Continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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Hello world!

P.S. Forgot to say the latest on my sis is she has an appointment at the clinic on Wednesday for a termination. Her DH now knows and is pretty upset. He doesn't want to reconcile with her and the lover says it is over too. Poor thing is all alone now.She really did stuff-up, really didn't give her DH a second thought when she feel madly in love with a silver-tongued lying pr**k. Silly girl. Now she has to deal with the fall-out.

oooo, another busy day on the fred.

rowing - yes I DO think she has depression, or suffered some sort of breakdown; I have tried several times to talk to her husband, but he doesn't want to discuss with me. I also see 2 of her 3 children (all adults) from time to time. There is always this elephant in the room...

linda - that is a cheerful post. Always happy to read that sort of optimism. OTOH the thought of deciding a cut-off point to TTC makes me feel sick...

Gum - so sorry for your sister. What a nightmare situation.

Hippy what's occurin'?

Hi to all. Lots to do today - all my family (except my sister, though one of her sons will come) arrive tomorrow for a birthday bash for DS. Booze to buy, food to plan, cat-hair to remove!

Hope you are doing ok, and enjoy the BH weekend.

Hippy - where are you, I am here waiting for your test results!!!! Can you please go POAS now for me, then I can put mn down and actually go do something sensible with the day!!!

rowing are you testing today???

jollster - have a good party.

gum - you sound so much happier today (whoops yesterday!).

linda - thank you thank you. your story of the great obs man, has really helped me to feel less like an idiot for keeping trying.

Pollyanna - happy birthday, I am sure that the official sash will be here soon to welcome you to the group, I just need to go and wake up all the others who seem to be having a late morning today. so how does it feel to be officially "old" like the rest of us!!!!

big hi to everyone else

I am going to a wedding (dh's friend) next weekend. It will be the first weekend dh and I have taken without kids around for 7 years..... so should be a fun time. I bought a dress yesterday and shoes, now have to go find a jacket / pashmina (how do you spell it?) and some flat shoes for the evening. Also need to get my hair done.... so much to do today, need to go have retail therapy for the 2ww!

Morning! Ooh very jealous of your forthcoming weekend Rainbow; enjoy the retail therapy - best type in my opinion and usually the cheapest too
Happy Birthday Pollyanna Enjoy your day
Linda I really enjoyed reading your post and agree your positivity is infectious Thanks for sharing x
Hippy waiting here too- hope all is ok xx
Jollster sounds busy - hope the party goes well
Gum oh dear, does sound a very sad situation all round for your sister On a more positive note, you sound much brighter after af. I agree, there must be a way to avoid the whole ttc-ing being such a let-down when af arrives. I try to plan a 'purchase' to cheer me up if af arrives (a splurge on ASOS website usually does the trick)
Hello to everyone else.Hope it's not as rainy everywhere as it is here!

Hi all,
just popping in to see if Hippy is testing, but I'm at work so better be careful... [hides under desk with keyboard]

Lia I'm glad we can be of service on this thread, to help in your preparations for senility.

Rainbow, stop it! I'm not testing! I know it's nice when people test. I have a blood test next Friday, but wouldn't bother testing at home until next week some time. I don't have any symptoms, so really not holding my breath.

Jollster, I like the new name for the thread: Fred.

[scuttles of as manager arrives]

Sorry to keep you waiting ladies. DH had the laptop (yes we only have the 1 - how archaic) and was doing something really important - NOT.

Anyway I am please to announce that HIPPY IS PREGNANT!

OMG - wrap me in bubble wrap, stick me in a deep freeze and wake me up in 8 weeks for a scan!

Hippy!!!! You're duffed!!! . Many, many congrats, you truly deserve it! So pleased for you (hey my 'feelings' were right!) (and maybe a little ). So when's your due date?

diege I said to the other lady who had a 'feeling' about me. You two need to get yourself some hoop earrings, a headscarf and a tent and go and tell fortunes. So glad you were both right.

Sorry you're a little . You never know your psychic powers might pick you next month.

Due date 7/2/11. It is quite strange cos we found out that our last little one hadn't made it on 12/2/10 and it would be marvellous if a year on from that awful day we could be holding our new one (dreamy face icon).

I'm trying to be optimistic but realistic (which is bloody hard I can tell you). So many hurdled to get over before next Feb.

I'm just gonna try to be happy for now and worry about all the other stuff in the middle of the night (like I usually do).

