Continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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Hello world!

Hippy, i want to know, I want to know! I guess I'll have to find the other thread!

Well, I'm 6dpo (I think, if it really was ovulation?) and not much in the way of symptoms. I did have a nice high temp this morning, but I'm not sure I can even trust that as I was tossing and turning a lot before I took the temp.

I don't want to get my hopes up.And I suppose I should just be glad if my fertility has returned, at least there will be future chances.

As for my sister.The soap opera goes on.The BF has decided it is all over and has booked her into the termination clinic for Monday. She hasn't told DH because she hopes there is a chance for them, and there may not be if he finds out. Oh my, it is so messy and horrible. She really isn't in a good place right now and I don't think she can go ahead and have the baby alone, but on the other hand the decision has to sit right with her. The lover has really let her down, he made so many promises and didn't keep any of them.She really thought there was a future.He caught her at a vulnerable time, but she was naive enough to believe his lies. It is just so sad.

Gosh, it is awful when so many people are trying desperately to have a baby, and so many don't, but wind up pregnant!

How's everyone else feeling? Are those of you in the tww feeling anything? rowing have you been to the clinic?

All best wishes to everyone, let's hope for some lovely bfp's soon!

OK friday night / saturday morning-ers..... stay away from those horrible pee sticks, I know the temptation is there from tomorrow, so I am giving you all due warning DO NOT TEST EARLY.... , as if you are going to take any notice of me at all .

Gum- oh no, so sorry that you are being faced with your sisters dilemma. I would have thought there was even less chance for her and her dh if she tries to keep such a big secret from him. It is so hard when you are so desperate for a baby and she is considerating terminating.

TFLS - good to hear that your scan went well, I hope you pop back and give us details here too.

Hello . Oh dear Gum what a stressful situation for your sister (and you). It's odd, if I was watching these events unfold on a soap opera,I'd be thinking, don;t tell dh, it will turn out ok, but as Rainbow says (voice of reason at so many levels )I suppose any chance for the future must come from total honesty. Changing the subject, I think things sound hopeful for you re: ttc, if not this month then, as you say, for the future months.
Rainbow I am in no danger of testing whatsoever, even though the tests have moved back from under the bed to the box in front of the toilet . I have never felt more sure that I am not pregnant - it just sort of hit me about 5 days after ov that it wasn;t to be my month, and I think I would actually prefer for this to be confirmed with arrival of af rather than a series of bfns. Nver sure what's the best way of dealing with the disappointment of a bfn, negs on a test, or af arriving? At least with the former it sort of prepares you?
Hippy didn't realise you had another week to wait!. My af should be due Mon/Tues, though if last month was anything to go by it will be Sat/Sun. Have slightly sore boobs at the sides and have been having bad cramping at night, but totally fits with my usual pre- af symptoms.
Right, better get back to work. Back later x

Hi all,
just popping in...

Gum that is a very very difficult situation for your sister. You must be so torn about what to say for the best.
It does seem unlikely that her husband will reconcile if she is carrying another man's child, but it would be an awful secret for her to keep.
I do hope your OPK was right and the high temp, all looking good.

Deige I know you are just telling us 6 weeks holiday so we aren't jealous, you really get 16 weeks don't you.

Early testers beware! You have been warned! I know how many tests you have and I will know if one is missing (works on my DS )

So DP trudged over to the clinic this morning and they looked quite relieved to see him.
He was joking about how they must think I am a desperate old woman, trying to steal embryos. I think it must have been my break-in to the embryo freezing room with a cool box that tipped them off.
Got to phone back later to see if transfer is Monday (most likely).
Off round for a bit of a play with DS's mates (DS not me).

rowing all the best for Monday - you are remarkably calm lovie.

As for me - i had a horrid dream that I had a period and I was only 5 days post ovultion and I was crying and saying we might as well give up with a LP of 5 days. I was very relieved to wake up and find it wasn't true but it has left me feeling very edgy and pessimistic

I wont be ready to test for some time yet. i promise - look this is how many tests I have (Hippy shows the box to everyone).

feel really bad for your sis gum would hate to be in her situation. Hope your high temp is a good sign. Mine was very high this morning and I wondered if the weather effects your BBT??? anyone know?

Ah yes but Hippy vivid dreams are a sign of pregnancy aren't they?
FWIW I have 8 tests left Not that they will be decreasing in number any time soon. Ok, they will if af hasn't arrived by this time next week

I only have 2 tests. Fertility Friend says I can test from next Tuesday so if RTD hasnt arrived by then I will do (am convinced it is on its way though and am knicker checking with abandon).

diege bless ya honey for being so conviced !!

