Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part2)

[Magic8ballhastheanswers]

Nice clean thread for us - may there be many a BFP on here

Hello all lovely ladies!

Batteryhen Hello and welcome, sorry that you have ended up here but like other people have said, you are in the right place and everyone here is so supportive.

BUnder I was just wondering (horrible question) how far on your mc was? I stayed at home when I had all of mine, but in a way I was lucky, there were all early on (7-8 wks) and no ERPC needed. I don't know if there is any significance to what happened to you but I do know that it sounds very traumatic, hugs to you.

Hi to everyone else, am also thinking of you viv - I have not been posting much but have been checking in everyday.

Off to work now!

xxx

viv ((((hugs)))) x

batteryhen welcome to the madhouse, sympathy, understanding by the bucketload here. Sorry to hear your sad news, you've come to the right place.

ladybee sad news, I can't think of anything useful to say but just be there for your friend and don't hide away. Hope you are ok

hairy it seems as though the accupuncture has worked as the scan showed most of it had come out on Sun and Mon, all that remains is a bit of lining apparently that is just above the opening of my cervix, they've booked me in for another scan next week to check it's come out. Fingers crossed that'll be the end of it. I would highly recommend accupuncture, there's a website that lists all accupuncturists that specialise in fertility issues, I can't recall the name of it just now but I'm sure if you google it you'll find it. Sorry for rambling!

Hello to everyone else

Viv, thinking of you today, sending you lots of love and best wishes to get through it.
Muser that's great to hear that the wait is nearly over.
Barrenbrook I'm glad the acupuncture did the trick and it sounds like they are taking good care of you at least with follow up scans.
I just called the doctors and I am still immune which is a relief. However, I do not think I am doing very well today- I cracked and did a test which was stupid as it is still four days till my period is due. Obviously it was negative. I know it could be too early to test but I think I know that I am not this month. For some reason this has just brought back all the grief of the mc, I don't know why, it's not like we have been trying for very long, but I have been in bits all day. And I crashed the car too, so all in all a bit of a crap day. Sorry for the rant and moan, especially when some of you are going through much worse right now, I don't want to be self indulgent or insensitive. Just needed to get it off my chest. Think I might cuddle the dog and have a quiet snivel to myself...

Hi Hairytriangle another newbie, but lurker here.

I too am 42, conceived after first month of trying, but sadly lost beanie (missed miscariage 7-8 weeks)this morning. Been to see acupuncturist to help the 'process' naturally before the medics get their hands on me for a D&C.

Trying to be positive that we will blessed again soon...

Hi MrsGMack and welcome, I'm a relative newbie.

So sorry to hear about your loss. Take it easy on yourself hon. Do try and stay positive.

I conceived after sixth month off the pill which I thought was rather amazing (!) at my age, one month is truly amazing - so I do feel positive it can happen again. Lots of 'oldies' like us do go on to have sticky beans - just keep positive you can be one of them

Barrenbrook and MrsGMack good to hear positives about acupuncture. A very close friend of mine has had several years of trying - and classed as 'unexplained infertility' - to cut a long story short, she finally got IVF (and is now coming to the end of her her first trimester Hurray!) and is sure that acupuncture helped. She was recommended it by the consultant.

I've booked reflexology for tomorrow, and after Tuesdays scan I'll book acupuncture (both to help with current dilemma and for future conception).

I just wanted to thank each and every one of you, you've been a real support to me at what has been incredibly frustratig and hugely confusing time! Thank you all x

Will update when I get tomorrow's HCG result - don't know where they will be able to get any more blood out of - both arms are really bruised (counted seven tests so far in about 19 days!)

Dorcas Sorry to hear about your rubbish day. If its any consolation I've not had a great day either but like you am mindful that others are going through some bad times, so if its ok by you, I'll join you for some quiet snivelling in the corner

welcome MrsGMack

Good luck Hairy with the blood test and the results.

