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Waiting to TTC part 2!

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bebejones · 05/02/2010 15:53

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

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Dellywyn · 04/07/2010 11:16

AC Don't think it's fear of fatherhood DH suffers (as we already have a DS), just a fear of actually making such a big decision. DS was unplanned and therefore and easy decision to make.

It's okay though. Next week I'll no longer be in the waiting room, but in the bedroom doing what you do when TTC!

bebejones · 04/07/2010 11:51

Dellywyn - how did he take the news of the IUD removal?!

Maybe he has FOFF (Fear Of Further Fatherhood) like my DH! Can't keep up with all his mind changing!!

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Dellywyn · 04/07/2010 16:11

I think he might be suffering a bit FOFF. He promtly took a wrong turning and drove us about half an hour out of our way. I guess telling him whilst driving wasn't the best idea! Other than that he's been very quite about it, so I'm not mentioning it (and keeping the pre-conception vitamin pills hidden a bit longer). I think he's just been waiting for me to get fed up with waiting for him and just go for it.

There are so many sensible reasons to wait, but then there are just so many good reasons not to as well! I think the new born clothe s being next to the toddlers clothes in the shops is what tipped me over the edge

bebejones · 04/07/2010 16:34

Well my DH is still ok with me stopping my meds in Sept in preparation to TTC, so he can't be as against it as I thought!

lol at your DH taking a wrong turn!

We have so many reasons not to TTC & so many to TTC just like you. Might as well flip a coin! Everytime I sort through DDs clothes I get so broody, trying to weed out what to keep & what to send to the charity shops, we are running out of room, and everytime I have a clear out I just can't believe she was ever that small!

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hairytriangle · 04/07/2010 19:07

ooh great news bebe!

bebejones · 05/07/2010 20:17

Gone all quiet again!

Hairy - hope you are ok?

Been drifting to the dark side again been reading all the ovulation stuff on the conception boards!!! Think it's coz I'm mid cycle & ridiculously broody!

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AmandaCooper · 06/07/2010 07:37

Good morning ladies sorry about the long radio silence, we've been in the Lakes with very little reception or access to phone charging equipment. Had a great weekend watching a friend of DH compete in a sailing competition.

DH now seems to be right on board with the TTC thing - even some mention (joking surely?) of trying on our wedding anniversary next week! This is surely designed to turn the tables on me and make me panic - cause that's what I am doing! Am once again feeling utterly overwhelmed at the idea of trying to fit looking after a child into our already insanely busy lives and wondering how I'd cope without, for example, the few minutes I snatch in a morning to sit and drink a cup of tea.

DH has decided we should "borrow one" for a trial - which is a good idea in principle, but I'm not sure which of our friends is going to handover their PNB to a couple of amateurs. I think perhaps visiting, or maybe a day out with PNB and its

AmandaCooper · 06/07/2010 07:41

parents, might be the way to go! Any suggestions?

Am pretty sure I'm packing in the pill this month just to make sure I have plenty of time for my cycle to regularise and so I can finally try out Fertility Friend. Scared now though in case, in a moment of rashness, we go for it and I haven't had my dental checkup, or fed DH any zinc!

AmandaCooper · 06/07/2010 08:52

Dellywyn it sounds like he has taken it ok. Grab your chance quick before he has the opportunity to have second thoughts (ooh maybe should take own advice!) funny about him taking a wrong turn - good job you weren't telling him you were pg!

Good news for you by the sounds of it Bebe - hurray! We are all back on track! It sounds like your DH will not be so easily put off as you thought. He sounds like a nice guy.

Hard not to drift across to the other conception threads isn't it. I think we should site part three of this thread in Politics or Education or something where no fellow waiters will ever find us but where we'll be safe from temptation!

Although having said that, there do seem to have been quite a few bfps recently!

JustShaggingForNow · 06/07/2010 09:07

Hi Laides!!

I think I have found my MN home!!! This looks like a bit of a lucky thread with lots of ladies moving from Waiting to TTC. Hope that there is a little space for me to join and hopefully graduate.

I've been beyond broody for 7 months now and DH is still showing no signs of changing his mind on when we can TTC At this rate it look as though we'll be waiting until March 2011 I came off the pill for other medical reasons and luckily my cycle returned to normal straight away. We've just started using Persona and condoms, which are taking a little bit of getting used to!!!

Am sure FOF is a huge factor, that and not wanting to grow up!!

bebejones · 06/07/2010 09:49

Welcome Justshagging! I'm sure the time will pass quickly, I felt like I was going to be here forever, but now we are in month 7 already and the time has flown past when I look back!

