Waiting to TTC part 2!

[bebejones]

Shiney new thread before we drop off the end of the last one!

Just found out that my friend who has a DD just a couple of months older than my DD is expecting number 2! She is 14 weeks. Feeling very low about it, she is my closest friend (location wise) and our DD's play together often. She always said she didnt want another til her DD was at school.

Just feel like there are so many obstacles in my way & that it is never going to happen!

iv just found out my little sis is pg my older sis is pg with her 2nd her oldest is 6 mos younger than my youngest and my aunt is pg and everyone on tv is too

i watch OBEM and think cant wait to do it again till they say about the ring of fire then it brings a tear to my remebering it

It's too soon to despair though Bebe - couldn't things resolve themselves by December? You might get new tenants before you know it.

Yes everyone seems to be either pregnant or has just had babies. Two sisters at once is a bit of a pill to swallow - however: Congratulations on more nieces and nephews!

I'm fairly safe with my sister at the moment as she's getting married in June and I doubt they've got any babies planned till then. After June though I don't know. I want to be first!

Hi there,

I'm new to the site but I thought that I would add to this thread.

My other half and I are getting married in July and I have promised him that I wouldn't get pregnant till after then, have just shifted onto the pill after the three monthly injection and it's causing my hormones to go wild!!!

I was broody before, but now I keep having the thought that if I didn't take my pill he wouldn't really know for a while and I wouldn't show much in my wedding dress!Of course I won't go behind his back but it is hard work!!!

How long might it take for the pill to wear off after I stop taking it? I guess it might take up to a year, but I would love the idea of a honeymoon baby

Good luck everyone else,

b

Welcome BabsH, don't risk spending your wedding day puking! It's so close - and a honeymoon baby would be lovely. My doctor told me women have a surge of fertility when they come off the pill, so you could fall straight away - you just might have problems accurately working out your due date I think if you don't know your cycle.

My plan (I think!) is to start using condoms from October for a couple of months before I start TTC. Assuming I don't cave before then of course lol.

Thanks for your reply, my OH G knows all about the demons, but we have waited a couple of years to get married so a couple of months shouldnt kill too much, I hope!!!

It's so exciting to start thinking about the probability though, will just have to be a bit of a bridezilla to distract me in the meantime!!!

Good luck with the waiting Amanda!

Hi BabsH - I was just PG on my wedding day, and although it was lovely to be PG I kind of wish we had waited. No one knew (too early) and I couldn't eat the pate starter we had picked or drink any of the copious amounts of champagne or the drinks that people had bought me!! Plus by the end of the day I was so so tired (and it wasn't that long really coz we didn't get married til 2) & I spent alot of the day panicking because I was wearing a very very tight corset! Hope you manage to hold on a couple of months longer & Good Luck with the wedding planning! We are here if you need an 'outlet' for you broodiness!

Amanda - I know it's not completely out of the window, but it is more for DH's side of the argument! Fingers crossed we get it sorted soon!

It might be a good idea for us to stack up a list between us of the arguments for!

Mine are:

1. I want two children before I'm 40 - preferably long before I'm 40 as I already have half the energy I had in my twenties and I'll be doing 99% of the work.

2. Younger mums have fewer health risks for mum and baby.

3. Unless circumstances change, by December our financial situation will be at least adequate.

4. If we leave it longer, we won't be get as much practical help from our parents, who are already in their sixties.

5. It's a reasonable time to take a career break and to go part time.

6. I've got the urge and my confidence is high.

7. Several of our friends are doing it, so we wouldn't be socially isolated.

8. Not to mention one would hope it would cure this mental illness broodiness!

Any more you can add girls?

For me

• I don't want DD to be an only child as I hated being an only child growing up.

• I would like there to be only a small age gap between DD & the next one

• The longer I leave it potentially the worse my health will be

• I can't see our finances getting any worse in the next 18months & I think we would be ok (Maybe wishful thinking!)

• I think that I could cope with 2 now, I am mentally ready & as healthy as I can be

• I can have treatment straight after birth to try avoid getting ill like last time! (Major pro as that was DH's argument that he couldn't cope if I was ill again, but now I know I could have medication straight after the birth if I didn't BF)

Reasons for..? For doing it now or for waiting? Or for having a (subsequent) baby?

Mine are just reasons for having another baby asap! To go with DH's 'reasons for not having another baby' list

Thought so. Having a loong day at work...brain not in gear.

