Can't stop crying

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Anyone else with leaky eyes? Feel like today is the first day of a new time and I'm so sad. My little one loved pre school and has asked so many times to go already. I'm just so desperately sad for her. Trying to be positive and come up with lots of things to keep busy but it's so hard and it's for so long. Sorry just needed a vent.

Also nobody else apart from DP knows I've been crying, so don't assume that because everyone appears ok, they aren't upset.

I am getting on with things, working from home but I'm upset about the things that are happening. My youngest DD's last day at primary school was on Monday before we isolated and I'm upset for her that all the little celebrations they would do are not going to happen. And she will probably never set foot in that school or see her teachers again. And my eldest DD is year 11 so that's also been a worry.

Mostly I'm ok, keeping calm and carrying on. But it has been upsetting.

I took my son to the playground today and then we went for cake in our usual cafe and it suddenly struck me that we might not do this again for a very very long time. It felt really surreal.

Yes to what Babdoc and Bluntness have said.

It will be okay. You will adjust, and so will your little one.

Don’t think about months to come. Exist in the now. Prepare and take precautions and then get busy making a calm, happy little life for you and your DD. One day at a time. Right now, everything is okay.

Thought we weren’t meant to go to playgrounds or cafes?

I nearly lost it inSainsburys this morning - the sheer enormity of it all hit me as I was preparing to shut us all away as much as possible. I pick DS2 up from Uni tomorrow and then I don't really plan to go out.

Hi I'm in the same boat. I nearly broke down when I went to pick my 3 year old up from nursery today. He asks to go in every day, even at weekends. He will be starting reception soon so I don't know if he will get to say goodbye to his nursery friends and teachers. My 11 year old is in year 6 and she's been very upset too. Her and her friends will all be going to different schools in September so this would have been their last few months together. The worst thing is not knowing how long this will all last for.

On a positive note, I have got a whole list of jobs that I plan to do while we are at home. I need to paint my garden fences and do some DIY around the house. This will make me feel like I'm being constructive and will help me take my mind off things.

Stay safe everyone. We will come out of the other end with a lot more wisdom.

It is very sad indeed but I feel we have no choice but to try and adapt and make the most of it.
Dh and I still have to work which is a blessing in a way.
I'm trying not to think about Dd not finishing her BTEC or Dd2 not seeing her friends for ages or my ds self isolating and possibly not havjling a job to go back to.
I'm thinking about keeping in touch via Internet and setting up a scrabble game with my mum online. I'm looking forward to spending more time with my kids and not having so many early starts and making packed lunches.
I feel sad that Dd has been working towards two shows which now won't go ahead and missing seeing her cousins and sitting at the lido all summer.
It's rough it really is.

Fantastic and refreshing post @Babdoc, thank you

I feel a bit emotional at times but am focussing on practicalities and doing what is asked of me re social distancing. Yes it's sad and I'm gutted my DS won't take his GCSEs. But there are more important things right now. @Babdoc says it all perfectly

There is a good chance this will be over by the summer as they can treat it. There is no reason not to organise class parties when it is over,, leavers hoodies, etc

Kids will go into the next year at school see their friends again or meet new ones, things can be done like Skype play dates, right now we can still go for walks, there is many ways to get through the next few weeks or how ever long it takes,

Feel like gonna melt down soon
I by my own and not understand everything happening
I on leave at the moment. Work called today to say most people work from home now, so when I go in Monday there might not be many people there. Hopefully someone will be there who can explain what happening
Gym just put on Facebook saying as of tomorrow all classes online. I not understand this but hopefully someone there tonight can explain.
Otherwise I turn up for kettle bell class in morning and it might be closed?
I sometimes struggle with change and this too much. I feel really confused it not right

I just had to cancel my wedding so I'm sad.

My toddler is asking about her activities too and it breaks my heart because she loved them so much and loved her little friends and she's too young to understand.

I also found out I was pregnant yesterday and am terrified about risk to the baby and feel extra emotional.