Agree Hippy you have everything to be happy for,so enjoy! . And don't be sorry for my , it's a giddy wistful sort of not the sad type! Will be on SWI time myself next week (that's come around quick!)so hopefully be joining you in the not too distant future! Is it no.4 for you BTW or did I make that up?

I have 2 boys (7 & 10) and the one we lost. So 4th preg - trying for 3 child. IYSWIM.

I feel awful now cos people were on here earlier looking to see if I had any news and now they've all buggered off (present company excepted diege )

I hope they pop back soon to check again. They might have been worried that I didn't post first thing (did the flippin' test at 7am). They might be thinking I was too sad to post when actually I was pacing the floor and trying to force the laptop out of a big burly 6ft man's hands. (ohhh that makes DH sound very sexy).

I'm sure they'll be back. But in their absence can I have more details??? Which test did you use?? Did you just 'know' it would be +?? What did dh say???I do love the details...

Did a clearblue digital (with conception indicator) 1 - 2 weeks.

I was about 90% sure it was gonna be positive cos I haven't got to day 28 since I had the coil out last summer (except when I was preg earlier this year.)

DH was surprised - he thought it would take 5 goes this time like last time (it actually only took 3 this time).

Hopefully it will step up our plans to get our arses off to the Isle of Wight.

It's all quite subdued here cos I don't want the boys to guess. They were so upset when we lost our little one in feb and I vowed not to tell them til after the 12 week scan if I ever got pregnant again.

Which I am - whoop whoop - kinda can't believe it. Please god this old bird had a good egg in her!!!

Can I ask if you know about chemical pregs?? Does the fact that i got a pos on a digital mean I am past the chance of it being chemical or could it still be. I don't really understand them .

Hippy I think chemical pregs are those detected very early when fertilisation occurs but no proper implantation? The cases I've known have had v.early faint bfps, followed by bfn by the time af would have been due. So on that basis, your bfp today would take you outside of the CP window? So stop worrying!!! There is nothing that indicates there will be a problem this time!!!! I had a mmc myself at 10 weeks, and then got pregnant with ds 3 months after,so I do know how you feel, but please try to relax and celebrate!!!!

Ok time to think about other people for a while. (yeah stop going on about yourself Hippy!!!)

lia Hope I have made you feel more positive about conceiving. Who knows if this one will go the distance but it does prove oldies can get upduffed. And by the way i'm 44 on 21st Aug so i am one whole month older than you Missy.

linda thanks again for your post yesterday i am focusing on the bit about - if you are prepared to acknowledge that things can go wrong then you must be prepared to acknowledge that things are more likely to go right. Or something along those lines.

rowing thinking of you and hoping for good news soon.

genghis good to have you back on the thread. You missed a corker of a shag-fest but I'm sure you'll start your own soon.

gum how awful for your sister. I really don't know what to say (Hippy lost for words - ) Glad your cycle has returned. Good luck for this month. Glad you seem more like your old self.

jolly Just trying to think of something smutty and yet whitty to say to you.......

Enjoy your DS's party - hard work but fun. Make sure you catch it all on film - they grow up so quickly and you forget stuff. i watched a dvd of our 7 year old when he was 3 recently and it was like I was watching something I'd never seen before (and I must have seen it cos I was flippin' well in it!!)

polly nearly forgot to give you the sash (Hippy grabs it off diege and places around polly - WHAT you thought we had two of 'em?)

rainbow how are you doing - me thinks you must be on the 2ww.

OK my DS (10) wants the laptop so i'm reluctanly signing off for a while.

Speak to you all later.

diege sorry crossed posts with you, I was preparing my rather long post. Yeah that makes sense - thanks.

I will focus on you having a successful preg after a MMC.

Thanks for chatting. Gotta go- my 10 year old is pulling at the lapto.........

Hippy - Have been following this thread and just have to say CONGRATULATIONS! What wonderful news on this dreary, miserable day!

Wow, great news Hippy! I was lurking checking my phone every half hour this morning... gave up about 1pm feeling a bit sad. Lovely news to see now

Agree with Diege on CP, I think you're out of the woods there already if you're up to 1-2 weeks on a digi (Alba scratches head wondering why Hippy's using those devil sticks when she's sure it was Hippy's advice to go nowhere near them???). My CP was a very early test following that 'just know' feeling and lots of symptoms, followed by symptoms disappearing a few days later and neg tests again.

