Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

Hello all

Just thought a quick update, been away for a little while, HCG down to 0.4 so Im very happy as no more medical intervention required.

Roll on September!!!!

Hi Hairy that's lovely news. I saw you had been posting on other threads and you still seemed to be suffering a bit. As you say, roll on September, so you can get cracking - it is high time us patient ladies started getting bfps!

Just on my way home from work. Really shattered and can't believe it's only Tuesday. A text from my best friend inviting me to her friend's baby's first birthday party has cheered me up though. Must drag DH along so he can be seduced by baby's charmingness!

cheers AC

AC - D&M = Deep & Meaningful!

Hairy - fab news! Roll on September!

Lol I had decided, after extensive Googling turned up no suggestions, that you must be quaintly referring to your "dad and mum" talks!

lol at 'mum & dad talks'!

Think my MS 'flare up' is turning in to a full blown relapse, feel like crap about it. Just as things were really looking hopeful with DH. This is bound to put him off again!

Oh no Bebe that's bad news. Has he said anything about it or is he being ok?

He is just being very supportive & concerned, just know I was on thin ice with him on the baby front! My health is always his number one excuse & I don't want him to use this as another reason not to TTC. I'm trying to think of it as a blip, the heat is probably the cause as my health is fantastic at the moment in all other respects!

Hope you can manage to get your DH to go to the LOs birthday party, you never know, might have a positive effect!

I don't think DH will be up for a kiddies party! (It is not my "best friend's friend's" baby's party btw that is yet another iPhone typo! It's my best friend's baby's party.)

DH is planning a camping trip that weekend with three dysfunctional bachelor friends, who are all very anti baby.

Bebe sending you healing vibes!

I knew DH would start changing his mind again! This evening he has annouced that he doesn't want another baby...possibly ever! I thought he was joking at first, but no, it would appear he was being deadly serious! This is just the opposite of what he said last week! Grrrrrrr MEN!

Oh sweetheart, I really feel for you. It's awful the way they blow hot and cold. I think the thing to do is not to immediately freak out; he's probably just panicking because he's worried about you being ill and worrying about his ability to cope with everything.

DH seems to have sudden flare ups where he's suddenly very blunt and insistent about us never having DC - but I think those moments are just crisis points where he feels overwhelmed and like he's losing control.

This time the excuse was 'We can't afford another baby' but last week he said that it wouldn't actually cost that much more to have another one. Plus, while I was away at the weekend he was on the verge of getting another kitten...& I said no!

Know what you mean about them getting overwhelmed, think DH had had a really crap day at work wit possibility of finacial problems for his company (self employed), so maybe that was his trigger

Oh that doesn't sound too bad. Our poor DH must feel like they're getting swept away in a hormonal rip tide! One moment of weakness and we'll pull them under!

I feel like another milestone is coming in my wait. I have period cramps woop!!! If af comes it's another positive move along my now two month wait and I'll know where I am cycle wise and can book my hsg test

Hairy - that's really good news!

My MS relapse seems to be worsening & last night DH said that we should look into the more effective treatment (ie the one where can't have a baby). Just don't know what to think! If we had TTC when I wanted to, when I felt ready then I wouldn't be about to use the use of my legs! I know it's only temporary but it still sucks! Feeling v sorry for myself!!

Bebe I hardly know what to say. You are bound to be thinking "what if?" at the moment, but you made what seemed to be the best decision for your family at the time, waiting till December and having this treatment.

I don't really know much about it, so I'm not sure what's changed in terms of the December TTC date - is that now out of the window, or is it still very much wait and see?

Hairy it is good that you're ticking off milestones. Not long to go now. Are you feeling positive? What is the test you're having all about?

DH and I had a lovely D&M (!) last night about TTC. DH seems to be warming to the idea, we were even talking about accommodation arrangements and taking the LO on holiday, and the birth! We are now in July, which I identified ages ago as the earliest we could possibly start trying. I was slightly over ambitious in terms of where I thought we'd be financially, so it's not actually viable for a couple more months but still, a milestone in its own way.

AC - all sounds positive with your DH! How exciting! Did he initiate the conversation?

I am still all for TTC December, the relapse in itself doesn't change that. It's DH's attitude towards TTC because of the relapse that is the deciding factor! Its all very frustrating as actually being PG is a good thing in terms of my MS!!! Watch this space, I shall have to charm DH back into a TTC frame of mind again!

Hello all.
Wish I'd found this thread a year ago when a clucking hen moved into my head and and turned me into a giant baby wanting freak. A year on and I've finally given up waiting for DH to come round to the idea of b2 and booked an appt to have my IUD removed. I just need to figure out how to tell DH now!
Good luck to all of you that your dh's/health/situations will finally come onboard to let you start truly TTC!

Ha ha no he didn't initiate it, that would be mental! He was completely the opposite of how he normally is though, not trying to change the subject or being vague. He agreed that December is a good time to start trying and that it would be nice to have an Autumn baby.

We talked about the birth and what might be involved and what it might be like for him. I was really happy. Hope it stays this way, we've been here before and then he's got cold feet and done the "STOP!!! We're not having one! Panic! Panic!" thing.

Dellywyn welcome to the thread. We're getting a bit thin on the ground here - everyone's sloped off to TTC I am convinced! Good move getting the IUD removed, it's a bit too permanent for comfort when you are wanting to TTC, isn't it.

Does your OH suffer from Fear Of Fatherhood too then?

Wow AC that sounds very encouraging!

Dellywyn - welcome!

bebe sorry to hear about your troubles

AC sounds like a great D&M!

I got AF today which is a great relief because it ties in with when I ovulated. so I phoned to book a tube test and they fitted me in this lunchtime! (privately)

My ovaries look fine, my womb is fine, my cervix is fine, all normal no sign of early menopause, consultant says consistent with good egg reserve. Left tube is clear, but right tube is blocked.

So it was ectopic, the sperm got up, fertilized the egg, but then it couldn't get back down again! (corpus luteum was seen on right side at first scan so all clues point to this).

I am actually really pleased!!! I am seeing GP next Thurs to beg for a laporoscopy urgently - if I try again naturally I run the risk of another ectopic if it's right side ovulation (although I do get ov pain so if it's left ovulation we shall SWI like mad!)

Consultant also said that there is no evidence for not starting folic acid straight away, and no evidence for waiting three months.

Yippeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

Really? That's great news! So provided it's left ovulation, that's it - no more waiting? I'm so pleased!

Lots of graduating going on from this thread at the moment. Maybe I'll be next!!

Hairy - that is fantastic news! Fingers crossed for a left side OV & natural conception!

Some positive news here too, been given oral steroids from GP to try and stop my relapse in its tracks! This is brilliant coz it means (hopefully) no hospitalisation or IV steroids! Woohoo!!