Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

[liahgen66]

Ok, feel a bit scared actually starting the new thread but here we are, for however long (or short) our time here may be.

Off you go ladies. Welcome () one and all.

OMG Goodluckbear you poor thing! You are definatley due an upturn and in good luck stakes!

So sorry for all the sadness of the past day or so, hope some of you are feeling a little more positive now.

I know full well I'll be totally blue if this month is a BFN, even though there's practically no chance of having conceived (although I did OV I think, which is a step up from last month after MC). Doesn't matter how slim the chance is, that little bit of hope doesn't go away.

TBH have not had too much time to think about TTC this month with DS and me both being so poorly. He is currently having marathon 3 hour nap and I am beginning to worry i've knocked him out with too much teething medicine!

Thanks Allthe8s - that little bit of reassurance that I am not losing the plot on top of everything else is good!

Gina - you lucky thing, I had that idea then realised my passport has expired and DD doesn't have one. Now my calendar at work is chocca so no chance. Have a very good time and try to relax and recouperate.

Goodluckbear - glad someone around here is ovulating, spread a little in my direction please!

Hopefully - hope you and your little get well soon. I hear you on the TTC. Even without being ill S, without or wiithout I, is the last thing on my mind! I haven't been good at hedging my bets hence the obsession with OPKs and temp charting. You still have a glimmer of hope though so fingers crossed.

Ha Moofold, your passport expiry reminds me of after me and my now DH got together and decided to have a first Bridget Jones-esque mini break away in Rome.

We rocked up at Liverpool airport at 4am to check in for our 6am flight and were stood in the queue to check-in - DH was laughing at my passport pic, so I asked to see his and it was only when I looked that I noticed his passport had expired. In our panic, we decided to brazen it out at the check-in desk (I know, I know!) and obviously the person behind the counter spotted it, so we weren't allowed to travel.

What an idiot. Good job I didn't marry hi... oh.

hahahaha - Viv, that's hilarious!!

That's going to keep me going for the rest of the day.

That and the fact I got the phrase "tighty whities" into a conversation at work - yes, I knew I'd get it in eventually. It was like this:

Boss: "GLB, do we have the budget for this IT work we need?"
GLB: "Let's hope so, if the computers don't get fixed then my daily update on MN is going to be at risk"
Boss: "Er what?"
GLB: "Nothing. The budget is tight, as tight as my tighty whities, but I think we can squeeze it in".
Boss: "Sorry?"
GLB: "I mean it's fine to get the IT work done".

Genius!!

xxxx

P.S. Sprinkling ov dust over everyone who wants it xxxxxxxx

LOVE IT! Tightywhiteytastic! Oh you absolute star! Thanks Goodluck, and VivC, for putting a smile on my face today. Really needed it!

Bless you!

Goodluckbear you have just made my day x

Sorry, I just meant to say hi to Sakura too, - and apologies if I missed anyone else new, I should keep a pen and pad to hand when reading this thread to make sure I say hi properly next time.

I hope I haven't missed out anyone else new!! As a catch all, BIG WAVE to everyone!!

xxxxxxxxx

must keep trying with the tighty whiteys, but with af as it is that could be interesting... whatever the bodyform girl does.

Where did i put those rollerskates?

Hi Sakura sorry I missed your post - you have had a horrible old time. I hope you can find the support here, it's been quite a busy thread and there are lots of us here to talk to who have been/are in the same boat xx

meatntattypie thats good that your results are all clear but at the same time shit that it doesn't give you a reason. I've had 2 (21 weeks/7 weeks) reasons unrelated, although I had a blood clot behind my placenta which caused the late one both times they said bad luck

Hi, have been lurking for a few days. Am tentatively joining the thread, though not ready to TTC yet. Started to MC 19th Jan. Most bleeding stopped this Monday (sorry if TMI) but still slight loss. Have no idea if any of it was AF.

Desperately want to be back in that place where I had my next 18 months planned, ie have my baby back, go on mat leave end of april, take my little girl to school every day when she starts in Sept, leave my horrid workplace (tho love my job), be there when my eldest starts secondary school next year ..etc ..etc ..etc

Am feeling very fragile. Lots of hard days , supportive but not very understanding DH. Very supportive Mum and x2 BF.

