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Waiting to TTC part 2!

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bebejones · 05/02/2010 15:53

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

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nannyl · 04/08/2010 16:29

welcome whywait

I have just started taking folic acid and will be TTC from Jan 2011 (well actually after Xmas this year and that week is very significant to me)

have been properly planning to TTC in 2011 since about May, so am waiting on here

luckily for me OH is very supportive, is not at all phased that i have EVERY book on conception (courtesy of library / ebay), and is happy to take his zinc and man conception vitamins as and when instructed.

we cant stop talking about being a family, and despite still being on the pill (but just a few days left until i finish it though) i have been practising charting for about 3 weeks
he asks me EVERY day what my temp is and yesturday even wanted to view the chart!

minipie · 04/08/2010 16:39

Afternoon all! Haven't been here for a while, hope you're all well.

JS sorry to hear it was just AF after all.

welcome WhyWait, sorry about the redundancy but possible silver lining... if you can get DH to agree. Why do you think DH will want to wait?

I've just done the BMI calculator thingy... I am exactly in the middle of the green at about 21.5 so I guess I can stay there... wouldn't mind being nearer to 20 mind you. I definitely fall into the trap of eating the same amount as DH (I think it's because I was brought up to share out things equally?!), even though he's a foot taller.

squirrel where are you going on safari? We are also waiting TC till post-safari (though ours is not till April next year ) - also hoping to dive which isn't a good idea when pg.

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Quodlibet · 04/08/2010 22:54

Hello all: Quodlibet here reporting for Waiting and not MIA!

Welcome to nannyl, Waiting and the new recruits. I have been following everyone's developments here, but RL has taken over recently. I've been crazily busy with work over the last few months, and family business - my grandmother died last week and we had her funeral today, which was very sad - but she's finally at rest after a long period of dementia, so it's a relief, really.

Been having a few long and protracted conversations re the whole TTC thing with my DP (my grandmother's death has definitely increased my broodiness, why does it work like that?) We're stuck at a bit of an impasse I think, and I feel quite down about it all - it seems impossible right now to be able to balance his (and my) career aspirations with starting a family, all the time scales seem wrong. He's kind of at the crest of a wave professionally speaking (something he's been working towards for a decade) and may end up being away a lot - fairly unpredictably - with work over the next couple of years. As a result, we ended up having a long discussion about, if it came to it, it being better for him to be away while I was pregnant than with a small child. Neither is my idea of fun. And it's all (work-wise) so up in the air it feels impossible to plan, which is very hard for me as I'm also trying to juggle my projects and hard-won professional role with taking the time out to start a family...and that's before we even start on the ludicrous financial implications.....At least he is very understanding about my concerns about wanting to do it sooner rather than later for biological reasons, I can't complain on that front.

Oh dear. I do apologise for wallowing but it is so helpful to get it all off my chest and share with others with similar quandaries. On a positive note - and following on from the 'health and fitness' discussions, I have finally taken it in hand to sort out my lingering back issues by properly starting a pilates class; August is 'core strength and pelvic floor' month for me, in preparation for TTCing at some point!

bebe - I love the idea of your nursery doodles! And nannyl, thanks for being such a font of wisdom on the vitamins front.

Over and out - as you were!

squirrel007 · 05/08/2010 09:04

Hi whywait! I'm new around here too

bebe, what an amazing weightloss, you must be very pleased!

minipie - we're off to Botswana, how about you? I admire your patience waiting till April!

quodlilbet sorry about your grandma. My hb sounds like he's in a similar situation to yours professionally. We discussed it and he came to the conclusion that as the future was so uncertain there wasn't any point in waiting (i.e. he couldn't see that things might get less uncertain in the next few years). But this means that my career is going to be on hold for a few years - I'm slowly coming round to accepting this! Hope you and your OH can come to an agreement

So I talked to the nurse yesterday and had all my travel jabs. I have to wait a while after the anti-malarials, and with a business trip at the end of Sept gives us a date of 1st Oct for ttc I am going to go and have the coil out mid-sept and then take it from there.

Now I'm planning to start cutting down on the caffeine I drink (too much coffee!), drinking a bit more water, and resuming my gym routine which has been a bit neglected of late.

nannyl · 05/08/2010 09:19

how exciting squirrel

get startd on you folic acid asap if you havent started already

i wonder if you will be one of the first to stop waiting and start TTC?