Welcome MrsGMack Sakura I was somewhere between 11 and 12 weeks, so nowhere near as far along as Magic when she had her dramatic mc. I've still not come across anyone else who's body decided to be so dramatic over a fairly early mc. I hardly bled at all after the birth of my dd, so I don't think I'm prone to excessive uterine bleeding or anything

For those who use FertilityFriend.com, I have 65 points so far this month. I think I might have cheated a bit though...

Hello Ladies,

Been lurking , as usual. RTD hit on what would have been Day 26 so back to the bottom of the list for me. We're on holiday next week, can't wait for the sunshine and fingers crossed no ash cloud - not flying BA so one less thing to worry about!

Hello to all the new ladies - sorry you're here.

JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD50
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD48
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD41
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD37
Gonnabe TTC#1 UCL28 Cycle 2 C34
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 3 CD34
Magic8ballhastheanswers TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD30
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle3 CD26
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD26
Dorcas11 TTC 1, UCL29, cycle 1, CD26
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle3 CD24
Clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 3 CD21
LucySnowe TTC#2 UCL 40+ cycle 3 CD18
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 6 CD18
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD17
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26-9 cycle 12 CD17
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD13
LadyBee TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 1 CD7
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 CYCLE 2 CD7
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 3 CD4
LAF77 TTC #1, UCL28, Cycle 2 CD4
BUnderthebonnet TTC#2 UCL 28-36 CD??

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 very nearly there
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 2nd cycle post ERPC self imposed TTC amnesty
Jollster TTC#2 MMC 26/2/10 couple of cycles wait on acupuncturist advice
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 2 of 2 cycle wait
Digitalgirl TTC#2 MC 11/04/10
NBelle TTC#1 MC 09/04/10
MrsG/PrettyV Enjoying the view and the great company.
Barrenbrook TTC#1 MMC 12/05/10

GRADUATES
amyboo - baby boy - Matthew
totally - baby girl - Faith
hoops997 - baby boy - Benjamin
Memorylapse - Baby girl - Olivia
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Goodluckbear BFP 10th April 2010
Malteser1981 BFP 11th April 2010
Gilda BFP 19th April 2010
AlbaDeTamble BFP 25th April 2010
sparklyrainbow BFP 25th April 2010
BunnyBaby BFP 27th April 2010
Margie32 BFP 26th April
LucyT66 BFP 30th April
Redheadgal BFP 10th May

Humph, a,m bored of 2WW now. It's at least a week till I can POAS and like DG said the other day, it's irritating as nothing I do now can make me any more likely to be pregnant, but I either am or am not.

Dorcas sorry for your rubbish day. Hope tomorrow's better

Thinking of you today Viv

Thanks Hopefully- I agree, the 2WW is very boring.

Freezing, sorry you have had a rotten day too, I have squidged up to make room for you and am passing you kleenex and chocolates. They are the fancy ones still left over from Easter.

Evening ladies
viv - thinking of you today,
hairy - I hope your bloods go ok tomorrow,

am waving to everyone else as i am still getting used to who everyone is and what everyone is up to

I have only been back at work a few weeks since my MMC, and as I am a practice nurse I had to do all the baby vaccinations today,(very cute newborns) and had to advise some ladies on the best time to get pregnant etc. Tomorrow the midwife comes so I have to sit there with a fixed grin on my face whilst all the pregnant ladies come for their appointments. I don't feel jealous of them - Just wish it could be me. Have worked out a few of my stats I think, can someone add me on as I don't want to mess the whole thing up!

TTC 1 UCL28, Cycle 1, CD4

If that makes no sense - let me know and I will try and figure it out again!!xxx

viv big love to you today

sorry you've found yourself here, but you're in good company - whether it's to laugh or cry

hi to everyone else- sorry not to namecheck more tonight- only just got home after a 5.30am start.
big squeezes to everyone who is having a tough day. The first few cycles were very very emotionally draining in my experience so can totally understand how you're feeling.