My reasons for having another

Because I'd always wanted 2 (or even 3...but think now I'd stop at 2)

coming up to the age we said we'd start trying again

Money is more or less under control now

DS can go to nursery in the mornings from Sept so I'll have some time to myself either to work or lie around feeling shite in the early stages of pregnancy.

i turn 35 in June and always wanted to try and at least get pregnant in my 35th year...declining fertility and all that (altho actually I'm not too worried about that really)

I reckon if nothing else comes up to set us back we'll stop using contraception in the summer, so I reckon about another 4 cycles. Was saying to a friend the other day I don't really want to do it any sooner than that cos despite the broodiness the idea of having another baby by the end of this year is a bit alarming!!

Oh I forgot to add risk of declining fertility to the list. I'm somehow managing to stay off the other threads in the Conception forum, as I know they only panic me (hopefully) unnecessarily - but some of the titles look intriguing ha ha. Must resist!

when do you start taking folic acid and what other vits do you need to take before you ttc

I take folic acid now, even though it's nine months off still. I read somewhere that it could make a small difference as much as twelve months before. No doubt whoever wrote that was probably trying to flog it! Anyway you never know when you're resolve might break!

when i was pg with dd2 i had to stop taking it because it made me sick so i thought but i ended up having really bad MS all the way through

Iwantanother1 - I had to stop taking pregnacare with DD(didn't like it anyways) but coz you have to have it with food it was impossible for me I didn't keep anything down for near enough 4months, MW told me that the only important one is folic acid unless you have a severely restricted diet.

I take a multivit at the moment that has folic acid in but will prob switch to a pre PG vitamin about 3months before TTC as Vit A is not recommended if you're PG.

God aren't these months so long! Constantly just waiting to get paid - and then putting the whole lot in the bank and then on to the next endless month of saving. I'm starting to think I'd be better off getting a guinea pig instead of having a baby.

Hi all! Just wanted to join your thread and have a nosy at all the other waiting to TTCers! I have a 7month old DS and have twisted DH's to start trying for number two in December. I would like to try a little bit earlier but don't want another summer baby (due to school year disadvantage).

My big 'thing' is not knowing what the best age gap would be? I have friends (not close) with tiny age gaps (less than 18 months) who seemed to have had a hell of a time and I don't think I'd cope but I don't know if it'd be worth it in the long run? In terms of going through life stages at the same time? As they're not close friends I don't know if they'd be completely comfortable with giving me the gory details of how difficult it was, enough to put me off anyway!

Wow, this is a long intoductory post!

Well anyway, hi!

that was meant to say 'twisted Dh's arm'...

Welcome gingerbaby. There's quite a few of us waiting to TTC from December so you are in good company. I guess you can't have any idea what age gap you could cope with till you've got at least one, so I can't really help! My sister and I have two years and nine months between us in age and we always got on brilliantly. I don't think I'd want a bigger gap than that.

Welcome Gingerbaby! I'm waiting til Dec too! I have a DD who is 19months. So if all goes well she will be just over 3 when potential DC2 arrives! I wanted another one sooner but things have been throwing spanners in the works from all angles! Initially we were planning on TTC Dec/Jan just gone, that got put off til May/June but that has been put off again! So just sitting here crossing off the months weeks days!

Hi Amanda and bebe. It's so difficult to find the right time isn't it? DS was a surprise baby so we weren't in a great situation to start with but I keep obsessing about the age gap and the thought of returning to the baby years after I get used to having sleep again fills me with dread! (DS wakes every 2 hours on a good night!)

When you start TTC are you going to go all guns blazing? Fertility charts etc? I don't really know much about it but I am very impatient so don't know how well I'd cope doing the 'wait and see' approach

What are your reasons for waiting? Nosy sorry!

our dds are 4 yrs apart and we were going to wait till dd2 was about 7 to have another but didnt relise that we both wanted one now till we had a mc about 2 weeks ago we didnt know i was pg. so we have decided that when i have been off the pill 6 months that when we will ttc. we are thinking of waiting till oct/nov to ttc now as if i fall 1st time like i have with dds it will be due the same time as dds bdays as there bdays are 4 weeks apart it will be hard to save money for presents.

Can i join?? I have been desperatly broody since Aug last year when i had a mc. DP has agreed we can start trying in Sep, which seeems so so so long to wait! I have a DD already but she is not DPs although we have been together since she was 8 months old,she was 2 in Jan!

DP wants us to wait, as my DD has CP and I think he is worried that having another baby will mean i wont be able to give DD 100% as I do not. However I think that a little brother or sister would be great for DD, and do not want the age gap to be too big!