Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

That's fantastic news bebe - keep us posted! I agree, all our DHs should get in training and take tips from yours!
I feel a bit mean saying that - I always thought I'd want to start a family at around 30, it's not his fault I changed my mind and expect him to compromise! Should go easy on him really.
Have a good week everyone. x

Wow Bebe that's absolutely fantastic news. Definitely send him round the other DH - mine first! Just found out today that someone I was a trainee with back in the day is now six months pregnant, which makes me feel like I've been left behind - so I think your DH can't get here quickly enough.

Now you've just got to keep him on board for four and a half more months and you'll have cracked it!

Piglet at least we know that next time round we need to start mithering at least two years before we actually want to get started!

Biscuits - we won't mention the newborn projectile pooing either! Shhhhhhhh!!

Need to think about a good matress protector for DDs 'big girl bed' when she finally goes into it so will look at the hippychick ones!

Think it has just sunk in to DH that I'm not letting the baby thing drop. We have to plan because of having to have 3 months off my meds. He would be much happier if we could be more spontaneous about it. Our situation has forced his hand a bit IYSWIM? Does seem to take men longer to come round I think. Bit silly, you'd think 9 months of pregnancy would be enough time for them to get used to the idea

AC - I have been bugging DH about TTC #2 since DD was 9 months old...she'll be 2 in 3 weeks!

The thing is, this whole having a child business is so fraught with risk and involves so much pain and fear and changes your life so completely and not, from the point of view of an objective, reasonably self-interested person, necessarily for the better, that it takes the hormonal equivalent of being hit by a truck to make women want to do it.

Not having been hit by the hormone truck, our DH are more cautious about the whole thing. DH is completely perplexed, having watched the whole series of One Born Every Minute with me, that I would even entertain the idea of putting myself through the pain and terror and risk of childbirth. And frankly so am I!

But that's part of the reason I just want to go ahead and do it. Everyone knows that if you're scared to jump off the high diving board, it doesn't help to stand on the end of it looking down for an hour, thinking about whether or not to jump off.

JS - I was looking at the OV sticks on amazon yesterday & thinking about buying them. Think I will wait til after the weekend & 'the talk' with DH though. Have added them to my chopping basket already though!

AC - very good analogy! I never even considered that I would have to actually give birth when I got PG. In fact I was in denial about the whole process until about 6 months & then suddenly completely freaked out by which point it was too late!! Sometimes not thinking & just doing is absolutely the right thing to do!

FWIW I hate diving boards & used to have to shut my eyes when we did diving at school!!

ooops shopping basket not chopping basket!

Also have to say how much I loved One Born Every Minute, wish it was on all the time!

Oh - I actually quite liked diving at school but am not enjoying this......

Also a big fan of One Born Every Minute. I held off watchign it when it first cam out as I was trying to deny the broody feelings but then I watched it back to back on 4OD one day when I was off work sick..... I thought it would really put me off but no chance, evidently I really have thought about everything and still want to get PG!

Oh can't think of anything worse than watching the whole series of On Born Every Minute. I saw one or two episodes and just wanted to take those whinging whining girls out the back and slap them. Possibly because they reminded me of me whilst giving birth and probably because I was still deep in having to make myself deny I desperately want DC2.

Liking the diving analogy too AC. To bad we can't just sneak up behind our DH and push him off sometimes (hm wait, actually I think that's exactly what I have done to mine!).

Hehe, think I was in denial about the whole birth thing right up until it happened! The great thing about the female mind is that it's progammed to forget about the pain of child birth after it's all happened. also biologically females don't feel pain as badly as men (hence the man flu), so our DHs will always think birth is worse than the reality of it.

I have to confess that I also had strong urges to slap the girls - so many of them were so young!! Hoping that when i get to that stage I won't be the one crying that I can;t do it.......... have a feeling I might be though!

Quick question for the ladies that already have a DC - on OBEM there seemed to be a lot of emercency sections, is this normal??

JS - I know a few people that ended up having emergency sections. I was close to having one & had signed the consent form but thankfully they managed to get DD with forceps, she was just being awkward! Think the reasons for em-sections are quite varied though, guess it's just one of those things if they need to get the baby out in the quickest safest way they do it like that. Wouldn't say it was that common though.

It wasn't just the girls that needed slapping, sometimes the dads needed one too! One of the girls in particular I actually wanted to throttle, but one of the youngest ones on there was fantastic & coped way better than I did! Although I have to say I didn't swear once through my whole labour....very unlike me! But I did break DHs knuckle!

Biscuits - love the idea of pushing DH off the diving board!
Think I'll push mine, then jump, close my eyes and hope for the best!

Wow! breaking DH's knuckle is an impressive display of strength there!!

Thinking it might be fun to all jump together - top bombing!!!!!

lol at the thought of us all syncronised bombing off the high board!

I remember squeezing DHs hand during a contraction, feeling & hearing it crack & still squeezing then when the contraction finished asking him if I had made his hand crack! No idea if he made any noise or not was in my own little bubble.

Hmm this is attempt 4 to type a reply (seem to have a dodgey connection). Will leave out the birth and c section stuff (although, that was a fine effort by you BBJ!)

Just put DSs bedding in the wash and sure enough his mattress protector is a hippy chick one. It came with his cot so never paid much attention to the brand. It's brilliant though.

Looked into it & I think less than 20% of births are c-sections but that includes planned c sections too. So really can't be as common as OBEM seemed to make out. It was a shame that they didn't show more low intervention births think there was only about 2mins of a water birth in the whole series!

Feeling mega mega broody this evening despite DD having been a PITA today. Poor little thing has yet another cold

Oh poor you BBJ. I've been stuck home alone trying to amuse myself as DH has yet another late night at work. Very dull indeed and a lot of crap TV has been watched! Did anybody see the botched tummy tuck on the cosmetic surgery program with Dr Christian? Ugh!!!

No wonder your DH isn't keen Bebe! That's impressive!

Apparently the producers of OBEM are looking for women to take part in the next series, my friend was asked at her 20 week scan but declined. Who would agree to go on there and be filmed I want to know. Imagine the whole country sitting having tea and watching you in labour and commenting on your attitude and your pain tolerance and your relationship with your DP.

Bebe I was also window shopping on Amazon the other day and put TCOYF and a bumper pack of OV sticks in my shopping basket but didn't buy them. Last night DH is on the laptop and he goes "what's this??". I'd only put them in his Amazon shopping basket by mistake lol.

Ooooops AC!! That sound like the kind of thing I'd do!

lol

OH commented on my ebay bought / watching list

It is basically:
OV tests, conception fertility books and basal thermometer, watching a million and one CBFM and condoms lol!!!

he said everything to try and GET pregnant as well as contraception!!!!

My books and OV sticks from Amazon arrived today. The temptation to get the book out and start reading it over lunch is very strong but am guessing it might not be such a good idea in an office full of men!!!

Ooops! I do stuff like that too! My DH would prob go mental if he found them in my basket! He was using my account by accident the other day so maybe I should take them out!

The knuckle I broke on DH was one he had broken already years ago so it was weakened, so not that impressive!

I definately wouldn't be volunteering for OBEM! I'm far too uptight and 'British' for that sort of thing!

Me either - I'm not really sure that I even want my DH watching me when I get around to giving birth so there is no way I'd welcome in a TV crew! Ugh!!