Still can't shake the edgyness from the dream - weird isn't it.

I'll bet you turn out to be up-duffed diege.

Good luck for next Tuesday polly - hope RTD hasn't turned up and spoiled the party before then. I am also knicker checking despite it being way way too early for anything.

How do blind people TTC? - I often wonder - cos they can't knicker check like we do. I guess they manage otherways.

polly I love the phrase knicker checking with abandon. I have an image of someone pulling down their knix in the middle of the office just to have a quick look-see!!!

I know you're not actually doing that polly

I was going to put knicker checking with gay abandon!

No, I've not managed to lose control just yet!

Diege will you be due to test before your birthday?

I also started knicker-checking yesterday, as am convinced af is round the corner. I have to admit to having done worse that pull down knickers in street in the past...I have sort of checked in a supermarket once(in a hands down the knickers way , but it had to be done...
Polly, af due weekend onwards, birthday Thurs, so chances are I'll be on af by then, though maybe that could be my day to test if no af by then? . What a great 40th birthday pressie that would be!
Hippy I think pregnancy dreams like that do effect you, but hopefully you'll have a lovely one tonight to cancel it out

diege IT WAS NOT A PREGNANCY DREAM - you are a terror .

How crap to be on AF for your 40th birthday. So much nicer to get a BFP for that day.

My 40th was wonderful. I was on my honeymoon in Valencia. (told Dh he had to marry me by the time I was 40 and he thought it would be funny to marry me 3 days before my 40th - we'd been together 10 years and had the boys by then!)

I had a lovely day in Valencia and a lovely meal out (boys were not with us.)

Hope you both have a lovely 40th birthday - how did you get past security and get on this thread early - (Hippy goes to speak to the crap doormen.)

I think we asked nicely, stressing the very near to 40-dom and everyone was too polite to mention it It would be ironic if we were technically 39 when we conceived though

We would be very angry and have to check the rules to see if you were allowed to stay - but then we would come to our senses and go whoop whoop BFP's and give you virtual hugs.

My boobs are itchy - is this a sign of pregnancy or cos I was standing over a hot pan on the hottest day of the year so far??

Note to self - must wash hands after secretly scratching boobs before continuing with dear families dinner .

Hi all Rowing glad you are cyst-free! Long may it be so! Hope your dad is well again soon. I hope all will go really well for you. Is it Monday?

Alba all the best for the scan. God bless and thinking of you.

Hippy all the best being a sex siren. . I don;t manage that much at the moment! Maybe your friend in real life likes doing it twice a day! It has been known to happen!

I knew the Mentalist meant to let that car go over the cliff! Oppose, sorry if I spoilt the complicated plot, it was last week now! Have you guys seen 'Burn Notice', it is so fab, as is 'The Good Wife', but at the moment I am enjoying the Apprentice Junior, any other fans?

Lindalinda all best wishes and nice to see you popping up and telling encouraging stories.

You mentioned the school teacher remember her miscarriage of 20 years ago. My mum is a bit like that, it was about 35 years! But I think for some people the pain of miscarriage is very raw but not for everyone.

Hairy, so sorry at your sad news and how you are feeling.

Rainbowdays so sorry to about your period.

Gum what a terrible situation, so sorry about your sis?s unusual situation. Would her hubby take her back with child in tow?

florencerusty and pinkpanettone Hi

Polyanna My mum could never read my posts; she would not know how to turn the PC on! Hope it is not proving to be a problem.

Gengis, how was the Jamie at home party?

TFLS, ILGH, Curleylox, Diege, liaghen, Gonepearshaped,doubleshotlatte, Jollster, Summersky, all the very best to you guys too.

Sorry it has been so long since I was last in touch. Just spending a lot of time trying to sort out work and also getting my head around the whole adoption thing. Even up to last night was sort of hoping for a sudden miracle pregnancy but this week went to an amazing church service and just felt a sense of acceptance of the situation. Today my period showed up, so certainly for the moment the possible miracle baby is not on the horizon!

If anyone wants to stay in touch, feel free to email on my name italiangreyhound the age I wish I still was 39 (actually I wish I was a lot younger but it is 39) and that is at yahoo dot co dot uk so please do email me if you want to stay in touch; but don?t feel you have to, I will look in from time to time.