Yes I’m feeling really tearful today. I’m 20 weeks pregnant and have the overwhelming feeling of sadness. Then it makes me even more sad that I’m so sad at what should be such a happy and exciting time. Feels like I’m missing out on everything that we wanted to do before baby arrives, when this is all over I won’t know anyone to socialise with who also has a new baby, I’m worried about my appointments being cancelled, worried about food shortages and not being able to get to the supermarkets and get food, everything. It’s just so overwhelming.

I'm feeling the same, not sure if its my pregnancy hormones or just normal to feel this way but i'm so sad for both my kids, I know there is a lot worse things to be sad about but they are so young they just cant understand why they aren't being able to celebrate their birthdays or nursery and other activities 😥 my daughters due to start school in August i'm just hoping nursery is back for a few weeks at least before summer holidays

I keep having bouts of anxiety, its all so dystopian. Keep thinking about all those poor mums with children on their hands, and all the poor people on zero hours contracts. What a society we've created for ourselves.
I heard someone in the supermarket yesterday saying its a payback from God for the way we're treating the planet. Ridiculous I know, but I can't help thinking...
DP has suggested we go away this weekend in the campervan, and find a nice secluded valley in the Lakes where we can switch off from all this. Looking forward to it.

Same here. My lo is 10 months old and will most likely start walking while we are in some sort of lock down. No visit to a shop to get his feet measured and buy his first shoes. I know it's a silly thing to be sad about but I was really looking forward to that.

Yes today in the supermarket, everyone walking round, it was kind of like a dream I couldn't hold my tears in. I feel sad for my dc who will miss school, teachers and friends. I will probably loose my job as I work school hours and have no one to watch them. I really can't see any way out of this for me

I cried too.
In so many ways I am very lucky right now compared to others but...
Not knowing what is happening with work and school - I am a key worker is very stressful.
I realise just how many lovely things me and the kids enjoy are now off limits.
I dont think kids will be back at school until september and this is crushing for them, one is gutted and the other I'm worried how he will keep up next year. Its going to take extra effort on my part, I do try but all these homeschooling links going round already make me feel I'm going to let him down.

Yep

Mainly because of the stories of people helping others, lifting each other's spirits (singing etc - Italy videos made me bawl) and generally being nice humans. Reading updates is just overwhelming to my right now though too, DH was catching up with news last night and I had to take myself to bed because I just don't have the space in my head for it all.

Think of this as a massive Life Lesson for All of us.

Children will learn that wanting something doesn't actually make it happen and fo rthe rest of us Nature is already benefiting from humans making Less pollution.
We have been told by young people that we have to Save The Planet well maybe this is the Beginning?
After all it was always going to involve pain as we have basically trashed the planet and have to cut back on consumption and our selfish destructive habits.

I am terrified as I am housebound and isolating due to "Underlying health conditions" I can't see my family and miss them. I don't know if I can come through this but I hope so
And I hope we all can take looking after the planet seriously
We have to adapt.
Even if the CV is over with in a year, we need to make changes. Haven't the young been telling us this?

Lovely, sensible, thoughtful post @Babdoc

I’ve cried a lot over the past few days about how small my wee one’s world is about to become. But then I remind myself that this is temporary. Horrible but temporary.

Be thankful that this is your biggest worry, prior to this week my main concern was my 30th birthday meal being cancelled, yesterday my fiancée’s grandfather was admitted to hospital with suspected coronavirus and he was dead by the morning, he was 77, but was healthy and active and now he’s dead, he went into respiratory failure and stopped breathing, his wife has Alzheimer’s and he was her carer.

This has put things into perspective for me and now I feel a fool for complaining about a birthday meal and celebrations while people are dying and losing loved ones.

Think of this as a massive Life Lesson for All of us.

I agree. On a small scale I've had to tell the kids to think before they take some food. It's not that we are likely to run out or not be able to go out for more (although I don't want to unless necessary) but I want them to consider that we do not have a magic fridge. This also applies to me to be fair.

Perhaps this poem by the Australian children's laureate will help some parents explain it to young DC.