Heard a very senior , inspirational woman talk about her career today, and she totally blindsided me by talking about women in the workplace and how other women could support each other. One of her examples was coping with miscarriage, and how she had had 2, and how since then it was important for her to personally recognise the loss and empathise with her employee if it happened to them. Had to stop myself from leaping out of my seat and applauding, whilst trying not to cry - so fab to hear someone acknowledge mcs publically like that iykwim

Bookmarking.

No spotting today so fuck knows what that was about. I cracked an tested and it was a bfn so at least ruled that out. Now I'm thinking I'm either still on the 2ww or that was a crap attempt at a period and am back to square one - waiting for ovulation.

Big hugs to all those feeling blue today. I also started the morning under a dark cloud - might have had something to do with having dinner with three preggos last night. I find even thinking about mentioning my mc brings tears to my eyes.

Tomorrow is another busy day so will continue to lurk and think of you all being positive and strong.

batteryhen, I'm so sorry it sounds like you really had a long drawn-out experience, and it must have been very difficult having the joy of twins taken away from you, very sad. I hope you're as lucky falling pregnant when you start trying again - do you think you'll wait for a full cycle to pass before you attempt it?
I think you're the only person I've 'met' who has to schedule air travel to coincide with ovulation - what happens if you need to go to Germany in the middle of the week? Do you just take leave?

BUnder and Dorcas, I would try to reassure you with my 'I had absolutely no early symptoms and felt completely un-pregnant the month I got my BFP" but as it didn't continue I don't know how comforting that is

Magic8, thanks for the advice - good to know about the 'not waiting for her to call', I don't want to be intrusive, but at the same time don't want her to feel we're not there.

Viv much love and squeezes to you today.

Barrenbrook glad it seems to have gone reasonably smoothly for you. I'm getting interested in trying accupuncture but am sort-of 'saving' it for when I start to get despondent if it takes a while, I want to keep something up my sleeve. Not sure if that makes sense or not!

Dorcas, poor love, it was really really early. And if it doesn't work out this month, then - well...you get to hang out with us for a bit longer, that's got to make it ok. Gwaaaan...you know you love us. How's the car? Or shouldn't I ask?

MrsGMack, welcome and I hope you get the support you need on this journey. If you're feeling anxious about having an ERPC, I wrote a detailed description of my experience a little while ago that you might find reassuring.

Clareanna I'm amazed and in awe that someone spoke so openly about miscarriage - or indeed anything to do with reproduction - as part of a career presentation. I was so impressed with the way my manager and HR dept dealt with me, but it still feels like it was all very secret and that I should pretend that I'm not even trying if don't want to completely screw my career.

Ah sigh. I'm blue today too. Right now I feel like I'm not doing anything in my life well. Unmotivated at work, lacking creative inspiration, just getting by with the house, I look in the mirror and just wonder where to start. I could do with an inspirational speaker in the lounge right now. Or just a virtual kick up the backside would do.
Tomorrow is Mummy Day though, and I'm meeting a friend for lunch, so hopefully will re-charge a bit.

Thanks for the reassurance Ladybee, I know it was early and there is still that little bit of me thinking maybe... but I think I'd rather just prepare myself mentally for my RTD. I wish I could remember what my symptoms were last time but as it was a lovely surprise and I didn't test until a week after my missed period (god, ignorance is bliss!) I can't remember. So maybe I didn't have any, but then that also didn't turn out well. God I'm doing my head in overthinking these things...
And yes getting to hang out with all you lovely ladies a bit longer is a silver lining! The car is not too bad, scrapes mostly, but waiting to hear from the other driver who was going to assess the damage to his car and call me... I think he must think I'm a nut job as my bottom lip was wobbling big style when we stopped and looked over the cars...
Sorry that you were feeling down as well, how are things today? Don't be so hard on yourself, maybe right now you could see just getting by as a massive achievement in itself. Just keep going, and have faith that you'll come out the other side. Have a nice lunch with your friend.
MrsGMack welcome, sorry that you find yourself here but it is a good place to be when you are going through this.
Digitalgirl, when were you due your RTD? Is it late? Sorry that your body is being so confusing.
Clareanna- you do have some early starts, do you have to commute in to work from far away? The career woman you heard speaking sounds amazing, if only there could be more people who were as open and compassionate as her.
Right, I'm going to be late for work so hi everyone else, hope you have good days x x

JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD51
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD49
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD42
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD38
Gonnabe TTC#1 UCL28 Cycle 2 C35
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 3 CD35
Magic8ballhastheanswers TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD31
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle3 CD27
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD27
Dorcas11 TTC 1, UCL29, cycle 1, CD27
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle3 CD25
Clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 3 CD22
LucySnowe TTC#2 UCL 40+ cycle 3 CD19
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL 28 cycle 6 CD19
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 6 CD18
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26-9 cycle 12 CD18
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 4 CD14
LadyBee TTC#2 UCL27 cycle 1 CD8
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 CYCLE 2 CD8
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 3 CD5
LAF77 TTC #1, UCL28, Cycle 2 CD5
BUnderthebonnet TTC#2 UCL 28-36 CD??

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 very nearly there
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 2nd cycle post ERPC self imposed TTC amnesty
Jollster TTC#2 MMC 26/2/10 couple of cycles wait on acupuncturist advice
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 2 of 2 cycle wait
Digitalgirl TTC#2 MC 11/04/10
NBelle TTC#1 MC 09/04/10
MrsG/PrettyV Enjoying the view and the great company.
Barrenbrook TTC#1 MMC 12/05/10

GRADUATES
amyboo - baby boy - Matthew
totally - baby girl - Faith
hoops997 - baby boy - Benjamin
Memorylapse - Baby girl - Olivia
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Goodluckbear BFP 10th April 2010
Malteser1981 BFP 11th April 2010
Gilda BFP 19th April 2010
AlbaDeTamble BFP 25th April 2010
sparklyrainbow BFP 25th April 2010
BunnyBaby BFP 27th April 2010
Margie32 BFP 26th April
LucyT66 BFP 30th April
Redheadgal BFP 10th May

Morning ladies, back to work today

Viv how are you feeling today hunny? Sounds funny but I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders after DD2s due date had passed by.

Digit me and you is in the same camp of confusion .......although I really think my dates were out and rusty will gatecrash tomorrow........I just hope it shows up before Saturday......that will be like someone pouring a ton of salt in a large open septic wound if RTD arrives on dd2s anniversary .........would be just my luck though.....all with trying to blow balloons etc up for the party.......ladies I apologise in advance if I go into meltdown over the next few days..........am feeling relatively ok at the mo but I know I could be hovering at the top of that waterfall about to plummet....

Hope you are feeling better today ladybee x

Clareanna what a lovely lady!

Sorry for not name checking everyone...can't quite concentrate today ......will be back later.....

Hi

Everyone thought i would post on this thread . i had mc back in november and here iam again going through my second one . got a bfp on friday by the time i went to the doctors on monday their test was negative and i started to bleed later on that day .

feeling really low and in disbelif its happened again. although i went back to doctors today and they done some standard blood tests and referring me for more tests which i suppose i should feel lucky for as i know some ppl need to wait 3 times before they get this done .

not sure what the blood tests actually test for anyone else been for these and more tests ? give me idea of whats to come thanks

Thanks Ladybee I've read your post on ERPC which was really informative.

I'm booked in for another scan on Tuesday. I presume they will be able to tell if I need an ERPC, but I'm hoping the acupuncture will be enough. After my session there was a lot of pain and I lost quite a lot of blood (sorry if this is TMI)Things have settled down today. I have another acupuncture session arrange after my scan.

hairytriangle It looks like we're both in the same boat which is comforting. Here's to sticky beans all round.

