Waiting to TTC part 2!

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Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

JS - Twins must be adorable! There are older twin boys at DDs music group & they are just so cute together!

Biscuits - that would put me off having one too! Silly NHS!!

AC - Think maybe keeping yourself in tip-top baby making condition is a good idea, sounds like you are ready & need to be 'good to go' as soon as your DH gives you the green light!

Am avoiding talking about TTC with DH at the moment. He is really struggling with work & things are a bit tough again. If I broach the subject I know it'll just end up in an argument. I have a appt with my specialist nurse on Weds, I am supposed to be giving them a date for when I stop meds (I think) part of me hopes DH won't come with then I can just do what I want to do. Trouble is we can't just decide it's the right time 'now' and go for it. He doesn't get that at all. Plans have to be made. Feeling a bit torn again. Prob coz I'm a bit under the weather & the future seems all a bit uncertain.

AC and BBJ don't let my trials getting this thing out put you off. It's been great up til now and I think the main problem is that I had it put in by a GP in NZ and would have had it removed by a GP there too. I didn't realise the system is different here. Had I known the drill it would have been out by now.

Also meant to say before I need to be counselled. I made it sound like I was up in front of a special council of people who decide if I'm allowed it out or not! Really need to check my spelling a bit better!

Hello all - just ducking in here as I am temporarily waiting - am having a right side ovulation so waiting til next month.

...drums fingers...files nails.....yawns.

Hope you are all well!

Argh!!

going bloody insane over here. Am trying to look for a job at the moment as want to move to our main home full time (we bought a "family home" in January and now spend weekends there and weeks in London) and escape my nightmare of a boss in London. I know that I need to get on and do it soon as there is no way I can stay here until maternity leave kicks in some point in 2011 or 2012 (depending on how fast I catch!)

There are no jobs in my local area and I have sent my CV off to loads of recruitment agents and nothing....... It's so frustrating. If only DH had agreed to TTC earlier in the year then I wouldn't be in this bloody awful position.

The twins were adorable...... JS wanders off into little dreamland where she has just had her 12 week scan and discovered that she's having twins.........

Better go raid the fridge to take my mind off it!!!

These DH's have a lot to answer for! Mine bless him is at home right now cooking me some comfort food for when I get in from work.

Hi Hairy sorry to hear it's a wrong-side-cycle. Next month will be your month, in the meantime just relax, help yourself to wine/choc/your treat of choice and enjoy a nice peaceful wait!

JS what kind of job are you looking for? Something similar to what you do now, or something less manic to fit round the demands of a LO? I know what it's like to have a horrible boss, though I'm pleased to report mine has been leaving mr largely alone of late, so I can't complain!

Hope you find something soon. It would be lovely to get out of the city and into your family home full-time.

Biscuits that's reassuring to hear. My doctor keeps pressurising me to have one of those implants but obviously I don't want one as I'm still pathetically hoping that I will try for a baby one day soon. B

I have just won the books "the fertility diet" and "the baby making bible" on ebay

I am SOOO excited, not sure how im gonna wait til after Xmas to TTC, but at least if i have stuff to flick through it seems even more real

also had baby cuddles with a 3 week old and a 6 week old today, and have been discussing pregnancy / babies with 35 week pregnant collegue so feeling even more broody than usual.

i guess it means i can look forward to Xmas even more

AC - bless your DH. He's probably feeling awful and trying to make you feel a bit better. If only he knew how easy it could be!!!

Hi hairy - sorry to hear that you're on the wrong side but great positive attitude there and enjoy a month of fun!!!

Am looking for a PA/Secretarial kind of role but there is just nothing about at the moment. So damn frustrating. DH may be leaving his job in Sept for something out of town and so I am going to be a bit stuck if he moves and I don't have anything. There is no way I could cope with him being in our home and be being stuck in London.

I keep on getting the urge to just scream "impregnate me you fool and that will solve the career issues" but somehow I don't think that would go down so well!!!

nannyl - good books for research. I am trying very hard not to buy any yet as I just know DH will completely freak out if he finds me reading books on pregnancy and conception!! Maybe you can share some info with me on here!!!

xxx

Nannyl you are going to be our resident expert! I think, even objectively, the whole subject of ttc and the monthly cycle is pretty fascinating. I am glad I started charting, even if it has turned out to be a bit premature!

JS it's tricky trying to time things right in terms of career, isn't it. I got so down in the dumps about my job a little while ago and was looking around for something new, so I can imagine some of the things you must be worrying about. Harder if you're both changing jobs as well.

I'm pretty sure DH isn't feeling guilty! I doubt he's given it a second thought. Still it was a nice dinner.

Bebe is your appointment this Wednesday i.e. tomorrow? Hope it goes well if so. No idea whether you should take DH along though, sorry - mens minds are a mystery to mr!

