Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

AC, I have to agree re the pet, either get one a year or so before so you have time to settle it in or even better wait until the baby is here, then it wont get jeleous of the new arrival.

BTW I always liked Isabella for my first girl

Isabella's really lovely - but very popular at the moment.

There was a MN thread a while ago about having named your pet your favourite name and then not being able to use it for your DC! Don't do that, whatever you do!!

I can't imagine ever being at the POAS stage, it seems like a remote dream. I've been toying with the idea of coming off the pill, but it's still a bit too early really.

My grandmother was Isabel, so had my heart set on it for years, so much so that my DSIL was warned off the name for both her girls!!! Knowing my luck I will have boys, which isn't bad obviously, but doubt I could have a dog called isabella!?!

I love using 'family' names. My DD has my great-grandma's name for a middle name. My great-grandma is an amazing lady of 105!! Have found out recently that way back in our family tree there was also someone with my name who had a DD with my DD's name, how weird is that?! Not really very common names either!

Wow that is weird Bebe - how far in your family tree can you trace back?

My Grandad has done it, not sure how far back it goes but I think my mum said something about it being a couple of hundred years!! Really must talk to him about it I think it is fascinating!

Had my first injection this week & now crossing them off, 1 down 21 to go (I think)! TTC here I come!!!

I'll count with you! I have to admit I'm feeling really down about it today. Every month seems like a lifetime. It doesn't seem to make any difference how many things you cram in, it just goes on and on, seemingly never getting any closer. And that's just to try!

I know what you mean, it always seems soooooo long off. BUT we are already nearly 1/3 of the way through this year. I have only 5 months of treatment & then I can start peparing myself properly for TTc which I'm sure will make the time go quicker. I figure that by preparing myself in the 3months before TTC by looking after myself & charting properly I stand the best chance off getting PG quickly!

Funny, I think these first 4 months of the year have gone quite fast actually!
when are you going to ttc AC? was it sept or later? The end of the year's not that far away and, anyway you might get pregnant really quickly. I've been recording my periods on mymonthlycycles.com (but not temping...can't be arsed) and I've found it quite interesting...funny as I feel quite frisky round the time i think I'm probably ovulating!!

Isabel is a family name for us too! We can trace my mum's side back about 200 years and my dad's about the same.

July is the earliest we could possibly try but December is the realistic time and the time I've prepped poor DH for. And to be honest, I owe it to my baby after waiting this long to hold off just those few extra months to make sure (s)he has a good start in life. It just seems like the longest year of my life.

Where I want to be is in the position the girls in the TTC or not to TTC are in, where you could go for it any time. It felt right.

If it felt right.

i see you post on there too, are/were you dithering?

I won't know till I get there but I hope not.

I knew without a doubt that I wanted kids at some point, that I didn't want to be childless, but I never felt broody for a baby. I thought the time was right and it was a kind of "why not now" thing, although I also found the prospect quite daunting.
I got pregnant the 2nd month of trying and at first did feel a bit freaked out by the enormity of it all, and especially once the totally debilitating all day morning sickness began at 6 weeks!
I remeber reading all the pregnancy/childbirth books and it all seeming so unbelievable! My mum asked where I thought I'd like the baby to sleep during the day i.e in the pram downstairs or in the cot upstairs and I remember thinking "how on earth would I know?" I suppose the thing was that I KNEW I wanted kids, I just hadn't got as far as the broody stage, the wanting them desperately now thing.
Quite keen now for another though.

I'm waiting for my "why not now?" moment. What worries me is DH being so against it.

is he against babies per se or babies in the next year or so or worried about finances?

It's difficult to explain DH's attitude. If I raise it with him he either outright ignores me as though he didn't hear, or he mutters something non-committal like "not yet" and then ignores me.

Typical conversation we have just had:

me: the mums on mumsnet want to know when we're going to have a baby.

DH:

me: So what shall I tell them?

DH: what about?

Me: when are we going to have a baby?

DH:

me: so shall I just ignore them, like you ignore me?

DH: Ignore you? I don't ignore you.

Me: well you don't answer the question. When are we going to have a baby?

DH:

I figure that with or without planning babies never come exactly at the right time, you never have quite enough money or at the right point in your career, they seem (from observing family and friends rather than personal experience) to be early or late, but everyone seems to manage, so roll on the summer when we will see what happens

So long as you hubby isnt against the id AC then I wouldnt worry too much, it's going to be a massive shock to the system whenever it happens

idea not id!!!

hello ladies - I joined the old thread then didn't keep up so can I rejoin? We keep moving back ttc number 2 due to me and my career, but I've now signed on and no work in the pipeline, keep swinging between desperately wanting to have number 2 and worried that once I have 2 suddenly we can't afford for me to even work, but been broody for ages and honestly just want to be pregnant again,

Will try to catch up on at least the last few pages!

Yeah that's my theory - he doesn't say no, he just isn't enthusiastic. Seems fairly normal compared with most other DP, so I'm not worried!

Hi GirlWTMH I wasn't on the old thread, so I guess it's me who's new. It sounds like it might be a good time for you to go for it!

thanks amanda....sounds like your DH isn't against it all which is def a good sign!

We're now waiting until next month (having pushed it back from last august to beginning of this year to March) but now I've applied for another job which would mean waiting til end of this year....too long!!

I'm just desperate not to have a massive gap between DS and DC2

What would be a "massive" gap?