Just doing this whilst I get chance. I've got loads to catch up on, this is such a lively thread. Waving at everyone for now, hope everyone is ok.

Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD41
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD35
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD28
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD26
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle10 CD24
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD22
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD22
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD21
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD20
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD20
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 11 CD19
Albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle WTF CD19
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD18
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD17
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD16
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD16
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 11 CD14
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 9 CD11
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD 11
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD10
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD10
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 6 CD8
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD7
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD5
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD2
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD1

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
slimyak TTC#2 UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL 25 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010

hello everyone, just checking in quickly to have a little OCD list update ... (dirtgirl, have kept you in exactly as you were, but needed to add one to everyone elses CDs)

Welcome to everyone new and so sorry you're here.

I feel like PMT just starting to kick in so a bit low, so I'll shut up till I can find something happy to post.

Wednesday list:
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD36
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD29
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD27
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle10 CD25
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD23
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD23
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD22
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD21
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD21
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 11 CD20
Albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle WTF CD20
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD19
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD18
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD17
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD17
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD15
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 11 CD15
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 9 CD12
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD 12
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD11
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD11
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 6 CD9
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD7
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD6
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD6
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD3
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle 1 CD3
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD2

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
slimyak TTC#2 UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL 25 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL? cycle WTF
Mummy369
meatntattypie
GinaFB

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010

And can I just say, stop sprinkling your ov dust over this direction! I've not peed on any sticks or managed to work my ov microscope (anyone else used one have any tips?) but according to cm, I'm oving at the moment and my back is still done in so SWI not on the agenda.

Hi to all. Hope you are all doing ok.

I'm still getting those darn shooting pains up the backside. 8 days after EPRC. I am going to see my lovely gp tomorrow but am worried she is gonna say, "Not normal after EPRC - let's book you in for a quick camera up the bum!"

Can I ask you guys, how scared were you about having another mc when you started ttc-ing. I so want to get pregnant again and i am trying hard to read all the facts that say most mc's are due to a problem with that particular embryo and you start again with the sme 1/4 chance of mc.

But, I'm 43 and I am wondering now if the reason I had my mmc was cos my eggs are just too old and that if I try again - I will have the same experience.

I think at the end of the day it comes down to how much you want to be pregnant again. But the doctor at the hospital did say, "Although this probably wont happen again and the chances are you'll be fine next time, you can't go in for another one unless you are prepared for the fact that this could happen again!"

So sorry if I've scared the sh*t out of anyone, I really don't mean to. I guess I just want someone official to say to me that it probably was just a one off.

Does anyone have any good stories of people who had an mc and then had a healthy preg afterwards please?

I have had 2 healthy pregnancies previously(and I know how lucky I am.)

God, i'm worried now that you're all thinking, what a greedy cow - she shouldn't need another baby at her age!! Argghh I hate hormones!

A boy in my DS's class said to him today, "You're not still upset about your mum's baby dying are you, I thought you'd be over that by now!"

He's only 9 and we only lost the baby less than 2 weeks ago. He hadn't known about the baby long but he was so pleased and so upset when I had to tell him and his brother (aged 6)that the baby hadn't made it.

He was very upset when he got home from school.

Am i wrong to be so bloody mad at that other kid?

Pleased when we told them about us having a baby and then sad when we told them we'd lost it - not sure that was very clear! Argghh Hippy stop typing and go to bed!

Morning Hippy. I had a good old sob last night when I was looking to see what charities covered mc. Found one that had a bloody great chart of research showing your chances of mc increasing as you age (don't go and look at it!). I'm 38, and according to that we're screwed! Although quite good news if you are 12. WFT! I'm sure its fine though, my nan had my mum at 44. Just really shocked at a "compassionate" charity chucking stats like that in your face. Tommy's I am not your friend.

Mornin' all.
I am so so sorry I've not posted and acknowledged all your kind words over the last week.
I've been feeling very low and have tried to keep away from the net incase curiosity got the better of me and I started fully researching Molar pregnancy.