Xmas (when i can start TTC) seems so far away at the moment.

I agree that there is never a right time in life to TTC, so just get on with it when some areas in life are ok-ish

JustShaggingForNow · 05/08/2010 09:37

Oh Squirrel - super super exciting on the October TTC front!!! Also very of your Botswana honeymoon - you will have the most amazing time!!!

Quodlibet Don't appologise for wallowing, you really weren't and even if you were, isn;t that the point of these forums? So we can all indulge ourselves and get things that worry us off our chests? So sorry to hear about your grandmother. Amazing how such things have an impact on choices between career and family. It's great to hear that your DH is being so supportive though.

Today is my Friday as DH and I have taken tomorrow off work to go back to Bath and start the job hunting. I'm seeing 4 recruitment agents and he is meeting with a couple of recruitment agents and also some of the directors of two major firms in his industry. Fingers crossed that we will now be on the recruitment agents radar after this!!

I'm feeling very inspired by everybody's healt and fitness kicks. I would jump on the bandwagon and say that I am also cutting out alcohol, junk food, etc etc etc but to be honest I am a bit as my willpower is non existent!!

JustShaggingForNow · 05/08/2010 09:41

oooh - just so I can get my head around it can we have a little recap of when everybody is planning to TTC?

JustShagging TTC #1 - March 2011

nannyl · 05/08/2010 10:15

nannyl TTC #1 - Jan 2011 (but start TTC after xmas)

minipie · 05/08/2010 10:29

minipie TTC #1 May 2011

(well hopefully, still a little DH arm twisting to do)

squirrel we'll probably do kruger plus diving in mozambique - can't wait! botswana sounds amaaazing, good luck with the wedding planning!

quod I know what you mean about children/career timing - we'll be starting a family (assuming all goes to plan) at about the same time that me and DH are both gearing up for big promotions, so not ideal - but there is never going to be a perfect time so think we should just bite the bullet and get on with it.

Had an email this morning to say some friends of ours are expecting a baby in January - I am very pleased for them, but also for me because I suspect the more friends of ours have children the more likely DH is to want to get on with it!

bebejones · 05/08/2010 11:44

bebejones TTC #2 Jan 2011 (but technically starting TTC after 24th Dec 2010! So will be on same bus as you nannyl!)

Quod - so sorry about your Grandma I'm sure you will work all the TTC dilemas out at some point, it does all seem very tricky.

Squirrel October...how exciting!!

Minipie - fingers crossed that your friends news spurs your DH on a bit!

JS - good luck with the job hunting! I love Bath, would go more often but DH hates it...it's a rugby thing apparently

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JustShaggingForNow · 05/08/2010 12:01

He hates Bath because of Rugby?!?!?! Did they beat his team??

DH and I are pretty into our rugby and are now both (although DH does still insist on supporting Wasps on the odd occasion) Bath fans!

We are super lucky to live there and I can't wait to escape London permanently and make our home there full time!!!

nannyl TTC #1 - Jan 2011 (but start TTC after xmas)
bebejones TTC #2 Jan 2011 (but technically starting TTC after 24th Dec 2010!
JustShagging TTC #1 - March 2011
minipie TTC #1 May 2011

Does that mean that we could soon be seing a few of you in the September 2011 babies boards!?!?! Promise you won't desert us for the busses though as I am a bit of a sad act and love hearing about people getting PG!!!

bebejones · 05/08/2010 12:13

Its sort of complicated to explain. But he is a Bristol fan & there is a rivalry there that isn't just rugby based. But when he was younger he was about to sign for Bath to play rugby but had a big car accident & buggered his knee up & they dropped him quicker than anything even though it was rehab-able! (couldn't think of the right word!) He is still quite bitter about it and not playing rugby was the root cause of his depression & subsequent weight gain Quite sad really as apparently he was very good & could have been quite something. This was all long before we met we he was 16/17.

But that is way off topic....back to babies and procreation!

So excited to get to DDs birthday, feels like another milestone on the road to TTC. Next milestone is last injection on Sept 24th! Just hoping we don't hit anymore speed bumps! Don't worry JS I shall pop back and annoy update you all!

