Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

That must have been such an incredible experience, waiting for the digital test must have been mental! I can't congratulate you enough, and I'm so excited for you, it's been on my mind all afternoon. It can be strange to be part of this waiting thread, can't it - it would be really nice if you popped in from time to time to remind us what a wonderful miracle it is that we're all waiting and saving up and preparing for. Don't tell us any birth horror stories though lol.

congratulations TANMU thats great news... i have only been waiting to TTC for a few weeks, but i have no idea how i will manage a whole year of it!!! i am soo impatient. a halloween baby ...i look forward to hearing how u are getting on! x

I've only just started my 2ww so a while to go for me. I so want to be but dh thinks we should wait a few more months it would be such a happy "accident" if it did happen! I am thinking about it 24/7. Hope u don't get too bad symptoms tanmu. Rest of u glad we have each other to keep each other company without this board I think I would go mad!

I've already gone mad Florin, that's why I'm here! We'll make it vix. At least we're not waiting alone, we've got someone to natter to at the bus stop!

I feel the pressure is on as slipped up this month and didn't use the condoms but dh is saying that won't happen again so know that when I get my period this month (as very unlikely I'm pregnant from one go) I am going to be super dissapointed (I'm expecting tears!) as know he won't let it happen again until the summer when he has agreed we can go for it. I so want to have a baby can't think of anything else. Nagging him to bring it forward doesn't seem to work!

Is summer an arbitrary date Florin, or have you and your OH actually sat down and worked out your finances? I've been through ours with a calculator and worked out exactly what we need to pay and what we need to save. Based on that, it will be another 14 months before we can afford for me to take maternity leave - so we're waiting until December to TTC to give us a bit of a savings buffer zone, and because ideally we wouldn't want our DC to be the youngest in the school year.

Of course I could cave any time after July lol.

He wants the summer because a) he thinks finances will be better (personally) I can't see much will change. Plus we have a holiday booked for end of June and he wants me to be drinking for that plus we will be sailing so think he is nervous about if but I don't think it will make much difference as I normally only laze around Reading magazines anyway!
we have sat down a few times with a calculator and spreadsheets! It should just about work plus we have some money coming to us from family which would make life much easier! Other reason is that dh has a best mate they are so so close and his best mate is getting married late summer and boys have decided that be fun to try at the same time (they do everything together) have tried telling him it's unlikely to work like that!
Are u just waiting to save up money maternity leave?

Pretty much yes. I have loans to repay which I can't take a repayment holiday from, then I need a certain amount for rent, bills and food - not to mention nappies and cute little outfits and hemorrhoid cream and gigantic sanitary towels and cabbages.

I can see where your husband's coming from, my friends and I have talked about having pacts as well! Luckily my best friend is looking to TTC DC2 from December anyway, so hopefully we'll be able to coordinate our efforts! I wouldn't tie myself to that though!

..."but dh is saying that won't happen again so know that when I get my period this month (as very unlikely I'm pregnant from one go) I am going to be super dissapointed (I'm expecting tears!) "

Florin, that's exactly what I thought. and we are indeed pregnant.

Thanx for all the lovely congrats from everyone. Amandacooper, it was mental waiting for the test....I was actually quite nervous. It has been such a long time since I was pregnant it almost feels like the first time again.....

we looked at our finances, and whilst it would have given us a really good savings buffer and a holiday had we not have fallen so quickly, money will be fine. Just no exotic holidays this year!

Has it all sunk in now then? It must be hard knowing and not telling people, I bet you want to tell everyone! I was telling my mum all about my 14 month plan last night, which no doubt will come back to haunt me! Then got a drunken text from DH in the middle of the night explaining that he had decided to become a professional DJ. Obviously a FOF induced early mid-life crisis!

Hello ladies, think we've moved onto Not Preventing Pregnancy (NPP) as we got a bit carried away and had unprotected sex! , and I felt fine about the prospect of a pregnancy, really excited actually. We're a month away from when we said we'd ditch the condoms and there are only 2 left in the pack. So, considering we don't get a lot of time for sex these days, what with me working a lot and having a toddler, I think we'll just not prevent. I'm sure it's too late in my cycle to have conceived this month.

