Just ignore them, it's ok to feel sad and unsettled, these are unprecedented times

Had an ugly cry yesterday as I realised our ds isn't going to be able to do his sport activities for a very long time. It's his energy release. He's in the low sets at school and sport is his only chance to shine. No days out with a friend to go bowling or swimming. No sleepovers. He's going to be very lonely. He's been doing so well and I fear this will de-rail it all.

My son celebrated his 2nd birthday last week, while we self-isolated. He loved all the things we did for him but when he had gone to bed I just cried and cried.

My poor little boy didn't get a "real" birthday even though my other son, whose birthday was just a couple of weeks earlier in the year, had a blowout birthday with travel (we planned on similar for both, but everywhere we wanted to take my younger son for his birthday was already closed).

What a difference a month makes.

That's a great post Babdoc.

I had a cry last night OP, my daughter loves pre school, i hope so much she can go back before she starts school in September and spend one last summer with this group of friends

I feel the same womb, like My children won’t get a real birthday. We planned to go to the museum (obviously closed) then Pizza Hut, haven’t even got him a cake yet or present as I couldn’t afford it until I got paid (today) so just feel bad can’t even have guests over, and not even suppose to go out to get him a present then it’s my daughters birthday 3 days after. Even my son cried because he is upset about his birthday and like I said I realise there are worse things but doesn’t make me feel any better

No, I’m taking the pragmatic approach and complying to keep us safe, and am optimistic that within three months they will be able to treat this and we can go back to normal.

I’m really surprised people are sitting at home sobbing. I don’t know anyone who is doing this in real life. Everyone is just complying and getting on with it.

I'm also feeling more emotional than expected. My mind is currently focusing on how sad Easter is going to be. Last year we had an Easter egg hunt and the dcs grandparents and this year we wont be seeing anyone. That has become the sort of summary event in my head that encompasses all my fear and sadness about it.

I also feel really restless and worried about the practical stuff. Am not going shopping until the weekend but am so worried about getting the essentials, particularly baby formula.

Babdoc agree good post ... actually I've loved a few of yours recently especially some on FWR

My daughter is in year 11. She gets no prom/no leavers hoodie, no exams, nothing.m

We have been in isolation as she was poorly with a cold. Her last day at school was Monday.

She will go there for sixth form but no uniform needed then. I'm sad, really sad.

My son is year 8 and is worried but PlayStation is still there for him and his mates.

I can't get my head around this at all. My anxiety is awful. We are in this together mumsnet will be a support hopefully.

I think it's a bit unnecessary to come onto a thread about being upset and say how you aren't and don't her why people would be.

Lots of people are, rightly or wrongly. Plenty of people have perfectly valid concerns not just over the virus itself but over employment, financial difficulties etc, and for some just the reality of isolation is quite sad when it effects things that are important to them.

All of those emotions are valid and feeling that way and following the guidelines aren't mutually exclusive.

Same here OP. I can completely identify with swinging between upset thoughts of life changing forever and optimistic thoughts that it will all be ok in the end. I'm self isolating away from my partner, missing him like crazy and am crying like a loon nearly every time I speak to him .

What is helping is having a plan or feeling a little in control over certain things. The worst thing about this for me has been the helplessness and uncertainty.

I’m sad because I feel like life as we know it, at least for a few months is gone. Who know what will happen after. I’m 30 and I’ve never experienced anything like this I know I’m still quite young. But it’s the fear of not knowing that scares me and probably many others. I like to know what is happening in advance so I can prepare and over come. But with everything happening at such a last minute it’s impossible to do so. Will we survive it yes. Unfortunately for some they won’t. Be that relationships, financial ruin and at worse fatalities. I’m very much in the mind set that we are all in this together and maybe just maybe from all of this we may well learn as a society of what truly matters in life.

I have been feeling tearful today too. Went for a drive with dh so we could chat without dc about, they are teenagers so don’t go to bed early. I cried a lot then as feel very frightened for the future, for our business and employees, and for all our health.

Feeling calmer now but it’s so tough as there isn’t an end in sight.