Idreaminhotchocolate Way to go chocobunny. Go Freddie go, I am so pleased . Keep listening to Auntie Zita! Yes Mars ice cream yummy, I'm having a hot chocolate now and thinking of you! Best quality Fair Trade, yummy. Sorry it took so long for me to get back to you, I'm not checking every day but I am thinking of you, stay away from those rockets! Can't believe DH wants to go to B and Q 3 times in one day!!!
gingerwine so sorry. There aren't really any words to say.
gingerwine how do I stay so positive, well I must say it is God. I have been a Christian for 27 years and it is only when the sh*t hits the fan (if you excuse that term!) that you find out what your faith means and actually it is then that you hang on to God more tightly, and he hangs onto you too! I also think in a very real sense I did feel prepared for it not to have worked. I am also quite excited about the prospect of adopting. Please be kind to yourself, I really feel so sorry for you (and me) and I know it is harder when the feelings are raw so just be nice to yourself.
Gingerwine re donor eggs - I'll tell you my considerations and you can let me know if you want to ask anything. I wanted a clinic where the child (if there was one) could trace the donor one day if they wished to. This may not be everyone's consideration, but it was mine. I think this rules in the UK and the USA (and maybe other places too) and rules out some other European places. No idea about the rest of the world. If this is not a consideration for you, then you can include all clinics that you like. I chose to go with a clinic that was close to home, but still about 1 and half hours away, but which did not involved going into London on public transport! My own dislike of tubes
and buses etc! (By tubes I mean the underground not fallopian ones). Sorry Ginger, I should not joke, I know it is hard but if possible I like to be a bit light hearted or we would all be crying a lot! Anyway, some clinics said if we had a child already (as we do) that we would not be eligible for donor eggs, because they did not have enough. My understanding is that you can either find a clinic that will recruit a donor for you, or find your own donor, I felt it was too hard to find my own donor and did not go down that route. But if I had had friends offering to do it, I may have felt differently. So for me it was logical to look at all clinics within driving distance of where we live, speak to them by phone and find out a few key things - their prices, their waiting lists, their upper age limit, and also look at their success rates. We chose the closest clinic with best results and reasonable costs which treated people of my age. When you look at it that way you find that some clinics rule themselves out for one reason or another. Ours offered altruistic donors and egg sharers and some have only very few egg sharers per years. If you are CMV positive (or DH is) then the wait is shorter usually so you may find that you could use a UK clinic and not wait too long.
Horton Injections - easier - well, ask the clinic, that is my answer to everything, I'm afraid! I think it is easier if you just do it firmly and perhaps give the injection site a little rub afterwards. I found some hurt and some did not. Anyway, all the best. What is the psychologically problem? Are you afraid of needles? They are just so tiny that they do not too much! DD and I find it makes it less fearful if we name spiders, maybe you could name your needles, Ted tonight, Jim tomorrow, and
Tammy-Lou the day after! Just an idea!
Cerubina So sorry to hear you are down. Do you have a plan, are you waiting for something to happen or just waiting for it to happen naturally. I am the type of person who finds it easier to have a plan. Or a distraction, maybe time to do something else for short while, as the Americans say, re-group? All the best.
PenfoldsGlasses Thinking of you, please look after yourself, be careful and keep that little embie safe. I am so pleased for you. It is so easy to assume that others have it easy to think how lucky people are then we hear the full story and know that all our bfps and little ones are hard one, because for us it has not been easy to have the family we wanted. So well done to you, for your perseverance. It is admirable to want something so much you are willing to face the sadness too. But this time, I really hope and pray that it will all be OK. What else can I say, make that DH look after you!
Thanks Amberc you nearly made me cry with your kind words! Lost 14 pounds, what is your secret! Wonderful. Really hope that the IUI cycle will work this time. Our DD is the result of an IUI cycle with just one follicle when I was just about to turn 39.
babybarrister well done, you will get there soon - I feel sure. Good not to lose the perspective and not to lose some humour in it all.
Welcome back KC11, all the best.
Waves, , arrow prayers and chocolate boobs to all