Morning everyone

Thanks for your lovely words. Yesterday was really tough and there were lots and lots of tears, but we managed to go out for a nice meal after visiting the cemetery, where I raised a glass of fizz in honour of our baby girl.

Feel completely wiped out today though - like a really bad hangover.

Magic - I know what you mean. Have been wondering in my head whether the due date was the thing that's been holding me back from conceiving again, and now that it's passed, whether we'll have more luck. Which makes no sense whatsoever - particularly as Gracie was our second loss, and the passing of the due date of our first baby didn't seem to affect things!

Oh - and we're here to hold your hand over the next few days after you so expertly held mine this week. Lots of love xx

Hi to MrsGMack and Glasgow. I'm sorry that you've found yourselves here, but hopefully we'll be able to give you all some support.

Hope everyone else is okay. I'm now in the 2ww so let the turmoil commence

xxx

Mornin' all

Sorry I've not be around much, had a hectic and a bit of a headfuck last few days.

Cheepz Fab news on the job, boo for you having to work your notice.

Muser made up for you that you're nearly there.
Here's hoping you get updiffed pronto.

Batteryhen sorry to hear your sad news,as others have said you're in the right place.
I'm also very nosy intrigued about how you schedule OVing.
Must be tough.

Barrenbrrok good luck with the scan and that it's clear.
Again ,not wanting to sound insensitive but you do make me giggle sometimes.

Dorcas what are you doing ya crazy lady!
Would you like us to set up a campaign to fly post your mug in all your local Boots stores?
We could put a note saying DO NOT SELL POAS' TO THIS WOMAN UNTIL 26-30TH OF THE MONTH.
We can you know. We will.
I know people.
Hope today is better x Squeeeze x

Hi MrsMack hope things happen for you again soon too,good on you for being positive when it's still so raw for you.

Hairybruiser thinking of you and your loopy hormones,hoping today will be the last of you being a walking pin cushion and you finally get some closure.

Clareanna are you a milk lady or are you still doing a paper round?
5.30AM. start.
How do you funtion at 9am nevermind gone 9pm.

LadyB sorry your feeling trousers.
Hope today is brighter and you have a nice Mummyday and lunch with your friend.
I think you are inspirational.
You're funny, always one of the first to be be supportive and strong for others and I actually heart you a little bit.
< MrsG pokes LadyB and also kicks her up the arse to prove she's not soppy weeaally>

In other news I really want accupuncture now cos of you lot.
I'l try anything once, twice if I like it .
I'll be looking that up in a mo.

Short and not so sweet update on moi...
Genetic Counselor called back Mon to say that bloods were complete and it was me who has the duplication and not just beans.
It's not the news we wanted as it will affect future PG's we just don't know the variable yet.
We were told that it was a 6 month wait to see someone but my sob story must have worked as they called back with an App for mid June!

Hey ho.
Suprise, suprise the GC said that it was rare.
My MIL teases me that I'm working my way through the Medical Dictionary.

I'm going to start doing the frikkin' lottery with the odds we're getting for shite luck.
Hoping that it works for good luck too.

I'm doing the Beatles tour today with a few friends and will probably end up in some dodgy pub in Woolton.
I've only lived here for 31 yrs and never thought about doing it but as one is American and Canadian I'm humouring them.

Soz bout the epic post and for those who stayed the distance, much love!
I should post little and often 'stead of rare and rambling.

Waves to everyone and I hope Wed is good to you all.

Toodles.

Oh Mrs, am sorry it wasn't such good news. The way I see it is that if you're working your way through the Medical Dictionary, you've got lots of lovely things to come after D for Duplication. Such as E for 'excellent energy' and F for 'fantastic fanjo' so y'know, it ain't all bad...

Also - when I was growing up, I used to do a milkround before school. VivClicquot trufact.

Prettyvacant LOL @ Hairybruiser - got two more to add to the collection today!

MrsG yes, it is comforting - although I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy, hopefully we will both get 'closure' and a BFP veyr soon!!!!

x