Had appt today...DH came with! But was sort of ok Still no firm decisions made but I don't have to see them again as routine until October & nurse said 'you can let us know then what you have done'!! Spent a long time discussing drug/treatment options for after another baby. Got the impression that DH is very against me stopping treatment. We shall see, he hasn't said no. Just said that stopping in Sept was 'the plan at the moment'

Got to have my first cuddle with SILs very poorly prem baby today. SO tiny, he lost alot of weight when he was born & is only just back up to above birth weight. Made me even more clucky, thought my heart was going to pound out of my chest while I was holding him. Had to hand him back before I got all emotional

ahhhh Bebe

It sounds like you had an emotional one yesterday. It's great that you are being so reasonable with your DH. I think i would have had a propper hissy fit by now!!

x

Big hugs for you BBJ as it sounds like you need it (sorry haven't got a baby to lend you for hugs).

I've had the screaming/crying head fit at him a couple of times but it doesn't seem to make much of an impact TBH! I know it's only coz he worries about me though. Didn't help yesterday that the nurse said to see the best results from my drugs I should be on them for 6-9months. We knew that anyway but were also told that it was better for me to be on them than not, even if it was only for 5-6months. DH seems to have completely forgotten all about that!

I'm sure it'll all work out & I'll get my own way in the end! If I can get him to agree to me stopping in Sept (as planned) then that is half the battle won.

BBJ I was looking for something else and saw this thread and thought of you. Maybe these lovely ladies will have some ideas as to how to bring your DH around (it is MS you have isn't it?).

Yes it is MS, have asked around on here before & not really had any 'joy', think that thread is very old. But thank you so much for thinking of me! I know it will be fine, I am really very lucky that I don't suffer (most of the time) like alot of other people with MS. Plus I am still quite young (27) so have time on my side IYSWIM? There are so many developments all the time with MS treatment/research, so who knows, one day they may well be able to cure it.

Feeling a bit more positive today. There are some good options for postnatal treatment for me. It really will just come down to whether or not I bf & I will have 9months of PG to make my mind up there. I am under no pressure from the medical professionals to start up treatment straight away.

Just had my smear results today...normal! So things are progresssing nicely towards TTC, just need to get DH firmly onside! You would think the promise of lots of sex would be enough!!

Biscuits - just seen your thread about the coil! Are they going to be able to remove it? Hope you are ok? How horrid for you

I saw that as well Biscuits but couldn't reply at the time. Can't talk now either, but hope you're ok.

Didn't want to mention it as didn't want to put others off. Went to do my register with the nurse thing on Tues night and there was a Dr in, so she had a go with no luck, and said she thinks it's embedded (ekk!). Now have to go back next Tues for the coil clinic. Apparently the Dr doing it is really experienced and may be able to get the damn thing out. If not then I'll be refered for a sonogram to see whats going on in there. Google even mentioned the ol'dildo cam ! So for now trying not to think about it. At least the discomfort seems to have passed.

AC I'm surprised your Dr wants you to get an IUD as they normally don't like giving them to women who haven't had a child yet (it's a bit easier and less painful with a 'used' fanjo), but then I guess it depends on the Dr, and also the marina IUD is used for treatment of heavy periods.

Hope this isn't all to long and waffly!

The good news is that the 2 moles on my back are absolutely fine.

That is good news

Fingers crossed they can get your coil out without the didlo cam!! Not nice!

Oh dear that still doesn't sound too good! No my doctor wants me to get one of those implants in my arm, not an IUD. For some reason she goes on about it every time she sees me, and I always assure her that I am just about to start ttc. This has been going on for two years now lol!

I hope the expert fanjo doctor manages to get it out and you have no more problems.

So there were no surprises at the docs for you Bebe, basically they just told you what you already know? It doesn't sound like they were trying to talk you out of ttc in December, so that's positive. When you say you spent a long time discussing drug/treatment options for after another baby, do you mean you and the doctor, or do you mean you and DH?

Wish our DHs would go on Dadsnet, so we could sneakily read about how they are feeling.

lol at expert fanjo doctor

Meant we spent time talking to the nurse about treatment postnatal. There are some new treatments which could possibly be available to me by then so things are quite positive! DH and I talked about it afterwards & he seemed ok about it but quite quiet. They(medical proffesionals) are in no way against me having another baby, in fact being PG is actually thought to reduce any chance of relapse by up 30-60% and BF could extended that protection postnatal as well. But that is far too complicated to explain & bore you all with!

Is there a Dadsnet?!?! Wow, that would be fantastic!

I haven't even told DH about MN, no way I could picture him on DN! There is a talk board for Dads. Haven't looked at it, but saw it in passing.

If there was then no doubt I would go on there, sneakily looking to see what DH's secret feelings about the baby are, only to find them all banging about power saws and football.

Actually there were some blokes on my train the other night discussing their experiences of having DC. One had two already, the other's DW was PG with DC2. I was all ears all the way home! Wonder if I can introduce them to DH...

I've just gone in there. The first thread title is luxury problem...which car? the next title is how did you/do you feel about your newborn?
And have just spotted the one titled blowjobs ohh, off to be nosey! (Or totally grossed out)

Shaking head Men!

I think I shall stay well clear of Dadsnet then!! Men indeed!

Busy day today, off to see a PG friend for coffee and a catch up this morning! Haven't seen her in a while & bet she is getting v big now!

Anyone have any lovely plans for the weekend?