Lovely new thread!
Hope it brings loads of luck for you all

Bigmuther Oh honey I'm am so sorry.
When you're ready this is a great place to be for support and hand holding.

GinaFB you are clearly very strong.
I hope you too can find support here when you get back from your break.

Welcome Sankura and Meatandtattypie

Hippy that is so sad your DS had to hear that, kids can be so direct and cruel sometimes.

Not much as changed with me... still no AF.
Day 50 now I think.
No point speculating until my scan and bloods this afternoon.
Just wait I suppose.

PS sorry for v brief post, am not yet a master of hiding the MN screen at work!

mrsgazibo I completely understand your need not to google the whole molar thing. A little bit of knowledge is a dangerous thing. Really hope all goes ok for you at your appointment today.

I've made the huge mistake of looking up the chances of MC at my age and am now well and truelly .

Maybe i should just make the most of what I have and stop reaching for the stars?????. We just all wanted one more little one in our house.

This morning I was listening to Michael Buble singing - just haven't met you yet. I always liked that song (really showing my age now)

Anyway, i'd always thought it was just about a man/woman relationship but if you apply the words to a baby that you want to have, it becomes very poignant and makes you sob as you're driving home from school (very dangerous!)

I really hope there are little ones out there for all of us that we just haven't met yet.

g1lda Try not to panic - I'd love to be 38 . You're just a spring chick .

OK, I have very limited it skills, or maybe it's a confidence thing. I'm presuming the up-dated list is just a cut and paste job with stats added, so here goes.

Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD41
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD35
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD28
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD26
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle10 CD24
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD22
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD22
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD21
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD20
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD20
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 11 CD19
Albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle WTF CD19
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD18
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD17
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD16
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD16
Slimyak TTC #2 UCL 26 cycle 2 CD15
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD14
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 11 CD14
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 9 CD11
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD 11
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD10
Allthe8s TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD10
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 6 CD8
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD5
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD2
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD1

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL 25 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010

I don't get to post very often, but I lurk every now and again. So I'm in on the side lines and still offering my hand to hold and squeezing when necessary sounds a bit odd?

You know what, I'm pleased the Graduates list it looking good

Oh shit, was I supposed to add on days for CD? If I've confused things please ignore me

I managed to convince the gynaecologist on Monday evening that at 41, I didn't want to wait at least another 2 x 6 months per conception/miscarriage to be finally allowed further investigations, so he agreed and ticked a bunch of boxes on a blood tests form, then said it would cost a small fortune privately so best take it to my GP. He also said he'd be happy to prescribe progesterone next time around if I wanted it - doesn't think it will necessarily help but there's no harm either (apparently v common in the US, but not here is that because it doesn't work, or because it costs??). I've been nervously waiting till appt this morning and the GP has indeed agreed to get the bloods done, but he said antiphospholipid might get bounced back by the lab so that one may need to be private (also said he has a patient currently pregnant and doing well on treatment for the condition - I wonder if she, like me, had to battle her way through medical bureaucracy to actually find out?). I then got to reception to be told earliest possible phlebotomist appointment not till next Friday (exactly a month on from my ERPC so seeing the date didn't help) -- at which point I lost it. I'd just been told it will take at least 2 weeks to get results back and I have to wait over a week to get the appointment too, and if it gets bounced and I have to go privately instead I guess we're looking at least 6 weeks, maybe more. I burst into tears and she just didn't seem to care. Maybe it doesn't matter that much, but it matters hugely to me.
Also told me it would take two days to get back to me with urine sample test result (checking if post-op infection gone) so after the weekend wtf is that about? Last time I saw nurse at work she checked there and then, took 2 seconds.
My faith in the NHS is rapidly running out. They couldn't help me when miscarrying (advised to go to A&E if losing a lot of blood, that's all, at 11 wks pg) -- and I had to have scan and ERPC privately.

Came home crying my eyes out. I really want to make sure I can do this right next time, I really want there to be a next time.

Actually, I just want my baby back

Ahh Alba, are you me??
Im going through EXACTLY the same thing

Dont know your history but you strike so many similar chords with me.
What has happened to bring you to this situation?