Love and prayers to all.

ooopse nearly typed gin by accident!

Hi all,

Italian how lovely to hear from you. You have completely lost me with the email address, but I have yours anyway from the 'info' email.
I would like to keep in touch. Are you going to be disappearing?

Hippy, I'm sorry you made me laugh with your dream of woe, in kind of ironic, kind of 'what next?!?' Kind of way.

Am I calm, am I? It's called being bloody minded, I'm just not going to get excited or depressed about this, defence mechanism I'm certain.

Diege where were you in the supermarket for the 'checking' I hope not the check out - get it! Boom boom!

Good to hear from you italian. Hope you are feeling able to move on and look into adoption soon. I cannot imagine how hard that must be. Fingers crossed for a miracle for you. If anyone deserves one you do . It sounds like your faith is still keeping you going.

rowing hard not to invest emotions - I totally understand why you're trying not to though.

diege I am literally speechless at your revelation. You are very dedicated to your cause. Would soooo have loved to be in the queue behind you when you 'checked'!!!!! I think I would genuinly have wet myself You are my kind of girl!

Wow how busy is it on here, you lot talk so much....just how I like it the only hiccup is keeping up! I was kind of hoping to have a BFP this month before I celebrate my 21st birthday for the second time and my first birthday too which is Tuesday coming but have a feeling rusty/af will be here most definitely by tomorrow or even tonight
Will have a scroll back and see what you lovely lot have been up to.

Hi All. Just popping on to let you know I had a scan today at 16+5. The greatest thing is that all seems well with baby. And the other thing is - it's a girl. DS2 is over the moon. DS1 wanted another brother but he'll get over it. DS3 is just too little to know, of course.

Not buying too much stuff though til the second anomaly scan at 22 weeks when I'll get her (the lovely ob/gyn doc) to check again (I asked "are you sure?" about 20 times, thought she would brain me).

Anyway, will catch up with all your news on what is now a very long thread.

congrats ILGH I know you had a preference for a girl. I believe you were trying for one - in that you stopped SWI well before ovulation etc.

More importantly very pleased all is going well. A healthy baby being the ultimate aim of course . Do you think the progesterone etc has helped or was this one maybe just meant to go ok.

ILGH, so pleased for you! It sounds like your pregnancy is progressing well.

Italian, it is lovely to hear from you.I really hope things turn out well for you.

Hippy I have to tell you that I had a similar vivid dream in the tww before Charlie's pregnancy - I dreamt that I saw a psychic and she said "sorry, I don't see any babies in your future, only puppies"!! At the time I was sure it meant I was out for that month.

I've also had some vivid dreams, but I think it's because of what's happening to my sis. I dreamt that we were both pregnant together and discussing something about genetics, then again this morning I dreamt I was trying to disguise my pregnant belly. Wishful thinking on my part I think.
Another nice high temp today - much higher than I've had before - perhaps because I sleep with my LO?

Diege, that was very funny about the K.C(knicker checking). I know I have been tempted, but I worry that if I start doing that I'll be doing it all over the place without thinking ...imagine, in front of a classroom of teenagers!!

Afternoon . ILGH many congrats, girls are great! I had 3 before having ds, so the other way round!
Just to add a bit more context to my knicker-checking moment, it was in the frozen food aisle. I sort of felt a small 'gush' so really needed to check and managed quite succesfully I thought by bending over the freezer in the pretence of checking out the stock. Of course the staff examining the cct-footage might disagree
Fully expecting af to arrive sat/sun. Have the starts of my usual menstrual migraine,and don't feel too bad about it really. I will need to take a break from ttc-ing next month (I'm worried about HG and having it on August hols, it does tend to get better after 12 weeks or so)but will be fully back on board for July. Think I'll focus on losing that last half stone and exercising properly!

Meant to add gumblossom that that high temp sounds excellent- when would you be testing?

Hi, all, sorry to not name check.

Yesterday morning I started a bleed (22 days aftr last one) and fainted plus had terrible leg pain, so went to hossie and was admitted!

I'm home now, they think it's the final 'passing' of whatever was in there making my HCG rise, and if it doesn't now go down, I'll be given a shot to dissolve whatever is there.

Just letting you all know I'm fine, and as long as I don't have the shot, then I'll be back on the TTC list next week

xxxxx

PS: I've now had about 15-20 needles poked in me in three weeks and have the most impressive bruised arms!!! LOL x