Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

Just realised that sounds totally horrific to first timers! But I wouldn't want to be doing it again if it was that bad & I have 3 friends who haven't even had any nausea at all when PG!

HCG down to 29 - needs to be 20 for them to totally discharge them.

At least it's another 50% drop. But can't have a drink yet

Oh no! At least it is going in the right direction though, I'm sure it won't be much longer

HELP! I have drifted to the dark side & been looking at the other conception threads!!! I must stay away, it is not helping the broodiness! I can not TTC yet I have to wait another 6 months!!! I shall strap myself to a chair in here to stop me wandering off!!

Hope everyone is ok?

Yes, it sounds awful, but I don't know about you bebe but I have NEVER even heard of anyone else in RL who had such awful sickness as me. I know one person who felt really queasy and that's it. And I know a lot of people who've had kids in the last few years. You hear quite a bit about HG and bad MS on here, but I don't think it's all that common at all. Not sure how likely you are to have it again, tho...quite likel I think unfortunately.

What a bummer hairy. When do you next test it? What's the next step for you?

Step away bebe...ttc thread are baaaaad. I've been known to peruse the pregnancy threads when particulrly broody.

All OK here, although DH out of work again, so pressure on a bit more re finances, mat leaves, possibility of killing my business stone dead by having another baby etc etc balh blah blah.

Yep pregnancy or childbirth threads are ok - weirdly not nearly as frightening. I tend to read those - and I find the childbirth ones incredibly positive. For some reason no amount of horror stories can engender any fear in me about pregnancy itself. I have long wondered why this is and still don't know!

My first post on MN!
We're TTC around September time. (Argh! the first time i've written that in black and white!)
I've been on the pill for over a decade, what does anyone think - should I come off it early (I run out next month) in order to get my body back to normal before trying?
Wish we could try before then but I'm doing a half ironman race at the end of August so don't really want to risk it.

Yes I think so. There are pros and cons - there's supposed to be a fertility surge when you first come off the pill. However I think it makes sense to come off it early and start charting and checking you are ovulating to get on top of any niggles. That way you are using this time constructively.

However to caveat that, I am influenced by reading too many threads in the conception forum and may be speaking from a position of abject paranoia!

Welcome trilottie!

2 schools of thought on the stopping the pill like AC said!
1.) The 'fertility surge' when you stop
2.) Allowing your body to regulate it's cycles by stopping a few months early.

Totally your call! If it were me, I would stop ahead of time & work out what was what with my cycle, especailly if I had been on the pill for a while. Would also give as clearer indication for dates etc (Although some people get early scans if they have no idea on dates!!)

Feeling desperately broody at the moment. The sunshine is making me feel so good my body is doing that 'you are fit & healthy the time is right' thing! Doesn't help that I keep seeing babies everywhere!!! (Or at least that's how it feels )

Incidentally - and I should say she's not a fertility specialist as far as I know - my GP much favours option 1.

is there really a fertility surge after coming off the pill, or is it a myth?

as in, apparently cycles revert straightaway to normal as the hormone's out of your system within days? Not saying I believe either of these things by the way...just that I've heard them. anyone know any more?

Think there must be some truth in the 'surge', hence how come you can get PG if you miss a couple of pills. I think medically speaking (I am no expert here so don't quote me) there is no reason to wait a while after stopping the pill. I think it is only favoured by some as it means you have a clearer indication of your cycle/fertile days & therefore know your dates.

Well that's the thing isn't it - it doesn't really make a great deal of sense logic-wise, not that I have any science know how whatsoever!

Sorry bebe - cross posted.

The problem we've got is that we've absorbed this fertility myth from being on the MN conception thread that if we don't start very young, go on a diet, gulp down supplements, keep DH doped up on zinc and away from the laptop, go teetotal, have numerous courses of accupuncture, chart, temp, possibly use chlomid (which I had never even heard of until I came on MN) if not IVF, we won't conceive - and even if we do it will take at least a year.

Does anyone here know the average length of time it takes in the UK to get pregnant when TTC?

Part of my negotiations discussions with DH about when to start TTC revolves around how long it is likely to take.

I thought that it's likely to take 6 months or so on average - so if we were to start (say) next May, nothing likely to happen till September. DH on the other hand keeps pointing to people he knows who've got pg at the drop of a hat (or rather knickers) so says May is far too early...

Agree with Amanda by the way that it's easy to get the impression it will be very hard to conceive, because you only ever hear on here about those who are finding it hard.

For us it definitely wasn't hard to conceive. We had been thinking about it and then eventually decided we'd just stop using condoms. By the end of the month we'd started using them again because we'd actually forgotten we were TTC, but never got my next period.

My DD is 1 month, and we're already thinking about next time. Strangely having her makes me broody for another. We always agreed we'd have them close together (max of a 2 year age gap), but I know everyone would think I was crazy if I got pregnant right now, despite how much I want to. So we decided assuming we are still as enthusiastic about another baby in September/October time we just stop using condoms again and see how it goes.

I know we're both going to struggle waiting though. He already had a heat-of-the-moment "Let's just start trying again" yesterday. I had to talk him out of it, which is hard when you kinda want it even though you know better.

Just about to board the plane to Ireland, so I'll be offline for the next couple of days xx

6 to 12 months they say - but what's average? That includes hugely overweight people, people with serious illnesses, people who know nothing about TTC, people who aren't actually having much sex, and the results of what must be literally thousands of people who lie about how long they have been ttc in order to get fertility treatment easier - and so on.

article about fertility after the pill

looks interesting.

I've heard 6 months as an av time to ttc before success, but as amanda says, that takes subfertile people into account or those who don't have sex v often etc.

I always assume it could happen the very first time we have sex without protection, however unlikely that is, because it could. There's no way of knowing. So no messing for me until I'm 100% sure I'd be happy to be pregnant IYSWIM?

Got pregnant on 2nd post pill cycle with DS.

"those who don't have sex v often"

that ahem might include us. (both working long hours and all that). mind you DH is convinced that as soon as TTC time comes around we'll be at it like bunnies, so no need to factor in extra time because of that, then...

Minipie - me & DH didn't do it much before we TTC DD. When the time came we were actually at it like rabbits!! Even waking up early & doing the deed as soon as we got home from work!!! Think it was novelty value for DH coz he soon decided it was too much since it was only supposed to be lighthearted SWI! But was too late by then coz I was already up the duff!! So you may well find your DH is right!

Have booked a dreaded smear test for next month. Got badgered by the doctor yesterday who said there were red flags all over my notes & he would check if I had booked it!! Have got Golfer's elbow & it is absolute agony so feeling very sorry for myself. Did another jab last night so that's another one done 14 more to go!

Had a dream I had twins last night!!! Think its prob coz I saw one of the ladies from DDs music class and her twin boys! They are so cute! Twins would be fab, but a complete nightmare at the same time!

Hi pip next test is mon or Tues (by which time it should be negative - hurrah) and then next step is sitting around tapping fingers waiting for three months to pass, and eating a super healthy diet!

minipie there is some useful information www.gettingpregnant.co.uk/howlongwillittake.htm here.