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JustShaggingForNow · 05/08/2010 12:22

Oh no - your poor DH. I can kind of understand why he's not so fond of Bath. Shame for you though as the shopping is amazing and the spa is wonderful!!!

Is it your DD's BDay today?? Big happy birthday to her! Also great news that the last injection is on the 24th Sept - that's really not far away at all!!! I do;t want to see any more speed bumps, just baby bumps - [super excited emoticon]!!!

bebejones · 05/08/2010 13:00

Ooh I like that, that shall be my mantra, 'No more spped bumps, just baby bumps'

I went to the Spa for my hen do! Had a fab time! Would love to go again. Am also very fond of the costume museum & spent some time actually researching things & looking close up (handling) garments when I was at Uni.

DDs birthday is Monday & party is Sunday, been busy doing all the rushing around shopping/organising this week! SO excited! Even though she hasn't got much of a clue what's going on, she is sort of aware what birthday's are & knows that she is having a party.

March isn't that far off for you to TTC, less than a year! I've been waiting since last Dec and a year off seemed so far & it has gone really quickly!

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bebejones · 05/08/2010 13:01

speed bumps... brain faster than fingers agin!

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nannyl · 05/08/2010 13:12

i wont abandon you all
(and i hope to be on an October 2011 bus)

am very excited as i have just got annabell karmells 1st year planner,
gina fords first year planner and the new gina ford contented baby book, all immaculate condition for a grand total of 70p from my bargain charity shop at the bottom of my road (where almost nothing costs more than 50p!)

i have read all these books a million times before as my bosses etc have had them in their collection, but not actually got a copy for myself.
also i have the original gina ford contented baby but have leant it out and cant remember who too!

so i have some afternoon reading refreshing to do now,

im so over the moon to have got the lost for just 70p!!!!!
(personally i swear by GF and AK!!!!)

bebejones · 05/08/2010 13:20

I love AK! Not a big GF fan, although we started on her potty training & had some success but DD has regressed a bit & we are leaving it til after her birthday now! 70p for both books is a bargain!

I'm thinking I will most likely be on October bus too. Will try for Sept but think I might have missed the boat bus by the time I am 'allowed' to SWI! An AF starting anytime after Xmas day will mean I am on the October bus...yes I am that sad that I sat & worked it out!

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bebejones · 05/08/2010 13:21

70p for 3 books, sorry, even more of a bargain!

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nannyl · 05/08/2010 13:38

yup 3 books for 70p

yes i too have sat and worked that out

im just hoping they get a mountian buggy in and sell it for a fiver (they get loads of lovely pushchairs / travel systems) and they are always £5

bebejones · 05/08/2010 14:21

Glad it's not just me that worked it out!

Pushchair for a fiver! Where is this marvellous shop?!

Have been virtual baby shopping added loads of things to my mothercare wishlist! Just upgrading what we already have...or at least planning to! Want NEED a new travel system & need new mobile (gave ours away) and want a baby swing this time round!

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JustShaggingForNow · 05/08/2010 15:02

Oh girls - this is all so damn exciting (although my enthusiasm and excitement may have been slightly assisted by the 3 glasses of wine at lunch!!)

I also "worked out" when I would have been due had AF not arrived last weekend and it would have been an April baby (which btw would have been my dream!!!) I really want to have a spring baby and so have been chatting to (read as leaning on) DH about this. On a scale of 1-10 how wrong would it be for me to "accidentally" get PG....... (1 being "do it, it's absolutely fine" and 10 being "are you fricking insane woman, put down the wine and grow up!!!you clearly have no morals ")

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minipie · 05/08/2010 15:21

Um, I'm about a 9 on that scale I'm afraid JS.

I mean if you're having lots of chats about TTC in March 2011, and he knows you're super keen, and you get pg now, he's not really going to believe it was an "accident" is he?

and you wouldn't want him going "well I never wanted a baby this early anyway" while you're trying to deal with the sleepless nights. Or thinking he could ignore things you'd agreed as a couple in future, because you ignored your TTC agreement.

sorry, not what you want to hear!

However I am all for you continuing to
twist DH's arm behind his back lean on your DH until he agrees.

minipie · 05/08/2010 15:23

oooh a deep tissue back massage WhyWait

I neeeeed one of those.

have a lovely weekend!