Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

Bebe we are going to see the world's only Prodigy tribute band perform live at Littleborough Cricket Club in Lancashire, following which we are camping at Hollingworth Lake!

How was your friend?

AC - that sounds fantastic, much more exciting than my weekend! Friend was looking very pregnant, she is due Sept. Was really nice to have a catch up.

SIL has finally had all the details of her little baby's condition today & things are not looking too good. It really puts things in perspective. DH said we should feel so lucky that DD is healthy. Makes me feel bad about wanting another baby when she is going through so much.

Hi everyone,
OK if I join you?
I've been lurking around the Forum for a few weeks - blimey, some of the other threads are scary! What's with all the abbreviations?!

Some of your messages really ring a bell with me. My DH is definitely a sufferer of FOF, while I would start TTC tomorrow if it was up to me. He says he wants a family, but just isn't ready. Glad to know I'm not the only one in this weird limbo.

Looking forward to chatting to you all, if you'll have me!

Piglet

Hello Piglet! Bloody DH, eh! You might need some of those abbreviations on here I'm afraid, as some of us have been waiting a very long time and have picked up some of the language of the locals! When did you decide you wanted to ttc?

Bebe that is not good news about you SIL's LO. I hope things are not really bad? It must be a bit weird for you with healthy DD running around while their baby is so poorly, but you shouldn't feel guilty. Also, it might be far from being as bad, but you are not exactly having a walk in the park yourself.

Welcome Piglet! Of course you can join us! You'll get used to the abbreviations & before you know it they will be finding their way into your everyday life! Have you made any plans on when you will be able to TTC?

Things with SILs DS are really not good. Not sure of all the exact details but he has complete renal failure & a major heart defect as well as being deaf & possibly blind as well. She is finding it all very hard as her older DS is being quite demanding as well & her husband works away from home in the week. Just wish there was more I could do for her.

It seems silly to say, but I don't ever really consider myself to be that ill. Because it comes & goes it's more like having a cold/flu coz I know it'll get better again IYSWIM? So unless I'm actually relapsing I barely even think about it as I don't feel it. It was one of the reasons I didn't want to start my meds as that forces me to think about it. Maybe this denial is not healthy but it was working for me!

Had some lovely 'baby' dreams last night, feeling all warm & fuzzy this morning!!

welcome piglet

My books have arrived...

"the fertility diet" pretty much says move to middle of the country side and limit electrical appliances... then eat a strictly organic vegan diet containing lots of things ive never herd of...

it explains why it is awful to have homogonised milk (ie milk from a supermarket) and stuff, (even more so if not organic) and makes mme wonder how i am still alive.
also about how drinking de caff tea / coffee is also awful (due to process involved) you get the picture....

Baby making bible is more my things... am allowed to eat more things (ie fish and meat)

both books clealry state the obviouse... no alchol / cigaretes and illegal drugs, and also both make a big thing about avoiding aspartane.

if you want a book id choose baby making bible over fertility diet, which has basically scared me from eating anything! (except those organic berries that i am growing in my garden!)

Thanks for the welcome everyone.

Sorry to hear about SIL's DS bebe - sounds like a horrid situation. Life's not fair is it?

My broodiness has been coming on over the last year or two, but I knew DH needed a bit more time to be 'just us'. Sometimes, like on lazy Sunday mornings or the occasional times we go on a romantic weekend away, I can see his point. But I really feel ready to change my life. From what I hear it's quite a common tale at our age - we are 28. I don't know how long it will be before I can convince him - maybe not until Christmas. So I'm doing my best to get my body ready by eating healthily, so that when I get the green light I can jump on him!

Good side of this is that I'm losing weight, something I should have done years ago.

FFertility diet sounds hardcore, nannyl Not sure I could give up my morning coffee. What is aspartane? All these things I don't know!

Is aspartane the artificuial sweetner they use instead of sugar? Had heard that it was very bad for men in excessive quantities, if that is what it is

Fertility diet book sounds V scary and completey unpractical!

Piglet - sounds like you are in the same boat as a few of us! FOF definately has alot to answer for! My DH has it & we already have a DD, I think she has put him off having any more!

Feeling very confused! AF has arrived unexpectedly I know my drugs could be knocking things off a bit, but since I started the drugs my cylces have been 36, 25, 26 & now 23!! Really hoping things settle down and go back to 'normal' when I stop the drugs. Just worried that if they don't TTC will be a complete nightmare! Think I'll be peeing on OV sticks every day!

Weekend really dragging for me, feeling a bit limited on what I can do at the moment.

Probably just the drugs but it must be worrying all the same. Bit worried that I haven't ovulated yet. No surprise I know as first pill-free cycle but you just kind of expect the best don't you. I'm glad I've come off the pill as it could be a while before I know where I'm at.

The Prodigy tribute band was a bit disappointing. A lot of yelling and swearing and not very well executed music. Still it was a laugh and I can say I have seen such a thing lol.

Today we bought a new bed - kingsize so that the DC can fit in it! DH rolling eyes a lot in the mattress shop when I asked will it give good support when I am pg?!