AC - how exciting that your DH is now finally on board! With a newborn I'm sure you'll have time to fit in a quiet cup of tea in the mornings. For the first few weeks they sleep alot during the day anyway...sleep, eat, poop, cry, sleep, eat, sleep, poop, eat, poop, cry, sleep....you get the idea! Seems so hard at the time but looking back at when DD was a newborn now, it was so much more chilled than having a toddler. Don't get me wrong, it is still massively rewarding & she is a joy to be with (most of the time)! Spending some time with friends with a baby sounds like a good idea, it'll give you & DH a taste of what's to come!

Think DH can see how excited I am about stopping my meds & has finally got it into his head just how much another baby means to me. With this latest relapse I think he realises that it's sort of now or never. Got to take the plunge while I'm still 'healthy'! Just hoping he doesn't cahnge his mind again before we get to December!

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JustShaggingForNow · 06/07/2010 12:12

Thanks Bebe - I am planning on enjoying the JS bit for now and having nights out and relaxing holidays before we sign up to 25 years of parenthood!!!

So pleased to hear that your DH has come around to your way of thinking now. Men can be funny soda at times can't they?!?!?
x

PipocaThePedantic · 06/07/2010 13:52

Hello All! Just thought I'd pop back in and see how you're all doing.

Sorry to hear about the relapse bebe, how are you feeling and have the steriods helped slow it down? Glad to hear your DH sounds more on board for it now. Hope all works out for you.

Wow Amanda that sounds like an exciting step, coming off the pill. Is that when you were planning to or a bit earlier? Maybe ou'll get swept along by the moment! and end up pregnant sooner than planned!
Soooo pleased to hear your DH has come round to the idea. Sometimes I think they need to see how much we want it and get their heads round it a little and that takes time.

Don't worry about not having any time, when they're new is when they're easier in some ways as they sleep quite a bit and are portable. Trying to control a willful toddler is another matter!

Well, I'm awaiting my first AF since NPP this month (trying to to obsess and ttc, trying to just NPP and see what happens). AF due on the 10th and don't feel even the slightest bit pregnant really. So, we'll see. But not too disappointed if not...never expected it to be that quick. Quite happy to enjoy a bit more shagging!

bebejones · 06/07/2010 14:23

Waves to Pip!! So nice of you to pop back in!

Hope things happen for you soon, and try not to get too caught up in the whole TTC thing. As much as I don't intend to, I know when the time comes I will be OTT & mental about it!

Steroids are making me feel like crap but really hoping they are slowing things down. At least by having them now I know they will be out of my system by the time I start TTC. Fingers crossed I don't have another bad relapse between now & then!

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AmandaCooper · 06/07/2010 18:00

Welcome to the thread. I hope you have come with bags of patience for everyone because some of us are running out. Some people have even (I am convinced) naughtily snook away and started ttc!

If you have read any of the old posts on the thread you will know that a reluctant DH is exactly what I've had to put up with this last year. He does seem to be coming round a bit, from his original position which was "I'd rather die than have a baby and if you got pregnant and wouldn't have an abortion, I'd kill myself" - a bit OTT you might think? anyway now he's talking about borrowing one to have a bit of a go and maybe ttc on Wednesday - so massive progress is possible even with the most severe case of FOF/Peter Pan Syndrome!

Bebe I wasn't really thinking about the first few months. I was thinking what it would be like when I was back at work at month 6 and I had to drop the LO off at childcare at the crack of dawn and then pick it up again at night and negotiate the traffic and still catch my trains and then doing ten times as much housework while still keeping up with work and getting up in the night with a screaming infant and sobbing at my desk all day because I miss PNB. It barely seems do-able.

Pipoca hello! I saw that you had boarded one of the buses. Hope things are going well, I've got my fingers double crossed for you and will keep an eye out around the 10th for that BFP!

I've just had a look back over my ttc timetable, that I drew up in April, and I was planning to come off the pill in August, so July is actually a month earlier than planned, but I feel that DH might cope with the idea at the moment. By August he may have regressed to FOF Stage 1!

I am not doing terribly well at my stupidly over-ambitious savings plan - lucky I built in those extra months! Looking at what my other plans were in May and June (sister's wedding and friend's wedding in Ireland and moving house) it's hardly surprising I haven't saved anything yet!

Anyway, my revised timetable for the year looks like this:

July - rubella immunity test (takes 3 months for result). Come off the pill, sign up to Fertility Friend and start charting. Buy new mattress. Don't go on holiday to Spain, instead celebrate first wedding anniversary on the cheap - possibly by ttc on new mattress!

August - pay for wild holiday in Ibiza (honestly, I'm going to get round to doing that saving at some point, bear with me?); go to the dentist for gum health check-up.

September - wild holiday in Ibiza with DH. Return to dentist for all sorts of nasty treatments, no doubt.

October - result of rubella immunity test; smear test; pay savings into bank; start putting zinc supplements in DH's food. Vegas trip now unlikely.

