Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

gingerbaby in all honesty I don't know how we'll I'll approach it, that's something I can't really decide on. The original (before I joined MN) plan was to come off the pill at the beginning of December and start trying immediately. But having been exposed to the evil influence of the conception forum, I now can't decide what the best strategy is. My doctor said I should stay on the pill until I wanted to conceive, because you have a surge of fertility when you come off the pill. And some people say being too obsessive about the process is counterproductive.

But surely knowing when your fertile days are will help you conceive? It's a good job I've got another six or seven months to make my mind up!

Our reason for waiting is purely financial. I'm saving up so I can afford to take some maternity leave. And I have to say, saving up is horrible!

Cazzybaby I know it seems like an age but September is not a long time at all. Welcome to the thread!

Oh dear, I've just been trawling through conception and like you Amanda am even more unsure! I almost want to buy a Clearblue Fertility Monitor even though we're not going to start TTC for ages. I also haven't had a period yet (TMI??) and am worried I may have to stop breastfeeding to have one. I'm getting obsessed about waiting to TTC, this is a bad sign.

Lol. Whatever you do, DO NOT read any of the other Conception Forum threads! They will make you paranoid.

Obviously the best strategy is to assume you could get pregnant on the first try and bear in mind the fact that no amount of previous months TTC has any bearing whatsoever on whether you will conceive in any particular month. I say obviously but I've seen plenty of posts from people who started early thinking it would take a few months and ended up conceiving at a really inconvenient time!

You should also assume, however, that you will take between six and twelve cycles to conceive and remember these do not have to be consecutive cycles.

If I wasn't fixated on my DC being one of the older ones in the academic year, I'd probably try the coming-off-the-pill-and-trying-immediately strategy my doctor favours, but I really don't want a summer baby - and if I take that chance I might not start ovulating on a normal cycle for a couple of months. I'm thinking that the throw-everything-you-can-at-it-except-that strategy is better, i.e come off the pill in September, chart for three months, have accupuncture, take supplements, etc. probably has a slight edge.

Ginger - I stopped bf with DD when she was about 14 weeks (wanted to do it longer but had problems with DD's weight) I didn't have a period until she was 7months old!! Not sure why it took that long?!?!

I get too sucked in looking at other threads in conception so I now avoid them like the plague!

Check out www.fertilityfriend.com (has been mentioned here before. You can monitor your cycle on there and just dip in and out of the things you do/use. I'm just logging cycle (AF & and CM sigins) gives me an idea of when my fertile days are. Will generally just aim for mid cycle, plentiful 'baby dancing' & see how I get on! (It worked last time!) [fingers crossed emoticon]

Any nice plans for the weekend ladies? DH and I are going clubbing, which is not a good prospect as I have a client meeting in the morning, so I'll just have to hang around watching DH get drunk till 4am. Bother.

Going to my mum's on Sunday for lunch as my sister's up from London. Just two and a half months to go till her wedding so we'll all be stupidly giddy!

Not got anything exciting planned at all. The new tennant is going to view the flat tomorrow morning & I need to go buy some new trousers! Oh the thrilling life I lead!!

dp is working tomorrow morning then were going to meet his dad for a fry up and take dd2 to get some new wellies and watch the F1

New tenant? Have you sorted out someone already?

Yes, fingers crossed anyway! It's someone who is going to come work for my DH, and he is a builder so is going to do all the work needed on the property! Hoping it all works out! One more thing to cross off the TTC con list!

Hello! Can I join? My husband and I are starting to talk about TTC, but aren't in a financial position to do it quite yet. We're both 30, and have no children yet. Big decision but I'm starting to chafe at the bit! I'm really hoping that we'll start TTC before the end of this year. Will have to see how things pan out for a bit though...

Morning all! Well the club was great fun - although I was falling asleep on the sofa in the bar area by half two and dragged DH home at quarter past three. I'm so tired. We had a good chat about TTC this morning and it seems we are back on the same page. We were discussing the prospect of childbirth, which utterly petrifies us both. DH was stunned by my encyclopaedic knowledge of the subject!