Don't like the sound of the fertility diet books nannyl, I hope it doesn't come to that I love my junk food!

so sorry to read that bebejones

yes amanda.. unless you are prepared to move house to a the middle of the country side and eat basically a strictly organic vegan raw diet of freshly picked local produce, then this book does not suggest you have any chance of conceiving, and it also seems like a miracle that we are actually alive...

i have just been reading the later chapters that give more sensible / realistic advice on the importance of sleep (in a dark room) and day light during the day which i found interesting and worth thinking about

AC - lol at your DH! We have a kingsize bed but you will be surprised at how much space a very small person can take up & leave you perched on the edge! DD likes to come into our bed and lie diagonally! How long were you on the pill before you stopped? I know they say that you are fertile immediatel after you stop but when I stopped a few years ago I found that it took me a couple of cycles to notice any changes!

Nannyl - that does sound a bit scary, think I will stay well clear of that book! Although saying that when we conceived DD we had moved from the city to a little rural village & were making efforts to be healthier(ish)!! Maybe coincidental, but who knows?!

Just checked my ff & coz of this short cycle it has changed my predicted AF for Dec to 4th/5th...too early for me to TTC that month! Guess I'm just going to have to wait and see what happpens & stock up on the cheapy OV sticks!

we too upgraded to a king size bed in June

reason being i need room for children to snuggle in on a weekend morning

I also immediatly (well actually before) got a hippy chick matteress protector for it...

Ooh what's a hippy chick mattress protector? I hope it's made from organic hemp! DH pale at the thought of DC getting in his bed!

Bebe that's a bit of a blow will that mean you'll be waiting for the October bus? I'm sure we'll all be on it with you, I don't fancy my chances of hitting the bullseye first time, even if I can convince DH! Moving to a rural village might be the key but it is not really practical at the moment! If the worst comes to the worst I'll have to get on the organic raw veg.

I've been on the pill 12 months, so hopefully it shouldn't linger in my system. DH seems to have adjusted, in fact he has become fastidious about condom use, mores the pity! (no pleasing some people, I know!)

I shall still be boarding the September bus...you never know might OV late in that cycle? Plus it will be good practise! Thing is with my cycle being so messed up at the moment I have absolutely no way of predicting what is likely to happen til nearer the time, which does not sit well with my need to plan down to the very last detail!

I shall be switching to organic milk & veg from December too. Organic meat is so expensive & I don't eat much meat anyway so won't bother with that! Will prob step up on things like beans & pulses & sweet potato is good too I think, I recall reading that it is higher in vitamins than normal potatoes maybe?!

What is the hippy chick matress protector...I am intrigued!

Hi ladies!!

So much to catch up on and I am sure that i will forget something so I'm dishing out Mojitos, Cake and pre-conception vitamins to everyone early just in case!!

Big welcome to piglet. I was a lurker for a while until I found this topic and now I feel like I've found my MN Home! Am also late 20s and desperate for DC1!!

Kingsize beds - I actually couldn't live witout mine. I am a restless sleeper and move about a lot so I am sure that the Kingsize benefits DH a lot more than me.

It seems we're all having OV issues at the moment. I'm 3 month off the pill (having been on it for 10 years) and in my first month of using Persona. It's supposed to indicate when you OV and I'm currently on CD23 of a 29/30 day cycle and no sign.......... Should I be concerned? Do you think it would be worth using OV sticks on my next cycle?

Big attack of the broodies for no aparent reason last night. I think it's the combination of having to do the weekely commute into London from our nice family home and that dreadful Sunday night feeling. I mentioned to DH that my company are reviewing their maternity policy upwards again after cutting it at the peak fo the recession. He said that was excellent but I pointed out that there was no way I was going to remain there long enough to benfit from it unless he made a serious adjustment to the planned TTC timetable (hate job and have a bully for a boss etc etc etc) He went a bit quiet and didn't say anything more after that!!

RE Eupplements for DH's - mine is taking zinc at the moment. I told him that it was good for stress and bodies that are run down. He doesn't know it's other uses and now takes it religiously....... I'm not planning on revealing the truth to him just yet!!!

bebe - I am sure that it's just those damn meds messing with your body - Grrrr!

nannyl - I would be useless with that book. I work on the "everything in moderation" principle and am hoping that that will also work for TTC!!!

oooh - also intrigued by mattress protector.... do tell!

hippychick bed protectors are what i have used with most of my charges...

they are really soft and comfy and breathable (you can use them with a baby, unlike most waterproof mattress protectors) they wash and tumble dry well.... and just protect the bed and protect my lovely new white mattress
(I have a normal cotton mattress protector on top of it as well)

they are pricey but IMO worth every penny for piece of mind

Please don't anyone tell DH that the LO might wee in his bed!

While they are little it's more the vomiting that you need to worry about!

For heavens sake Bebe - shhhhhhh!

Sorry! Will whisper things like that in future!

Just had a little chat with DH about the drugs & TTC. We are going to sit down at the weekend & properly plan things out timeline wise & make some firm decisions about what will happen & when! Am nervous & excited all at the same time. He was being very positive though, was actually DH who brought it up & was saying 'when we have baby no2'!! Hoping I'm not reading too much into it though, but this sounds like a major breakthrough!

lol

we have plans for number 2 as well.... and number 3

NMCB quietly doesn't mention baby boys and their abilty to get wee EVERYWHERE so as not to put the first timers off.

shhh!

Yay for you BBJ! that sounds really positive for you. If he stays on board maybe you need to send your DH around to talk to some of the other DHs.

Am now wondering if DS's matress protector is a hippy chick one. It's very similar if not and it's brilliant. Just to bad I put it in with the red duvet cover and turned it pink!

Am seeing it's been a bit up and down for everyone, so looking forward to a good week all round (skulls a mojito, crosses finger holds breathe and... promptly passes out)(hehehe).