Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

Hairy sighs, drums fingers, files nails, taps foot, yawns, looks skywards. All this waiting to TTC is very boring

Hairy - ooops! Still another 20 pages to fill!!

So fed up of waiting, although got another 6 months yet. Was buying spatone (for me) & multivits (for DD) yesterday in Boots & was so tempted to get prenatal vits for me & DH on the 3 for 2 offer....didn't coz DH would have freaked!!

Totally had enough of waiting now Head is having to over rule heart & that is very un-natural!

It is very unnatural - we're resisting one of the most base animal urges for a very protracted time despite, at least as far as our bodies can tell, conditions being perfect for reproduction - i.e. stable relationship, comfortable living accommodation, sufficient calories available, etc. My body doesn't know about the loan repayments, how could it!

Here's a question, which people have touched on before at various points, but indulge me:

Those who have been here before, what was your experience last time of waiting to TTC? Did you wait last time and for how long? And did you wait as long as you'd planned, or did you start earlier? And anything else you can tell us basically.

Hairy the advent of Part 3 will just depress me!

I know what you mean bebe! Got my period today, so only one more period before TTC and I keep thinking...hmmm only one more, why not just start now? But I might get pregnant immediately and it would be better in that case if we didn't NPP til after my next period, and it's only another month, but my word it's tempting. never been so leased to get my period means I'm another step closer.

Have started folic acid so I feel like I'm doing something. I think the nearer it gets actually the more frustrating it is. How are all you ladies holding out with the waiting?

AC - we had agreed to wait to TTC until we were married...but started TTC (half heartedly) the month before as we thought it would take a while & seeing as the wedding was all booked & actually happening we didn't think it'd make much difference. But got PG straight away! Think we only actually did the deed 3 times that month! So in answer to your question no did not wait as long as planned (but not by much) & had been waiting about a year maybe (can't remember) had been taking the folic acid etc for a few weeks too. But I do wish I had lost weight before, looking back I wish I had lost more weight before the wedding, but my dressmaker was getting hacked off & I'd only lost about 10lbs!

Pip - very exciting, very that you will be graduating from here so soon though!

Hi all

Just popping in to say hello (I think I joined this thread a couple of weeks ago but disappeared again).

I am waiting to TTC till summer 2011. DH was keen to wait another year or two after that, but appears to have agreed, just about. God knows what will happen when we hit that time though.

Ladies, did anyone find that their DH/DP agreed to TTC at some specific point in the future, but backed off TTC when the appointed time approached?

Minipie no - but I'm sure we're heading there! DH hasn't actually agreed to the December start date - he just grunts and doesn't actually say no. I'm trying to get the date fixed in his mind but I don't know if I'm succeeding!

Bebe so you really have been here before. A year is a long time to wait - especially when you're both keen to start trying. How did it come up in the first place, did you initiate it?

Minipie - I'm waiting to TTC #2 & was initially going to be TTCing Dec 09 then DH changed his mind & we made a deal to TTC June 2010....then DH changed his mind again, so now we are set on Dec 2010/Jan 2011! It's so irritating!!

AC - With DD, I constantly nagged & moaned about it, & then one of his closest friends got PG & I think it sort of changed his mind & he became more open to the idea. But when we actually started NPP he admits he thought it would take a while so he would have time to get used to it! But that didn't happen! This time he knows what to expect so is more reluctant! His biggest issue is if I get sick again & coping financially in that situation as he is self-employed & therefore cannot afford to take time off to care for me & toddler & a newborn! I'm inclined to be in a more 'we'll cross that bridge when we come to it' mindset on that one! I hope your DH is more on board with TTC when you get nearer to it! Mine was more interested when he realised how much 'action' he would get!

Yes one of the things DH says is that he wants to wait till his friends have children. I don't know quite what he means because lots of DH's friends have children! Am on target with the nagging and moaning!

I asked DP to think about when he thought it would be best for him to fit in 2 children in the next 5 years (5 yr limit being mine, 2 children being his idea) and when I came home he'd (very sweetly) made a calender and drawn all the possibilities on a piece of paper! Although according to his model I can pop them out with A YEAR in between. Had to point out to him that I'm not a barnyard animal!

Though interestingly his beginning to TTC is still in the zone I'd term 'the vague and distant future where we don't know what we'll be doing work-wise yet'. Because our careers are both quite fluctuative and quite project-based, we tend to be able to see about a year or two into the future but not past that. Have a feeling that the goalposts will move again once we get closer and a whole new set of constraints/opportunities become apparent. So minipie kind of in the same boat as you I think.

Amanda I agree with you about the difficulty of over-riding the body going THIS IS PERFECT! GET BREEDING! all the time.