Silvertulip of course, good to have another member of the club! You are very welcome. You sound like you're in a similar situation to me and my DH. Except perhaps with a slightly less anxious DH!

Bebe that's really good news. Isn't it easy to panic! I'm really pleased things could be back on track.

Iwantanother enjoy your fry up and F1!

Welcome aboard silvertulip!

AC - glad you had a good time! Don't think I could do that anymore. DD was awake at 6 & I am proper grumpy, I definately need my sleep!Glad your DH is back on the same wavelength!

I was terrified about childbirth & spent all of my pregnancy in complete denial that DD had to come out. When it came to it it was bad (I won't lie) but actually it wasn't as bad as I had thought it woulod be! TBH I was hot & huge & uncomfortable by my due date & DD was 9 days late & I was just relieved to not be pregnant anymore!! It is completely 100% true that once the baby is born you don't feel pain anymore & don't really notice anything else going on apart from your baby! Quite nice really!!

Amanda, mine is a little anxious too! I think it's mainly because I seem to have come round to the idea quite suddenly, so have slightly thrown him off base... but I think he is getting his head round it.

I am pretty terrified of childbirth as well - I think my DH would be quite fascinated by the whole thing though!! He's not as squeamish as I am...

Well I just woke up after a whole day sleeping, after a night out boozing so I guess I've done my quota of "things I won't be able to do once baby comes" this month! Got to make these last months before motherhood (hopefully) count for something. Am planning a day at Alton Towers to ride all their stupidest white knuckle rides this summer - another TIWBATDOBC!

It doesn't matter how much people seek to reassure you about childbirth, it's still the most terrifying thing. But if I don't face it, DH and I will never have a wonderful little DC in our lives. I've watched so many videos (field research don't you know) and read so many accounts and I just can't get my head round it. I read something which compared the pain to the pain of losing a limb on a medieval battlefield!

what ever you do dont watch fims about childbirth they are so scarey the real thing isnt as bad belive me my dd2 was 10lb 6oz i had a natral birth with gas and air and i came out in 1 piece

Hi all! I've taken advice and haven't read the conception forum for a day or so. I did however look on Ebay for how much fertility monitors cost

I've got to the point now where I'm desperate for a night out away from DS and DH, just to get pissed with my friends so I'm beginning to get nervous of TTC again. It'll just mean another year and a half of sobriety! I'm not a raging alcoholic or anything but I would like to feel young and irresponsible just once! Maybe I'll just go to town with the sherry at Christmas when there will be babysitters on tap.

I can never get the strike out to work. Oh well!

Ginger - you need to -- either side of each word! I miss being able to drink too. Plus DH doesn't drive so if we do go out I'm always the sober one! Most of my really good girly friends live a long way away so never get to have time out! Feel old before my time! I keep dithering about whether or not to get some of those cheap OV predictor sticks off ebay. Just feel that it might be a bit obsesive of me at this stage! But am very tempted!!

Having a rubbish weekend. Didn't go out yesterday as DH wanted to go to flat with his dad and the current tenants have trashed the place! Plus DD is a bit Cabin feverish from being home all week & is pushing boundaries (She is 19months & already starting to show signs of 'terrible twos') it is exhausting!!

Do you have to put the '-' signs round every word -like- -this- rather than before and after a whole phrase -like this-?

No apparently not! Does anyone know?!

Oh hang on it's two hyphens... like this

Bebe for some reason that last message of yours didn't display for me until just now. Sorry to hear that your weekend wasn't much fun. Hopefully Easter weekend will be better. Are you going to start charting now for December, or are you thinking you might bring it forward now? Don't you think it might make you feel like you've been TTC forever once you finally get down to it? I'm trying to enjoy the freedom of not TTC while it lasts.

Have had a letter from hospital saying I need to start medication now! Was really hoping I was going to get away with it!

AC - I'm just keeping track of cycle atm. It is going to be essential now with medication as one of it's known side effects is irregular periods which they like you to be aware of.

Having a really crap day again, got another cold & our current tenants are trying to pull a fast one & I am literally shaking with rage. Just had a anxiety attack & feel like crap.