I'm so excited for you! Can thoroughly recommend early peace of mind scan though -- timed mine for just beyond when they thought our little one had stopped developing last time, and although I have plenty of milestones yet to reach, it is a weight off my mind to know all is well so far.

Not sure if you checked out the totally's grads thread, lots of lovely hand holding there and plenty of names you'll recognise I'm sure, including the lovely TFLS, and Jollster pops in every now and then too (big wave to Jollster, you'll be back there really soon, I'm sure of it, bear in mind what Linda's obstetrician said, uplifting stuff). I'm still scared of venturing back to the old birds thread I'm afraid. After 12 weeks. Along with telling everyone.

I'm quite sure my mother has guessed, but I'm resolutely sticking to keeping the secret, the longer we keep it, the harder it will be to tell anyone!! And thankfully the kids haven't guessed yet, though like rainbowdays I'm also off to a wedding next weekend, and for me the retail therapy bit is a nightmare, trying to find a nice dress that simply has to be empire line, and a size bigger than usual, so don't really want to spend too much as it'll be a one-off....

Linda, your post was wonderfully reassuring, thank you so much for that. Hopefully it's helping Hippy's stress levels now too.

Did I wish Diege and Pollyanna happy birthdays? I have my fingers crossed for you both for this coming month.

And Rowing, my fingers are still tightly crossed for you.

Right, logging off and back to sleep, not only do I have pregnancy exhaustion, I have a very nasty throat infection, feeling dreadful, but Hippy's news has brightened up my day. Waves to all

Thanks gailforce .You should join in more - we are happy to hear all your secrets etc.

alba Sorry you had a scare about me this morning. I was trying to explain to DH that there would be an army of people simply waiting to hear my news and I suspected that if i posted too late you guys would have begun to fear the worst, but you know men, "I wont be on it long, you can have it soon, just a minute!" arrgghhhh.

What I meant about the conception indicators was that i've heard the No. of weeks can go down and cause people to panic. The reason i chose it though was cos it actually says the word pregnant (which i have sneaked back to look at several times today). And I didn't want all that am i/arn't i? faint line stuff. of course I wont be using the other one from the pack next week to check it has gone up to 2 - 3 weeks - that would be madness and go against all my preachings .

alba I will defo go for an early scan - not sure when though. Like you our little one got to about 8 weeks so not sure whether to go before or after that. Gosh i'm only 4 weeks - it all seems a bloody age away.

Oh heck a single magpie has just landed in the garden - SORROW - lucky I'm not supersticious!!!!

hippy wooohoo am so so pleased for you.

Hoping you have a very boring and uneventful 8 mths.

CP i'm afraid it's not that straightforward, for a test to be pos, embryo must have implanted otherwise body wouldn't be giving out hcg, therefore contrary to popular belief a cp is indeed a very early mc. My mc before last was pos at 1-2 wks then lost at 5 wks. (sorry, I'm sure this won't be the case with Hippy).

Come on you newbie ladies, chuck us some of your left over duffed vibes.

Great bank holiday news.

Fantastic news Hippy congratulations......so the shagfest paid off then

Yes indeed curly all hail the shagfest.

I'm guessing it was either the wednesday before the night of the shagfest or the saturday after (you'll remember that after starting the friday shagfest off, I then ducked out till the next day due to too much shopping at homebase) .

linda I didn't know that I didn't accept messages not too technical me!
I'll take the envelope that says healthy baby please .

I see what you mean lia. I'm just gonna have to hope that my body takes the ball and runs with it - so to speak.

Just had a good old talk to it in a relaxing bath. Told it how pleased I was that it had decided to implant and promised it I would do my absolute best for it. Also told it how pleased my DH was and that the boys would be over the moon as soon as we tell them. So I hope it knows how much we want it and there's really nothing else i can do - apart from not bungee jump or drink 4 bottles of gin - but those are givens arn't they.

Thanks to all for your congrats.

I can't believe that the first May bank holiday i was crying cos I had such a short cycle and feeling sooo negative and here I am on the second May bank hol getting all these congrats - still can't believe it all.

xxx

diege the girl on the other thread who said she had a feeling about me is now being asked to predict who's next. Me thinks you will become the psychic of this thread now - ohhhh the pressure.

That feckin' magpie is back. (Not looking not looking la la la. Hands over eyes and fingers in ears.)