November - My 33rd birthday. Drink in moderation (final cycle before TTC)!

December - Assuming smear, rubella, etc all clear, start TTC. Like Bebe, I foresee much obsessive charting and testing due to long-term exposure to terrifying content of Conception threads.

What are everyone else's Plans looking like now?

bebejones · 06/07/2010 18:34

AC - it might seem really daunting when you look at it like that, but actually you do some how manage! Everyone finds their own way & it is way down the line. By the time bubba is 6months old you'll have found your feet & it'll be second nature! Positive thinking!!

So are you planning proper TTC on your WA or just a 'NPP and it won't be the worst thing ever if I get PG' sort of thing?! Although being pg might through a spanner in the works of your wild Ibiza holiday! Very !

My plans are now looking like this:

July - get over relapse, get back on diet & lose this final stone (plus any extra lbs thanks to the bloody steroids ) Smear teast (this thursday bricking it!)Jabs

August - DDs 2nd birthday (Where has my baby gone? ) More jabs

Sept - Last few jabs Holiday with DD & mum & (hopefully) DH as well. Celebrating last jab like a demon!

Oct - Starting pre-natal vits, dosing DH up on zinc etc & getting him in to the 'swing' of things!

Novemeber - My 28th birthday! Final pre TTC cycle so lots of healthiness & much vitamin taking & exercise (sexercise)

December - countdown to 24th then TTC central & much bonking & general TTC obsessiveness!

October -

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bebejones · 06/07/2010 18:35

Not sure why October appeared again at the bottom there?! Sorry bout that!

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AmandaCooper · 06/07/2010 18:47

Ooh maybe it's a sign Bebe - an October due date would be awesome! Don't think there'll be any ttc going on on Wednesday, knowing my luck I'd be knocked up completely against the odds, with no savings and therefore no maternity leave! Also DH still has no job. Come to think of it maybe I ought to stick with the pill lol!

bebejones · 06/07/2010 19:35

I would love an October baby!! Would fit in very nicely with our family!!

Know what you mean about 'knocked up against the odds'. With DD it was half hearted TTC, thinking it was gonna take forever, both of us overweight/unfit & it happened with hardly any effort! Just know with all the planning for #2 it'll take ages!!

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AmandaCooper · 06/07/2010 20:37

Yes your diary is pretty full for December if my memory serves me correct, so October would be good!

Just signed up to Fertility Friend. Disappointing that there is not much to input. Must buy a thermometer pronto!

Why are you bricking it for your smear?

bebejones · 06/07/2010 21:07

December/Jan very full for our family/friends!

Fertility friend has lots of specifics etc that you can put in, but temping definately what it is most about I think. I've steered clear of doing it for a few months coz it was getting obsessive! Just been logging cycle details & as predicted my meds have made things go a bit haywire! Had a cycle of 40 days then one of 24!!! Hoping things return to 'normal' when I stop the jabs!

Smear test will be my first after DD. Have been putting it off! Just not a pleasant experience & find the whole thing quite awkward!

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AmandaCooper · 06/07/2010 21:14

Is a regular digital thermometer ok to use or is there something special about the one for charting? Just took my temp with the one out of our first aid kit. Much more satisfying to have data!

Thought all that bashfulness about your bits went out the window when you had DC?!

bebejones · 06/07/2010 21:20

I used a regular digital one. You have to do it at the same time every day. Usually first thing in the morning before you even get out of bed! You can get proper Basal ones, but I'm not sure it makes a massive diference. I think start with a 'normal' one & if after a couple of months the results are iffy then invest in a Basal one. Just my opinion tho!

Think all the bashfulness is (for me anyway) short lived & confined to pregnancy & birth when I actually didn't give a s**t & just wanted the baby OUT NOW!!! Think coz it's a small GPs and I have seen the practise nurse or other things it feels awkward. With a MW you are only seeing her for one thing IYSWIM?! Getting a bit hung up about tending to the...erm... 'lady garden' and making sure things are tip top!! Plus (TMI alret sorry) I'm am mid cycle & a bit too...erm...sticky!

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NoMoreChocBiscuits · 06/07/2010 21:21

AC Hubby just went self employed and has lost half his wage as a result and I still can't find work , our flat is to small and everything in this area is to expensive for us, but this is it, time for baby making. So don't let you situation put you off stopping the pill. Some times you just need to jump right on in and enjoy the consequences.

PS I was Dellywyn. I've had a name change.

bebejones · 06/07/2010 21:25

AC - second Biscuits there, you can't plan & prepare for everything! The human race (women in particular) have an amazing capacity to adapt & cope with change & disruption. All the planning and 'perfect timing' in the world does not exist when it comes to kids! Consequences can be fun!!! Get things as near perfect as poss for you & throw caution (and your knickers ) to the wind!!

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