S'pose I'd better get some folic acid!

Oh dear I think I'm going to have to start a new thread for you lot called "I'm supposed to be waiting to TTC but unfortunately I've got absolutely no self control"!

I know, I know We've gone from July/August to Easter to "ah well, it'll take ages". I'll probably get cold feet now next month!

Amandacooper GREAT idea for a new thread !!! Yes it is really hard not being able to tell anyone. We went to my husbands grandmother's 75th birthday meal on Sunday and she looked at me pointedly and asked "when are you two going to have another one? The kids are getting older so you need to have one soon..." Well, I tried not to blush and just mumbled something along the lines of "erm, when we win the lottery..." I know she would be ecstatic if we told her and thought it would have beent he best birthday present we could have given her, but DH just isn't ready to share the news yet. We've only known less than a week ourselves, so I can accept that he needs some time to adjust without the whole family knowing....

pipoca, yup time to break out the folic acid....fingers crossed for you!

Florin any news for us yet?

Good idea for a thread Amanda!
tamnu- no news yet. Ended up not using condoms on quite a few of my fertile days so it's definitely possible but we will see. Af not due till march 12 so got ages to wait. Driving me mad and feeling really crap and tired think I have a cold coming :-(

No it is not a good idea for a thread! Everybody has to stay here with me and wait! stomps feet like a petulant child

Don't worry AmandaCooper, I'll be waiting here with you awhile yet. Still 5 more cycles till I can start ttc, agreed with DH to wait until end of the summer. Of course am charting like crazy so I can be ready, and in a lame attempt to give me an outlet for my broodiness.

Congrats to you though tanmu, fantastic news!

Don't worry Amanda I will be here with you too! Don't think I can get DH drunk enough for him to forget the condoms!!

Have stopped charting for now as I found it was making my broodiness worse. I'm just logging AF's every month. Was 4 days late this month & got a bit excited ,but hadn't done the deed anywhere near fertile time & used condoms. Probably just stress making me late!

Thanks GlisteningSnow, I don't want to get left here in this thread on my own with my biological clock ticking with great echoing sounds!

It's hard, but I'm trying not to read any of the other threads in the conception forum, as they only panic me into wanting to bring things forward when I can't. I think once you're charting, there's no hope for you!

Hey Bebe I cross-posted with you. How was your weekend?

Had a horrid weekend if I'm honest. DD has had D&V for the past week (seems better today though) & now DH has got the lurgy too!

Definately think the charting was making me more obsessive! Feel better now I have stopped. Not really much point for me atm as DH is adament that we wont TTC til end of the year! A year ago I was in this same situation, thought we were going to TTC Dec/Jan, got to Sept & DH 'postponed' it until this summer. Now he has decided to put it off again til Dec this year! I know I have agreed, but I am very reluctant. But I can't do it without him!!!

Sorry to hear you've not had a good weekend bebejones I know what you mean about the charting becoming obssessive and making broodiness worse. I think MN makes me worse actually. I'm getting slightly cold feet again after having decided to "see what happens". Been careless this month but may well end up being a bit more careful next month to at least get to my previous date of easter. I get broody and think "oh, it'll take ages" which is silly really as it could be immediate.
Think I need to stop thinking it all too much and cut back on my MN time.

Oh dear poor you Bebe! Right that's it: no more charting allowed for anyone with more than 6 months wait to TTC! We've each got nine months left of being footloose and fancy free; we should be getting stupidly pissed and dashing off on impromptu trips at 4 in the morning to eat soft cheese on rollercoasters and bounce on trampolines without Tena lady pads on, not getting our knickers in a twist over our basal body temperatures.

Also, it appears to be Spring!

Doesn't seem so long to wait when you say it in months! 9 months is less than a year, it's not that long! I shall be thinking of it like that as saying end of the year makes it feel like forever away! Shall be waiting til June to start charting again then!