Well girls it's my little sister's wedding day and it is fabulous weather. Just getting ready to leave. Tell you all about it later x

Have a great time Amanda ! Use the excuse of not ttcing to have a drink or few . Looking forward to hearing how it all went.

I'm working all weekend, this time on European education framework.... not much of a going to a wedding...not.

AC - have a great time!

Pip - poor you, that doesn't sound fun!

Having loads of friends over for BBQ & footie, have England flags & bunting up all over my garden & a fridge full of food! Must go get cakes out of oven! Having a weekend off the diet!

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend x

sounds great bebe...grr jealous. Here I am, still slaving over European education jargon and with period pains. hmmm. Going to have a break in a bit and go out and practise some retail therapy!

Well we certainly made the most of the not TTC excuse! DH and I are very hungover! What a great day we all had. Sis looked lovely. She better not have gone off to have a honeymoon baby!

On the downside, I had to endure my little cousin's pregnant wife (23) explaining fertility cycles to me and suggesting websites I could visit to find out about how to conceive.

sounds like you had agreat time Amanda, I luuurve a good wedding!
Did the cousin know you were thinking about ttc or is she just so excited about being pregnant that she talks about it to anyone of child bearing age?

Just excited I think but I was a bit taken aback at the time. I imagined she assumed that anyone of such an advanced age who had no DC must be utterly clueless and desperately in need of some pointers!

Weirdly it has had the effect of making DH more interested in the process as he had to find out if she was right

AC - that must have been really irritating! But maybe it's given ur DH a kick in the right direction!

I get asked all the time 'When you having another one' or 'got any plans for number 2', it really irritates me, like I'd tell people in RL about our plans to TTC!! I always just smile and say 'NO' and 'not yet' and 'one is enough'. Gets very tedious!

My DH has been very openly talking about me stopping my jabs & talking to me about 'the next one' and what stuff we should keep of Ds and what we can get rid of! This is a massive turn around for him. I think it has finally dawned on him that with my MS he can't keep putting it off for ever. I have to have 3 months off the jabs so he can't just decide at a drop of a hat that the time is right. It all takes a bit of planning & he is not a big planner!! All seems more real now he is starting to talk about it.

bebe great news re: mrbebe

I am just spotting now, and am awaiting hcg test results - hope it's 'normal' as I can then have a long awaited drink and maybe even a 'practice' ttc lol.

glad to hear it's only spotting hairy, hope the hcg result is OK. at pratice ttc!

That sounds really positive bebe about MrBebe! I'm on the folic acid now, will you be starting supplements when you finish your jabs or can you take them now?

Just coming to the end of AF, so one more and we can crack on with ttc.

Hairy - hope the hcg result is ok, fingers crossed!

Pip - taking multivits that have FA in them anyways coz I had low levels of FA & B12 a while back, so trying to keep levels up now & avoid having B12 injections again (they really hurt). When I stop the jabs I will go onto a prenatal vit, prob Sanatogen (sp?) then when actually get PG will switch to just FA. When I was pg last time I was so sick I couldn't eat at all & the pregnacare I was taking had to be taken with food! MW advised me to just take FA on its own as it is the most important. So this is what I shall do this time, although I am hoping that I won't be so sick 2nd time around!

Ooooh, tell me about it! I started feeling so nauseous at around 7 weeks that I couldn't eat and then started abeing sick about a week later. Couldn't keep much down, puked about 4 times a day and felt like I was going to vomit every waking minute. I lost about a stone (weighed less at 4 months than when I got my BFP) and it went on til about 14 weeks, then turned into awful indigestion for another 2 or 3 weeks, then went away.

All coupled with tiredness like I'd been hit by a juggernaut. remember having to have a lie down after having a shower as the effort of lifting my arms up to wash my hair was so great! Was signed off work for 3 weeks.

Really, really hoping I don't get it like that again. It's one of the reasons to wait til Aug actually, as even if I got pregnant right away DS would be in nursery in the mornings by the time it started.

I feel exactly the same, I could not deal with a toddler & feeling how I felt last time. Come Feb DD can be in preschool for the mornings at least.

Sounds like we were fairly similar with the sickness 1st time around. I started being sick from about 6 weeks with DD, and I couldn't keep anything down at all, not even water. If I moved I was sick, so spent about 6 weeks in bed pretty much all the time. I was still being sick about 3-4 times a day until 16 weeks, then started to improve & I finally went back to work at 20 weeks (1.5st lighter) but I was sick pretty much every day for the entire pregnancy. By 20 weeks though, the only way to stop feeling sick was to eat, so I ate all the time! Hence the massive amount I have ended up having to lose!